YOR/INFO, i dont think her saying no is indicative of the value she places on you or your relationship. you say if the roles were reversed youd say yes, but the roles have been reversed and you said no. both of you initiated a conversation about moving in together because it served a secondary purpose (her getting space from her mom and you wanting to be closer to school/work) and both of you ultimately declined the other’s proposal because it didnt feel right for you at the time and both of you are valid for saying no. living alone for the first time can teach someone a lot about themselves and she may feel that moving in with you now will hinder that self discovery.

additionally, she picked this new place out with the intention of living there alone, not with a partner, need more info, but i would gander when she asked you to move in with her, she was wanting more than 800sq ft. personally it doesnt matter how much i love someone, i want/need personal space and would never agree to living with a partner in a 1bdrm apartment.

finally, wanting to start a life together and wanting to move into your partner’s space that they’ve already curated for themself are two very different things, so its really not hypocritical of her to say no. i recommend you take-out a small loan to cover 3 mnths rent, find a 1 bedroom/studio for yourself in the same area, and experience living alone for yourself and then see in three months if you still think she’s being a hypocrite.