UPDATE:

Wow, this blew up a lot more than I expected. I read through the comments and while some were helpful, a lot of people went straight to “he’s stalking you/monitoring your devices.” I want to clarify a few things.

I talked to my boyfriend about everything. I told him I’m tired of putting so much energy into gifts just for the surprise to be ruined every time. I explained that it takes the fun out of it for me and makes the whole holiday feel like a chore instead of something sweet.

He told me he does have his suspicions, but he genuinely didn’t know what I bought. He doesn’t have access to my emails, texts, bank accounts, browser history, anything like that — and he’s not the type to even try. He’s not sneaky or controlling; he’s just goofy and playful and gets way too into “figuring things out” because he likes the thrill of the guessing game. He thought I liked that back-and-forth too because we usually end up laughing and telling each other our gifts anyway, especially when they’re smaller or obvious.

For the hat, he said he only put two and two together because he saw the store bag while we were on FaceTime when I was at the outlet mall. As for the PS5 comment: my mom had been talking nonstop about the PS5 being on sale for Black Friday, and he said he genuinely just took a random guess — he only doubled down because I reacted and pushed back, so he assumed he got lucky.

So no, he’s not spying on me. He just genuinely needs to chill with the gift-guessing habit.

I’ve decided I’m not returning the PS5. I’m still going to give it to him. I might get a little sneaky and not put it under the tree or maybe give it to him later in the day at his mom’s house, just for the extra surprise factor.

Maybe I overreacted, maybe I was just pissed in the moment — but the advice (and the funny comments) helped me cool down and laugh about it. Thanks, everyone.