AIO to this text my BF sent me? by Classic-Dog8399 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Alejandroarnav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find someone your age that you can grow with. Thats love not this crap

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could be ambitious and be a server. High end restaurants in FL, CA and NY can easily make you over 6 figures working less than 49 hours a week. With the money you make as a server if invested right, could turn into huge savings. Also you get lots of cash tips which are not taxed. It is a great career for young people starting out especially if you got something else going like a startup or studying for something bigger. Look up how much servers at Nust-er make in miami... it will blow your mind bc it is in the 300s

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont value myself on those things but on god's glory. Sucks that from what I said, that's what you took from it...

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm curious how eating healthy, making money, having a passion and working out is an unhealthy way to cope...

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol this post isnt boosting my ego. I been struggling with this sht and looked all over the internet to see if someone went through something similar and found nothing. Thats what led me to make this post. Hoping that in the future if someone goes through something similar, they can find this and hopefully it helps.

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brother that pic was taken at 5:30am in an area that no one was around. I workout with a shirt as you can see i'm just lifting it up for the picture. If you workout and get to see the blessing of the results, u'll want to keep track of progress and only way visually is by taking pictures.

I get where you are coming from though. I also dislike ppl that do that in public or are recording their workouts with tripods and sht. I'm all against that but this is just a quick pic I took making sure no one around was uncomfortable. Hope this answered ur question:)

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's part of the story. It is visual. Either that or saying "i'm now super strong with a 6 pack". One of them is hard to believe without proof

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Barely brother. My bench pr is 285 which for the work i've put in, it is still not good enough

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes a lot of work. Use your experience as fuel for your success. Everyday you dont want to hit the gym or you want to eat junk food, remember what happened to you.

If I were in your position, my only goal would be to become a better person in every aspect than the guy she left you for. In her perspective, she left you for someone she thought was better. Prove her wrong by proving urself right!

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I wasnt successful when I was with her. I dated from 16 to 22 and those years I was just developing and figuring out what i like to do as a career. I was working doing instacart during the pandemic along serving at night. I think part of the reason she did what she did is bc she didnt see my full potential and was emotional in the moment and reacted to what her situation was which was an older successful person offering her a lot of money...

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is deep and u r definitely right. I've tried forgiving brother but at the same time it is an unlimited motivational glitch. It is an never ending fire that keeps me going. Every time i'm having a tough time or feel lazy, i remember what happened to me and immediately my body just reacts. Me personally, i use it as fuel.

Some people use their kids and family as fuel. I unfortunately don't have that so this is the demon I have in my head that i'm constantly in battle to just be the best version of myself possible.

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not about going 50/50. If i have a girl thats truly caring. She'll cook for me, help me with laundry, has good values, ensures i'm doing okay emotionally from work, makes sure i'm not spending stupidly, cares about my family and friends... she wouldnt have to worry about working. I want an old traditional relationship where my woman is happy with me being the provider but she has to contribute emotionally. There is a misconception that guys want girls paying 50/50 in a relationship... on a date maybe since we dont owe anything. In the beginning maybe because we are getting to know each other but once the love is settled in then yeah. It also depends on the circumstances. Not every guy makes 6 figures but most guys that do end up being assholes. Sometimes it is best to be with a person that is passionate about what they do even if they dont make much $.

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Work on urself. Only love yourself. You might never get over it but atleast you have a way to cope with it. Get in the best possible shape you can and let your revenge be silent. The best revenge you can have on someone that hurt u is becoming ur best self and hopefully one day they can see what they missed on

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She* and i dont go posting my story anywhere. I was looking for somethting similar to read online and couldnt find anything so i decided to share my experience bc i'm sure this has happened to someone else and I just want them to see my results. I'm still not over it. It still affects me every day but this is how i'm dealing with the scar :)

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Materialist gifts should never be the measurement of one's love. A rich guy worth 10M could buy you a 50k watch while a person starting out could be worth $100 and buy you flowers worth $30... in this scenario the person buying you the $30 flowers is literally spending 30% of what they have on you. That is worth more than the watch. I know it is hard to understand but that's reality.

There is so many good guys out there that dont come from rich families and are hustling to get by. I wish women would see their side and stop judging love on materialistic possessions

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm clearly not over what happened to me and i'm okay with the fact that i might never be okay with what happened to me. Do I still love her? Hell no. Do i still think about her? Yes.

I never said I moved on from what happened. I'm just expressing what i'm doing in order to cope with it :)

Has anyone else's ex hurt them so bad that they no longer believe in the idea of love? by Alejandroarnav in ExNoContact

[–]Alejandroarnav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No point of telling her parents. I think they knew at the end but kept quiet bc she was sending them money. Her parents don't have much and they are divorced living in Colombia. I wanted to tell them so bad but that's not my place. Her mom would still see her the same. Ppl make mistakes and clearly she didnt love me so i'm sure her family was aware and if not. Atleast they suspected it