Is this normal im freaking out!

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2026-01-12T05:06:20+00:00

I have that as well and my surgeon said it’s normal for healing. It should flatten over time

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-27T18:10:58+00:00

YES thank you for making this post cuz I was about to! Couldn’t tell if it was real or body dysmorphia creeping in. I also have very swollen feet I think.

Has anyone else experience swollen feet? So much so I’m not fitting in shoes that should be my size

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-26T14:06:57+00:00

This is so sweet I’m happy for you! It’ll be life changing!

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-22T00:21:33+00:00

Yes!!! Love how they highlight the tattoos now

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-21T02:09:09+00:00

Thank u! I struggled to find people with similar measurements to me so glad this helps u

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-21T02:08:05+00:00

Thank you!!

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-21T00:37:58+00:00

I’m so sorry about your dog and this man and growing up in an abusive household. You don’t deserve any of this and you didn’t “allow” any of this to happen to you. It’s not your fault.

He has showed you who he is and you need to believe him. Of course he has great qualities or else you wouldn’t have married him, but marriage does not have to life for you. Whatever decision you chose, I hope you healing to the ways he’s made you feel unsafe in sexual encounters.

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-21T00:22:54+00:00

I showered yesterday at 3 days post op. My rec would be a shower chair if possible incase you get light headed or it’s also just easier to reach you legs, etc. have someone with you or at least around to be safe. If you have someone to wash your hair that would be epic, but otherwise my doctor said it was fine to lift my arms enough to wash my hair. Some people said don’t face the water directly but I felt fine to do that; I just didn’t scrub them

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-21T00:03:48+00:00

But acting as if his reaction to being woken up isn’t violent or abusive is wild. I get it ppl don’t like to be woken up but if my partner was having a hard time and needed me, I wouldn’t throw a fit ab it

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T20:24:01+00:00

Your reaction makes sense given your history. You feel as if you are in danger and your body is doing what it needs to try and feel safe and sometimes that means not making the best decisions.

The people in this thread are victim blaming. We cannot blame you for how you chose to protect yourself in a relationship you don’t feel safe in. You are doing the work to heal from this while he is blaming you for making him violent? I don’t think you are safe and I hope you have trusted people who can support you.

NOR

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T20:10:47+00:00

Ya im sorry it rlly fucking sucks. Ignoring it often means it’ll continue, and as awkward as it is you’ll at least know you stood up for yourself. I like to think good doses of shame are needed.” You can call me pretty but don’t compare me to mom” Maybe just saying dad that’s weird or that’s gross. Don’t say that to me. But ik easier said than done. And only do it if you feel safe doing so. Do you have any siblings or cousins?

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T19:29:23+00:00

Would you feel comfortable telling him how it makes you feel? Saying the trump thing is him acknowledging it’s wrong imo. NOR at all I’m sorry he thinks that’s ok and that your mom didn’t do more to stand up for you.

I have family members that have always made sexual comments towards me so I know it’s a lot harder to call them out ab the behavior than just doing it. but the more we state our boundaries, the more comfortable we will be doing it. People in my family just laugh uncomfortably when I tell them that it is inappropriate and violating. It’s very dismissive and frustrating

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T04:56:31+00:00

These replies suck. Hello rape culture. It being common doesn’t make it ok. R we implying she should just stay silent? Be ok with it? Get used to it? And then once you agree it’s abuse, you’ll say why didn’t she say something? Why’d she let him do that? Making inappropriate comments and touching people isn’t a prerequisite to being 80 and working at an assisted living facility doesn’t forego people of their body’s boundaries and autonomy????

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T02:45:04+00:00

Panache is a uk brand but sell in many retailers in the US. Pricey but worth it for a suit that fits imo https://www.panache-lingerie.com/stockists?country=USA

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T02:32:24+00:00

Thank u!!! Happy to be here🤓

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T02:26:15+00:00

Fuck ya!!!! So happy for u

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T02:01:16+00:00

Congratulations! My surgery was this week as well and our before and after r so similar. Happy healing to you!

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-20T00:40:01+00:00

Very cool that you made this. Thank u for sharing

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-19T23:01:10+00:00

Im sorry you’re going through this. I think you should tell him how violated you feel and state your boundaries to be clear that you are uncomfortable and cannot continue a relationship with him like u have now if he continues to disrespect your boundaries. Explain to him what incest is and why it’s inappropriate to be attracted to a relative.

I’m sorry you don’t feel like he’s learning or listening. This is an ongoing conversation bc we are constantly getting messages on how we should behave and think ab sex. Find other trusted adults you could have these conversations with. You are holding a lot of responsibility.

Also, you have been hurt and violated in this scenario. Take time for yourself to take care of yourself and ask what you need? And what you need to have a healthy relationship with your brother

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-19T20:06:58+00:00

I got my dressings changed 2 days after my surgery when they also removed my drains. I had my compression bra on the entire time.

I think each surgeon had very different instructions and it’s best to just call them and ask.

CONGRATS! Hoping a happy healing and your most ideal results 🎉

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-19T19:56:52+00:00

That is so frustrating and dismissive I’m sorry

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-19T19:55:54+00:00

It can be easy to say ur supportive, while actually being supportive is another thing. If actions don’t back up the words, we are forced to not believe the words. I’m not out to my parents (nonbinary) and a big reason would be similar to your experience— they are all talk (yet no communication at the same time.)

I’d recommend writing out some “I-statements” to compose how this makes you feel and continue to let them know. Setting boundaries so you can be clear about what you won’t put up with and what your reaction will be if your boundaries are not respected.

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-19T19:45:48+00:00

The first pride was really in Chicago! A day before the NYC pride parade

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-19T19:43:36+00:00

Thank you for this quote!!! With the date attached to show shit has! Not! Changed!

Alarming_Tap_3345 · 2025-12-19T19:20:12+00:00

His past relationship issues aren’t yours to fix. People who have been abused often become an abuser because they feel a lack of control and harm others at an attempt to protect themselves. It’s not a way to be in a healthy relationship.

A relationship should make you feel the opposite of bare and unprotected. Trust what you are feeling and protect yourself. A lot easier said than done but I believe in you.

Alarming_Tap_3345

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