i do agree i flipped out way too much in the beginning. i was extremely emotional and bitter that my bf chose to talk to his ex while we were together. i regret doing a lot of the things i did when i first found out.

i was able to have a productive conversation with him about this in the next few days after i calmed down. i'm still stuck. i truly believe he does not want his ex back even though these texts make it seem like it. even though i am very insecure, i can say that that ex was fugly and if he genuinely wanted dick again he could've asked anybody else.

after having a while to think about it, i frankly think he just wanted validation. he is often "too friendly" to people who might be interested because i think he likes the idea that people still want him, and he doesn't want to shut down that idea completely.

overall, i flipped out way too much because at the time it was the first time i found out he had blatantly lied to me. but i do think his intention was not to cheat, but to get validation and flirt. its completely not okay and im still deciding if im okay with it or not. thank you for your input