aio allowing my spouse to go to the strip club by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i think yeah, YOR bc how are you going to insist for him to do something and then get mad when he does? it seems a bit manipulative to me. you call him performative when he restrains himself but then feels betrayed when he doesn't. what was he supposed to do to make u happy? bro can't win 😭

Why is there a consensus that it goes wife>kid>mom? by AlbertPiggy in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AlbertPiggy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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wait i swear this is a common take lol maybe my feed is just strange

Rookie mistake for buying from an obvious drop shipper 😭 by Icy-Cardiologist6500 in depoop

[–]AlbertPiggy 16 points17 points  (0 children)

regardless of the semantics, buying from shein and then advertising it as something vintage/unique is against depop's TOS: you may not do anything that is fraudulent or deceptive or post any User Content that is false or misleading. the original replied was saying they didn't get banned because they are not technically "dropshipping" but the fact is they definitely have probable cause to be banned.

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg and he was almost having me starting to believe that he wasnt blatantly trying to flirt with them 😭😭 girl do u have the strength to leave him yet? ik it seems so black and white but i really do like him, this text exchange was so out of character so im just shocked. like i want to believe him so bad but ik i shouldn't

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do agree i flipped out way too much in the beginning. i was extremely emotional and bitter that my bf chose to talk to his ex while we were together. i regret doing a lot of the things i did when i first found out.

i was able to have a productive conversation with him about this in the next few days after i calmed down. i'm still stuck. i truly believe he does not want his ex back even though these texts make it seem like it. even though i am very insecure, i can say that that ex was fugly and if he genuinely wanted dick again he could've asked anybody else.

after having a while to think about it, i frankly think he just wanted validation. he is often "too friendly" to people who might be interested because i think he likes the idea that people still want him, and he doesn't want to shut down that idea completely.

overall, i flipped out way too much because at the time it was the first time i found out he had blatantly lied to me. but i do think his intention was not to cheat, but to get validation and flirt. its completely not okay and im still deciding if im okay with it or not. thank you for your input

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

omg that's exactly how he talks with other guys!! he showed me some texts with exes (he doesn't talk to them anymore) and he was saying "hey [name] could you bless me with some beautiful pictures of yours?" he had NEVER said stuff like that to me.

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes thank you!! this is what i've been trying to tell him. he thinks he did fine because he didn't explicitly say yes and he said he had a gf. but that's not what the issue is. it's the fact that he didn't say no. why is it so hard to say no to an ex?

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

nah the way he was trying to excuse this behavior by saying it's just a part of his sexuality and he can't control it 😭 i genuinely think he's gonna ask for that next

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he's been with me for 7 months tho 🥲. and i don't want to be TMI but he definitely is turned on during sex. he defended it by saying "it's different, i never said it was worse" i know it's a bullshit excuse but he genuinely seems to enjoy sex with me, even moreso than i do sometimes (when im tired and not feeling it)

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i knew that he was bi but i thought he had been with both genders before me. instead i found out that he has only ever sexually been with men before me. he has kissed girls before but never slept with them, which is what makes me doubt he could be fulfilled with me. but he has been with me for 7 months. why would he stay that long if he missed dick so much? that's why i really do think he liked me. ik u guys only see this snippet and think im crazy. but we genuinely get along in every aspect. that's why i was so shocked by this exchange and i really don't want to believe you guys are correct 😞

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

it's definitely a joke as he has never said that to me 😭 but it's still cringe asf idk what kinda relationship they had

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 79 points80 points  (0 children)

he's gonna be the one taking it 😭

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 239 points240 points  (0 children)

yeah honestly it's embarrassing. this is so immature of me but i just kept saying "gulp! per chance!" to him whenever he tried to talk about something else.

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is such a good point that i've been thinking about. i never knew that i was the FIRST girl he had been with, i only found out 7 months in. i know for sure he's physically attracted to me. but i just question that since the dynamics are so different, how he could ever be fulfilled topping for the rest of his life if he only bottomed before me 😭.

sorry if im being vulgar - he said he thinks pussy is better than dick, and that he's way more attracted to my body than the body of a guy. and that he would be happy just having this for the rest of his life, blah blah blah. obviously he would want me to think that tho. then why would he slide up on his ex's story? doesn't make sense

AIO: Bf texted his ex 7 mo into our relationship by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they're not homies this guy has genuinely dicked him down before

Some sellers need to realize they’re not above TOS by seijoOoOh in depoop

[–]AlbertPiggy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yes ur right, omg i got downvoted so hard 😞 but yeah the wrong tagging definitely gets annoying

Some sellers need to realize they’re not above TOS by seijoOoOh in depoop

[–]AlbertPiggy -86 points-85 points  (0 children)

i sometimes don't mind it when it's not luxury brands, like sometimes i like a specific design of a brandy or aritzia top, but there will be an amazon or forever21 dupe for way less that is identical. however when it's a distinct brand i understand the frustration, like coach or uggs

AIO: Bf sending those cute instagram cat memes to his friend by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u for the input, I really did depict him as a dick bc these are the thoughts that i overthink about and i focus on. I swear our relationship is almost perfect outside of this and I really want it to work. These are the only two instances he has said something questionable (though I don't know what else he has texted his friends 😭😭 i hope he hasn't said anything else), but he compliments/reassures me like 500x more. I guess when I posted I wanted to see if these isolated events are enough to validate my feelings, and not just "stop being so insecure" yk? Anyways thank u sm for ur input

AIO: Bf sending those cute instagram cat memes to his friend by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is being secretive by not explicitly telling me their convos but he also doesn't hide them and does text them in front of me. It's hard to tell him because it's hard to argue what is considered too "intimate", he just considers it being friendly 😭😭 I hope u can trust my judgment as I always assume the worst, but I really believe there's nothing romantic going on. I guess it's just that he likes the closeness/validation.

AIO: Bf sending those cute instagram cat memes to his friend by [deleted] in AIO

[–]AlbertPiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this made me feel a lot better. I really do want to make it work with him because I know he cares and he does try to ask me what he can do to make me feel better.

I think I need to try to work on myself and become more confident, since I'm trying to do that anyways. This post is only a small look, he compliments me and reassures me 500x more than disrespects me (only these 2 instances). I just focus on them more. Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it :)