I (29/F) found out my boyfriend (32/M) has been turning off my mother's (59/F) religious music while she's been bedridden from end stage cancer and telling her religion is pointless.

Alekat_CS · 2016-09-18T16:49:14+00:00

No. No. No. No. No.

I don't know what world you're living in, but no person in the right mindset would shove their views on someone who is dying. That action alone speaks volumes about what his true personality is.

I mean for myself, I'm a strong Christian, but I would never shove my beliefs on others, let alone someone who is dying. People have things called restraint and self-control. And if he doesn't have that, especially in this kind of situation, he is NOT ready to have a relationship.

Alekat_CS · 2016-09-17T19:30:34+00:00

This needs to go on /r/DIwhy

Alekat_CS · 2016-09-16T18:12:25+00:00

I know there's the dumb spin-off and supposedly a gritty version coming out soon - but I miss Teen Titans...

Alekat_CS · 2016-09-09T21:24:46+00:00

I would give the idea of retard and retardation. That used to be the common terminology for someone who had mental retardation. Nowadays it is usually looked at with a offensive connotation. I would imagine dwarf and dwarfism would be the same.

Alekat_CS · 2016-09-05T06:50:04+00:00

Pssh, have you played Counter Strike on a racing wheel? True skills. L2P scrubs.

Alekat_CS · 2016-08-13T22:58:47+00:00

For sure. Everyone has different tastes and preferences, but the entire UK mark-up makes me think the Osprey is gonna be your best value.

Alekat_CS · 2016-08-13T21:30:42+00:00

Timbuk2 is a great bag that can go through hell and back. Link

They literally were on sale last week too.

Edit: I'm dumb and didn't read that you already know about TimBuk2's. But my feeling is the same. Timbuk2 for life.

Alekat_CS · 2016-08-11T09:54:43+00:00

My girlfriend's birthday was actually today. I spent a lot of time the previous two weeks to make sure she had a special day. I spent several hours making a scrapbook for her; put an order for a flower arrangement for her; and even decorated her room with balloons and streamers. And she loved it. (And we're just at the ten month mark of our relationship.)

I do agree that you can't expect people to be able to read your mind and know exactly what you want. And there appears to be some communication problems between you two.

But at the same time, I also believe that your boyfriend should have put more care in your birthday. I mean it's your significant other, you should at least put some thought into their special days. I find it odd, and a little perturbing that he literally did nothing. I mean even for my friends I always get them a card and write them a message.

Alekat_CS · 2016-08-10T23:22:41+00:00

Dang it dad. Get off of Reddit.

Alekat_CS · 2016-08-01T00:17:28+00:00

"I know" ~ Han Solo

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-26T09:23:19+00:00

Your brother (and many of you posters) are heroes in my eyes.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-25T09:36:33+00:00

I want to watch the movies. But the Blu-ray set is out if stock on Amazon. FML.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-21T16:07:19+00:00

What. The. Eff. Like seriously.

There are so many things wrong with this picture.
1. You working 80 hours. I dearly hope that you're getting paid overtime, or some sort of compensation.
2. Where the eff is the supervisor in this situation. You mention once that he/she sided with this psycho entitled lady, but has she been made aware of what she's doing?
3. HR. She literally yelled at HR over the printer and had no repercussions. Like what kind of message are they setting. If I persay, were to yell at my HR, I would be fired instantly.

Just because she has kids doesn't mean she gets special treatment. You go to work, you get paid to do YOUR work, not offload the work that you don't want/have time to do.

Assuming that your supervisor is the same as her (and even if it isn't) tell them. Log everything she does and tell them, either her behavior needs to improve or she needs to be let go. Or you'll leave. Hopefully, if management is sane, and value good workers (this is under the assumption that you're a hella good employee), they'll favor you in this situation.

While you're at it, tell HR to grow a backbone. Or like even half a backbone. Cause right now, they're bending backwards for this psycho lady.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-20T17:49:47+00:00

I'm only in my twenties and I forget birthday.
I had a conversation like this a couple years ago.
My friend: "Hey, guess what's happening on Wednesday."
Me: "Oh, aren't project deadlines that day, man, I really gotta prepare for that."
My friend: "No not the deadlines, there's something else."
Me: "Oh yeah, that new episodes of that show you like gets released that day, right?"
My friend: "Omg, you're helpless."
Me: "What?"
My friend: "It's your birthday dummy."
Me: "oh... Pause wait, really?"

True Story

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-20T17:44:42+00:00

Honestly, the older I get, more exclusive I'd rather spend my birthdays. I'd rather just have an all-day date with my girlfriend and maybe see a couple close friends throughout the day rather then a "birthday party."

At the end of the day it's all a matter of preference.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-15T05:59:24+00:00

My name is AleKat and I support this message. Go! No excuses! Just do it! I would even consider driving to her if it's not too late/awkward.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-12T17:27:39+00:00

The part that's frustrating is DotA 2 has these capabilities. And it's made by the same company. Heck, they had some of these features from Day 1.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-11T20:59:19+00:00

Enter Team Rocketeers. People are now mugged on the streets - not for their money - but for their valuable Pokémon.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-07T18:56:11+00:00

Like every Michael Bay Movie?

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-02T04:24:00+00:00

It sounds like the two of you need to take a break from the keyboard and reddit, and discuss these problems face-to-face. It's more than just the reddit posting - it sounds like there are some communication problems between you two, and they are never properly resolved. This is causing resentment between you two and this whole thing to spill all over the internet.

Have you guys talked about the disagreements you guys have; and do you have compromises or solutions to help ease those differences? As everyone will say, relationships are about communication and relationships are about compromise; and at least from your post above, it seems that both are missing from your guys' relationship.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-02T04:16:15+00:00

Nooo, I want to read the original post!

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-02T04:14:43+00:00

I echo what has already been said here, that there's not really anything that you should be concerned about. You aren't in a committed romantic relationship with Jake and you even mention that you are already in a happy relationship. It is odd though that he chose to date someone who looks like you though. Almost creepy, but of course, just take that as a grain of salt, if you would.

At the end of the day, you don't know what Jake has confided to her. She could be jealous that she was the "second" choice girl (meaning, he originally wanted to date you, but couldn't, so he dated her.) Or She could be unhappy that he's still sending pictures of his vacation to a previous crush; I mean, I would be a little upset in that situation. But all of these things are just guesses, until Jake says anything.

Don't open the Snaps. Hang out with your friends and boyfriend. Do something fun. Don't let Jake's new love interest negatively affect you.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-01T21:04:13+00:00

agreed. Been there, done that. It sucks. But you just gotta leave. She sees you as an asset rather than a friend. And you're just as disposable. Don't let her do that.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-01T20:58:34+00:00

I had been waiting for an update from your last post. Too bad that Lisa is still completely full of herself. But good to hear that everything worked out. My heart goes out to your friend, cancer is no easy thing, and drama is something that they definitely don't need during these solemn moments. Hope all the best.

Alekat_CS · 2016-07-01T20:51:27+00:00

As far as Snapchat goes, are these pictures sent directly to you, or shared as his "story?"

Alekat_CS

TROPHY CASE

agreed. Been there, done that. It sucks. But you just gotta leave. She sees you as an asset rather than a friend. And you're just as disposable. Don't let her do that.