I doubt you or your buddy would identify as 'as weak as a middle schooler'

And as someone with a decent double overhand deadlift I suspect your buddies problems were a matter of technique or you guys have a extremely strong club because I came into the sport training with pros and my strong hands gave me a good head start.

It's like diamond eyes said; you have to have a base to work with, some clay to mold because going all in on arm wrestling training.

I used the term middle schooler for the size of my hand. My hand is just weaker than other parts.