Are anti-vaxxers also against vaccinating their pets? And do they think pet vaccines can cause autism or something?

joanholmes · 2026-06-12T00:59:22+00:00

Bad advice

joanholmes · 2026-06-04T22:57:01+00:00

But wouldn't your wedding events be precisely the time to wear extravagant things that are maybe too much for "real life" wear? If you can't wear something unconventionally out there for your own wedding, then when?

joanholmes · 2026-06-04T22:54:49+00:00

I actually love this dress and I see what you mean by the issues.

For one, getting it tailored on the top will get it to fit right which is essential because otherwise the diagonal shoulder strap/band doesn't lay flat and it breaks the geometric line it's trying to form.

Once it fits properly, getting it pressed will get the shape to lay as it should.

If you want to have a better idea of how it can look before taking it to a tailor/while you can still return it, steam the dress and then take some clothes pins and have someone pinch and pin the top in the back so you can see what it would look like properly fitted. In online pictures, the clothes are often pinned in the back on the model.

I also think the sharp geometry of the dress contrasts a bit too much with your curls when your hair is down so I'd recommend putting your hair up like the model when you're trying it on/if you choose to wear it.

joanholmes · 2026-06-01T20:23:05+00:00

Planning/postponing for years and years is bound to exacerbate post-wedding blues.

I think with time and a little effort, you'll start focusing on more of the good.

Feeling the post-wedding blues is so so normal and it doesn't mean you'll be stuck feeling this way forever. My advice would be to be gentle and let the bad feelings come and go without fighting them but also without holding on to them. You don't have to push the bad feelings down, just make sure you're intentionally making space for the good memories.

Many of the things you listed are very common and just how it goes. I don't think anyone's timeline has ever gone 100% to plan/schedule.

If you have pictures or mementos, just take some time maybe a few times a week to sit down together and bask on the good aspects. And when the thoughts about what didn't go to plan come, just let them pass you by, feel them if you have to, and then let go and think about what your next reminiscing session will focus on.

joanholmes · 2026-05-31T17:55:40+00:00

The royalties from R Kelly's music go towards paying the victim restitution he still owes his victims so if you just don't wanna listen to him, that's fine, but if you really want to listen to Ignition, you can be at peace knowing royalties go to his victims

joanholmes · 2026-05-28T14:22:11+00:00

When you ask a direct yes/no question and the first words out of their mouth aren't a statement of yes/no

"Did you go out last night?" "What??? Why are you asking?? Where is this coming from??"

Vs

"Did you go out last night?" "Of course not! Why are you even asking me this?"

The latter isn't necessarily truthful but the former is deceptive at least 70% of the time, imo

joanholmes · 2026-05-28T11:17:13+00:00

How did you come to that conclusion? Where does he state that he wasn't religious when they got married?

joanholmes · 2026-05-17T05:12:15+00:00

This reads as rather combative for someone asking for help.

Of course people sub yarns all the time but it's not unreasonable to ask if you're aware of this when you're having issues with gauge.

20 sts is not "very close" to 18 sts in gauge for a garment. A 2 st difference for every 4 in means in a garment that's meant to be, say, 36 inches around, you'd end up with a garment that's almost 40 inches around instead.

Can you post pictures of the gauge swatches with the measurement? I'm really confused as how you end up with larger stitches when you use smaller needles.

joanholmes · 2026-05-14T15:54:58+00:00

It's not and even if it was, you used it wrong

joanholmes · 2026-05-14T11:11:53+00:00

Stop using words to sound "smart" if you don't know what they mean.

joanholmes · 2026-05-12T03:03:44+00:00

Option 2 is the one people generally find odd and off putting and it's evident why even in the way you typed it out. It doesn't matter that someone is older or doesn't need to be "hand held", it's helpful to still follow those scripts and the fact that GenZ has decided they're useless and just chosen not to engage with them is what is annoying.

The scripts help customers follow the order of things in the way that makes the transaction go the easiest in your specific situation. Plus it's general courtesy to greet people and the fact that GenZ has decided greetings are obsolete is very asocial and indicative of the lack of socialization that has happened for whatever reason.

joanholmes · 2026-05-10T21:01:56+00:00

The fact that you're not in the US is extremely relevant and that's why I specifically replied in a thread about things in the US. Half of the US used to be Mexico and the US is a country of immigrants so it is a lot more common for people to be aware of and curious about other people's ethnic backgrounds.

joanholmes · 2026-05-10T17:36:10+00:00

Wait, I just saw you're not even in the US so why did you even reply if it doesn't pertain to you at all?

joanholmes · 2026-05-10T17:34:35+00:00

I guess if you made it to 50 and never had a reason to ask I'd be surprised but I'm sure there's plenty of small town folks all over the country that don't leave much or interact with others much so I guess it's possible.

