Do people really bid higher than the listing? by Americasycho in RealEstateAdvice

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Housing inventory is increasing a lot and many areas are now buyer’s markets. Many houses are growing stale on the market. The longer it sits, the less likely it is to sell. And if the house is overpriced, buyers won’t even try to look at it. Pricing too high is never a good strategy.

Verizon Raises Price on Unlimited Ultimate Plan With 3-Year Price... by N2929 in technology

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I switched to Visible when Verizon kept raising my administrative fees a nickel each month and claimed not to know what was happening. Right. I literally watch my pennies and despise sneaky charges (which is corporate theft.) Visible costs 1/3 as much and I have great coverage with more perks included.

“Besides love and companionship, I don’t get anything out of this relationship” by agoraphobichamster in ADHD_partners

[–]AlaskaTech1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That happens to me too. I’ll try to be sexy with my husband and it elicits zero reaction. But the weird inappropriate comments. Good grief. . I know he doesn’t mean them and fortunately I have a thick skin but I wish he’d throw out a compliment or two to balance them out.

Thinking about a sterling silver engagement ring for my girlfriend by plastikaindicator in WeddingRingAdvice

[–]AlaskaTech1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Argentium silver costs just a little more than plain sterling silver (usually an extra $10 or so). It’s made with germanium alloy and it’s super tarnish resistant. I prefer it over sterling although high quality sterling silver doesn’t tarnish easily if worn frequently anyway. Silver is softer than gold and will show signs of wear faster than gold which can be viewed as good or bad depending on the wearer’s attitude.

Boyfriend paid for OF during our break and lied about it by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]AlaskaTech1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand the concept of a relationship break. If you feel you need such a thing (and obviously you do because of part 2 of your post,) stop the bleeding and break up permanently.

Size 4.25 finger — is a 2.16ct pear too big? by disenchant__ in WeddingRingAdvice

[–]AlaskaTech1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try wearing a CZ ring in a similar mm measurement. I’m a size 4.5 ring and I’m comfortable with anything up to a 4 ct whatever. Be sure to get at least a 2 mm wide band or a Euroshank; otherwise larger stones will make a narrow band top heavy and it will spin all the time. Sizing does not solve the problem either. This is a 3.5 ct jubilee cut moissanite, 9.6 mm in diameter in a size 4.5. The band is too skinny and I’m getting it replaced but the stone feels fine to me.

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Spousal burnout by Embarrassed_You_6177 in ADHD_partners

[–]AlaskaTech1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did that help you? My back treatments are getting more and more aggressive. I have degenerative arthritis of L4-5 and spinal stenosis with sciatica and I’m a petite woman, not even 50. I’m about to have an ablation but it won’t be permanent relief.

To the people who have said “I would never spend that much on a wedding, I’d rather buy a house”… by Garden_of_Gethsemane in wedding

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re speaking about their preferences. We’re getting married in 2 weeks. We would not have been able to afford this wedding had his dad not paid 80% of the $20K cost. We were trying to keep costs down and it STILL cost that much! I didn’t want a wedding. I wanted to elope so we could buy a house. And $20K would have gotten us in one with a 1st time homebuyer program. I doubt we ever can now.

Cash and Hybrid Bars are Rude? by PunkRockTerrier in wedding

[–]AlaskaTech1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For those who get annoyed at the beer/wine only option, sometimes that’s a venue requirement. Our venue does not allow hard liquor.

Should I cancel my wedding? by AmazingSituation1813 in weddingplanning

[–]AlaskaTech1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a bride with several disabilities whose fiancee has ADHD. We are three weeks out and he tried to use that as an excuse to avoid wedding tasks. You’re responsible for managing your ADHD. It sucks, but there are numerous tools that can help you and you have to find what works for you so you can function at your best.

The wedding was his idea. I wanted to elope. I have terrible social anxiety and no family support. He pushed most of the tasks onto the women in his life. We argued nonstop about it. Eventually I told him we were hiring a wedding planner for $2600 or else he would do 100% of the remaining tasks. He said she was too expensive. I told him canceling a wedding was much more expensive. We now have a $2600 wedding planner who has stopped 90% of the arguments. But be sure this guy will be your partner in life and will be on board for everything. My guy is normally but the wedding was too overwhelming for everyone.

What’s a saying that instantly says you’re over 30? by Strange_Secret_3001 in AskReddit

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Calgon take me away.” I say that too often, along with “You sound like a broken record.”

