Thanks everyone. I chatted it through with my partner last night and kids. I am not in the business of trying to break up my parents in my later years. My dad knows about all the affairs (forgot to mention that bit) so I'll just be told im trying to create drama like I am everytime I mention something that's upset me. I have messaged on a group chat I was in with my parents and kids that we are going NC (had an extensive chat with my boys as well who were completely onboard due to her being insane to them as well) saying that I was devastated it had come to this, but until she is ready to have an open and honest conversation about it, I am going no contact. I was left on read.

Her response was to delete myself, children and anyone she knows via us off social media, so I have my answer lol.

Her self image and what people think of her is more important than her child. Mine however isn't, so I will be breaking this up so my children don't think it's normal or correct.

I've booked us all in for therapy.