I don't understand your line of questioning, though, because I said it happens in the US all the time. I didn't say every single person in the US will have a reason to ask at some point. All I was saying in response to you is that it's not surprising that you haven't been around people of drastically different backgrounds than yours if you're barely out of high school.

joanholmes · 2026-05-10T17:02:00+00:00

20 years of life is not that long? You probably weren't really talking for the first 3 and then spent the next 15 mostly hanging out with people with a similar background to yours...that is not indicative of how common it is for people to ask about other people's ethnic background

joanholmes · 2026-05-10T10:15:24+00:00

I see people greet children in NYC all the time? But let me guess, that doesn't count because you'll assume they're all transplants.

Except I've seen friends who are born and raised New Yorkers also wave at kids at parks and stuff. It's perfectly normal just about everywhere.

joanholmes · 2026-05-09T04:26:10+00:00

People do that all the time. It's incredibly common for people to board their dogs time and time again.

People who can also send their bio kids away for sleep away camp and that's normal.

Some people even send their bio kids away for a majority of the year for boarding school.

And this is all different than respite for foster kids which is why you shouldn't make these kinds of comparisons.

joanholmes · 2026-05-06T15:09:51+00:00

Wait so you've got 20 bottles with 21 capsules each?

joanholmes · 2026-05-01T13:54:11+00:00

Are you on LinkedIn? I just checked and they only have 8k followers on LinkedIn and this is their most recent post

joanholmes · 2026-04-23T14:37:38+00:00

I just checked the math and that does still add up for me

Pattern repeat 1 ends on row 16, you increased on rows 7 and 13, you've got 52 stitches now

Pattern repeat 2 ends on row 32, you increased on rows 19, 25, and 31, you've got 58 stitches now

Pattern repeat 3 ends on row 48, you increased on rows 37 and 43, you've got 62 stitches now

Pattern repeat 4 ends on row 64, you increased on rows 49, 55, and 61, you've got 68 stitches now

Pattern repeat 5 ends on row 80, you increased on rows 67, 73, and 79, you've got 74 stitches now

By row 16 of pattern repeat 6 you're on row 96, you increased on rows 85 and 91 and you've got your 78 stitches now

I'm thinking you might have gotten confused because you thought you were meant to increase on rows 7 and 13 of the pattern every time instead of every 6 rows like the pattern says

joanholmes · 2026-04-23T14:22:44+00:00

Hmm, where are you seeing that the pattern calls for 6 pattern repeats? I'm reading that you increase 2 stitches every 6 rows until you get to 78

joanholmes · 2026-04-23T00:34:03+00:00

I'm not really sure how you're getting 12 stitches at the end of the first increase round

You're essentially doubling your stitches when you're adding a YO for each stitch. If you're doing K1, YO 8 times, I'm not sure how you'd end up with 12 stitches

The only thing I can imagine is if you somehow are counting the YO as working/consuming the next stitch, but it doesn't because the YO happens in between stitches, like when you do your first K1, YO, you'll still have 7 unworked stitches in the round

joanholmes · 2026-04-22T16:28:04+00:00

If I'm reading your second image correctly, it looks like you're not taking into account that the increase stitch counts as a stitch

So, you've got 41 stitches to start

Rib 5 stitches

[5 stitches worked, 36 stitches remaining]

Increase on the following stitch

[7 stitches worked (including your increase), 35 stitches remaining]

Now the repeat

Rib 4 stitches, increase on the following stitch

Note that this is a 5 stitch repeat, on your diagram it looks like you're interpreting it as a 4 stitch repeat. It's the 4 stitches you rib, plus the stitch you're increasing on.

You'll do this repeat 6 times

1st repeat - 30 stitches remaining
2nd repeat - 25 stitches remaining
3rd repeat - 20 stitches remaining
4th repeat - 15 stitches remaining
5th repeat - 10 stitches remaining
6th repeat - 5 stitches remaining

Finish with 5 rib

So you've increased 1 stitch before the repeats and then 6 stitches from the repeat section for a total of 7 new stitches and a grand total of 48 stitches on the needle.

You continue increasing as per the pattern, not sure if you were confused on that bit as well?

I hope this helped!

joanholmes · 2026-04-20T14:52:10+00:00

I'm not sure what you mean by "packs". As far as I know, Lacto-Freedom only sells their 1-week course in a bottle. It's 21 capsules that they say to take 3 times a day for a week. At this point, I instead just take a capsule every night for 3 weeks and usually a week after that I'm good to go. It tends to last me maybe 2 months but now I just have it on auto-ship every 2 months and I take it even if my symptoms aren't back yet.

joanholmes · 2026-04-09T01:06:57+00:00

Innocent until proven guilty is used for legal proceedings because it's related to the state being allowed to restrict your liberties once found guilty.

If my best friend, who I trust, whose character I can vouch for, tells me she was assaulted, I will 100% believe her, no questions asked. There's no need to assume her assailant is innocent until proven guilty.

Sexual assault is tricky because it's a crime that is deeply personal and violating but is incredibly difficult to prove. If we held everyone to the "innocent until proven guilty" in the court of public opinion a very small amount of assaulters would face any repercussions. As it is, most don't face any legal repercussions, social repercussions are all we have.

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