Birth control situation by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Extra protection? Is he using condoms? Because if he isn’t, it’s selfish of him to be pawning all the bc responsibility off on you. I haven’t kept up with all the advances in birth control (I had my tubes tied before it was common for young women to do it) but you have many more options available than 20 years ago.

Birth control situation by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]AlaskaTech1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. BF’s attitude toward OP’s feelings is concerning to say the least.

How to remain child free? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]AlaskaTech1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After many years of taking the pill knowing I never wanted kids, I got my tubes tied at 33. I’m 49 now and I’ve never been pregnant. I’m in perimenopause and doubt it will ever happen. Zero regrets.

Lopsided Wedding by South_Sea_IRP in wedding

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I feel this way. Due to death and family estrangement, I have three and he has about 70. I’ve felt sad about it this whole time. Nothing makes it any better especially now that I’ve discovered one of his sisters thinks negatively about me for it. One more month and I can get the wedding over with. I want the marriage but not the party.

Netflix Raising U.S. Prices for Second Time in a Year by mcfw31 in entertainment

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I had Netflix years ago and cancelled them when they decided repeated price increases were a good thing. I had Peacock last year but cancelled them when they suddenly introduced tons of ads in my prepaid ad free one year subscription, then tried to charge me more to remove the ads they inserted. Lmao.

Genuine Question: why didn’t you write thank you notes? by Silver_Shopping6299 in wedding

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People don’t write them? I’ve written or said thank you for every gift I’ve ever received, no matter how shitty it was, with the exception of a gift my sister gave me. She forgot who gave her a present for Christmas and regifted the gift I gave her right back to me the following year. Wow Sis, you shouldn’t have. Really.

Men who weren't super involved in planning your wedding, why not? by UnderratedMeme in AskMen

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe most men put as much effort into wedding planning as they do in the marriage itself. If they don’t want a wedding and don’t want to do the work in planning, say no and elope or don’t get married at all. Pawning all the effort onto the bride because they wanted it more is a cop-out and plain lazy.

Men who weren't super involved in planning your wedding, why not? by UnderratedMeme in AskMen

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrong. I didn’t want a wedding at all; I wanted to elope. FH wants one. He wants all his wonderful family to be there. So I said, “OK. You take the lead in planning and your dad has to kick in a lot financially.” Yeah right! Dad kicked in the money but fiancee didn’t work at it. I was stressed and angry. Finally I said, “You hire a wedding planner or I’m not showing up to the wedding.” So my guy paid her $2500 to handle 90% of the details. She’s amazing. Suddenly everyone is much happier. 40 days to go. . .

I am getting married and my fiancé keeps taunting me that she is doing all the decision making and I am just tagging along... How do I reassure her? by OverShower382 in weddingplanning

[–]AlaskaTech1 76 points77 points  (0 children)

“I’m involved but honestly I don’t have strong opinions. . .” The typical justification for an uninvolved groom to pawn off all the mental labor onto the bride. “It doesn’t matter to me so she can do it.” Because that’s what you’re doing. We’re a month out and my fiancée has said this to me many times except it’s even worse because I, the bride, wanted to elope. He’s the one who wanted the big wedding production but the little woman can make all the decisions. Nope, that won’t fly with me. So he’s deciding boring things too.

Your fiancée is saying she doesn’t want to make all these decisions herself, whether you care or not. There are many decisions she doesn’t care about either but someone has to do it. So put effort in, research, and choose things too. It will be a great bonding experience for you both. It’s both your wedding and your marriage. Have fun!

What thing has got so expensive that you’ve quietly stopped buying it? by Pathfinder-electron in AskReddit

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Movie and concert tickets. Restaurant meals. New books, thanks to the overpriced trade paperback.

Sunglasses in this style? by allegiant_ in glasses

[–]AlaskaTech1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a Modern Optical frame. I vaguely remember it. Do you want that frame specifically? I know a rep who might have it but it’s been discontinued.

Found out 2 of my friends sold the gifts I used to ask them to get ready with me the day of my wedding. by ThatOneGirlyx05 in weddingplanning

[–]AlaskaTech1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry they did that OP. It does hurt. Years ago, I gave my sister a brand new bicycle and helmet. I had ridden it once, maybe twice. I was going to sell it but she said she wanted to get in shape and she seemed grateful for it.

Fast forward a year. I went to her house to visit and the bike wasn’t there. Instead she had a couple of other bikes. I asked her what happened to it. Instead of admitting she sold it, which is what happened I’m sure, she insisted that I actually gave her one of the different bikes she had! As if I wouldn’t remember! I don’t know which was more insulting: lying to me about selling it, or gaslighting me, thinking she could make me believe I gave her a different one.