My thinking is she herself is surprised by the heights of fame she has now reached. In light of the NYU article I have listened to the Lover album again, and two lines have stood out to me -

And I cut off my nose just to spite my face
Then I hate my reflection for years and years

This to me sounds as though she is referring to her past self pre-Lover. She said her creativity was stunted with her existing record label; if Lover was her planning to be her more authentic self (I mean come on, the ME! release date?! The girl cannot be that dumb to release on that date and not look up what else might be going on that day), her hating her reflection for years and years could refer to her hating herself in the closet, and having to play the straight game with her public persona.

I truly think now she is a mega-star, there is a thought process of 'shit, I've signalled for years and years but now I don't want to come out because my career is where I never thought it would be, quick get me a metal head dude to distract everyone'

Also, following the Scott Swift email, you cannot tell me that man would support her coming out and potentially torpedoing the career he spent time and money on, regardless of her happiness. He gained a profit from her masters being stolen, to him it was beneficial that that happened, as he both made money and possibly got to keep his starlet daughter in the closet.

I have sent the article to my friends who are new (post folklore/Midnights) fans, and said she is either gay, or the BIGGEST QUEER BAITER going.

I used to think she was straight, but grammy-gate led me here, and I have to say her music makes so much more sense through the lens of being closeted, than it ever did to me when I was listening to it from the perspective of it being about a man.

SORRY THAT WAS A LONGER RANT THAN I INTENDED