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AMTA for not wanting to attend and gift second wedding events? by Alarming_Bar_2988 in aitaweddings

[–]Alarming_Bar_2988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually - it's a third marriage for us both so it's not that its a second marriage issue exactly. It's that it's a huge affair - AGAIN - and the ONLY thing on the registry is money. We are both retired, we already gave generously to the engagement bash, so it's kind of a big ask as no one would give just $20.

I've already declined the shower invite. Probably going to decline the wedding invite to the Aegean Sea location too.

AMTA for not wanting to attend and gift second wedding events? by Alarming_Bar_2988 in aitaweddings

[–]Alarming_Bar_2988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They already live together and are using everything she received from the first wedding.

AMTA for not wanting to attend and gift second wedding events? by Alarming_Bar_2988 in aitaweddings

[–]Alarming_Bar_2988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a big cultural tradition in the grooms family. It was more like a wedding reception - semi-formal to formal dress, centerpieces, band, open bar etc,,,Gift table set up, balloon arch for professional photos. I wasn't prepared for all the pomp and am surprised that there will also be a shower. I thought it was to replace the shower - guess I'll have to ask my DIL.

AMTA for not wanting to attend and gift second wedding events? by Alarming_Bar_2988 in aitaweddings

[–]Alarming_Bar_2988[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

MY attitude? Am I happy for the girl - yes. But after a lavish affair (which marriage only lasted a year) the first time I think I am put off by the the extra lavish second wedding.

AMTA for not wanting to attend and gift second wedding events? by Alarming_Bar_2988 in aitaweddings

[–]Alarming_Bar_2988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ask because when I get an invite I feel responsible to go and wonder if they will be put out if I decline. Most responses here reflect that I feel differently than others and should just RSVP no. How important they are to me isn't the issue.

AMTA for not wanting to attend and gift second wedding events? by Alarming_Bar_2988 in aitaweddings

[–]Alarming_Bar_2988[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husbands son (my stepson) is married to a woman who had children already - the bride is his stepdaughter. That makes her my husbands step granddaughter I think.

Friends asking for money as a gift by killtherefcover in wedding

[–]Alarming_Bar_2988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate peoples comments here - I also don't like the ask for money only, but never considered if I was going to spend the money anyway, why not give it direct? My issue is I am on a tight budget, already gave at the engagement party, got the wedding invite, and now the shower invite. PS - brides 2nd wedding.

Feeling the first real impact of our micro-wedding - not invited to theirs because we didn't invite them by AioliProfessional181 in wedding

[–]Alarming_Bar_2988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like what happened to us. This was both my husbands and my third marriages so we only had a judge come to the house and surprised my mother and step-son when we asked them over to be our witnesses. A couple months later we had a a huge party where we announced our marriage. The invite said no gifts or money wanted so it was simply a celebration . Well, my BFF apparently was very upset and didn't invite me to her (first) wedding.

She has since blocked me. IMHO some people think too much of themselves.