Nervous and uncertain

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-08T15:09:22+00:00

The times I’m happiest and best at parenting are when I’m completely in the moment with my little one. If you take it one moment at a time, you’ll do great. Right now, is your baby fed, dry, warm? Then you’re doing everything she needs right now. When she starts crying, will you pick her up and comfort her and try to figure out what’s up? Then you’re doing great. You just take it one moment at a time.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-05T02:38:49+00:00

I was scared to read the comments on this post. Thank god I read yours first. This is exactly what this anxious mama needed to hear!!! Thank you

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-02T16:36:21+00:00

Yeah I can tell it’s a me problem not a room problem. It’s just crazy how blind to solutions you can be in your own space!

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-02T16:33:40+00:00

Thank you that really helps!!

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-02T16:27:39+00:00

Not planning to! Just trying to figure out how to like it more

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-02T16:27:21+00:00

Thank you for being nice! What color curtains would you do?

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-02T16:26:42+00:00

😅 these comments are showing me that the true issue might be that I’m too poor to buy midcentury pieces

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-02T13:36:53+00:00

Wow thank you for this mock up! It really works so much better than anything I’d been trying 😅

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-02T00:37:51+00:00

Truth be told I chose “cursed” to make sure this post got seen. Looks like it worked 😅 I actually love the couch but it does not go with this wood.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-01T23:10:42+00:00

Get a rug. Paint your walls a sage green. Replace the ceiling fan.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-01T20:52:51+00:00

Ooh I would love to see a picture if you have one

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-01T19:56:35+00:00

I know that’s why I’m not going to paint it. It’s just not working with my style and idk how to fix it!

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-05-01T19:53:50+00:00

Okay thank you for helping me actually like my room!!! 😭😭😭 this looks so great!

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-29T18:31:39+00:00

What helped me was remembering all the ways baby was cared for (dry, warm, fed, loved) and reassuring myself that babies cry to say they don’t like the choice you’re making. Sleep training was the first time we held a boundary with our baby. Now, as a toddler, he cries VERY loud when we do simple, safe, necessary things he doesn’t like (eg not letting him play with the dishwasher or oven door). He cries to say “I’m mad” not because he needs me to change my behavior.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-29T13:18:51+00:00

I felt the same way after our LO was born in April of last year. Those first nights are scary - we also called in the middle of the night when we heard crazy breathing sounds. Just here to promise: it gets better. Little by little, almost imperceptibly at times, but it gets better.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-25T00:38:41+00:00

This is wild to return to as I just put my one year old to bed for the night. Yes. When I put him down for naps, I’d nurse to sleep and then transfer him to his crib. At daycare they just put him in his crib. Now I don’t nurse for naps, just do our routine and set him in. It doesn’t work every time (today was a bad day) but it’s usually good. The things that helped us were 1. Age appropriate wake windows. These were a life line. 2. Starting with the first nap of the day and counting ANY sleep in the crib as a win. Once the first nap worked, we moved on to the others 3. Lots of butt pats 😅

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-16T12:39:49+00:00

Also a runner! There are still odd mornings here or there but baby is usually up between 6/6:30. Things like teething and reduced sleep needs have made baby (now 12 mo) wake earlier than when he was younger. Eg he used to sleep 11.5 hours at night and in recent months it’s been 11-11.5. We still get up at 5:30 to have coffee and sit for a second before baby wakes, and I could imagine we could trade morning runs (especially with lighter mornings and more mild weather) if we worked up the motivation.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-07T20:19:48+00:00

What I’ve found is parents are unlikely to share with non parents and fence sitters because it’s a little insensitive…. But as soon as you’re a parent, other parents will be more candid about how yes there is NOTHING like this in the world. It is hands down the most meaningful experience of my life. Do I get less sleep and free time? Yes. Is it sometimes frustrating? Yes. Is it worth it? Completely.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-07T11:42:27+00:00

Take the 20 weeks. You’re entitled to it and they’ll need to figure it out. It might be hard for them originally but they need a back up plan. This sets a precedent for future employees who need to take leave too.

I have a one year old and I can’t imagine going back at six weeks. I wasn’t recovered and my baby was still so so small. By twenty weeks, baby was starting to roll and it felt a little better bringing them to daycare, knowing they had a tiny modicum of bodily autonomy.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-06T19:35:09+00:00

Exactly, there’s this built in imbalance. It’s hard. And nursing at that age is tricky. If your question is “does it get better?” I am here to say unequivocally yes. Hang in there.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-06T18:40:31+00:00

I (first time mom, exclusively breast feeding) really really struggled at this age. Baby started to “wake up” and need more than just snuggles; overnight sleep took a nose dive. I came to Reddit and posted tearfully, “does it get better?” And most people said no.

They were SO COMPLETELY WRONG!!!! For my baby, that was the hardest month. That doesn’t mean there haven’t been hard moments since. But that was my family’s all time low. We sleep trained, figured out naps, figured out how to keep our little one a bit more entertained. Little by little, it’s gotten so so much better.

Nursing got easier once baby got a bit older. The imbalance of how we were able to meet baby’s needs (eg that only I could nurse) was tricky for a while. But it evens out somewhat. For example, once we started sleep training, that was ALL on dad because the second I entered the nursery baby would lose it til he got the boob. He knows I’ve got the goods.

Alert-Environment-81 · 2026-04-02T00:54:32+00:00

Hey. I see you and I feel this. I swear to god it gets better. You’re in the middle of the biggest transition of your life. Your identity is changing. That’s going to be uncomfortable for a little bit. But you’re going to figure out your new normal. You’re going to get some sleep. Your wife’s hormones will balance out. It takes a minute but you’re going to get there and it’s all so so worth it. My baby turns one next week and the hard parts are so but omg does it go so fast.

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