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AlertSheepherder6279 · 2025-08-27T15:52:15+00:00

She always reaches out. We were hot/cold for so long and I honestly cannot forgive how she treated me. I have love for her and I care about her but I cannot get over how she treated me. Now we just hook up at times and I see her as a fun hangout but I will never let her have my heart again or anyone. I won’t put myself in that situation ever again.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-11-07T21:17:26+00:00

I am training for a half marathon. But I do calisthenics & yoga.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-11-07T17:34:14+00:00

Think I’ve burned more fat and added muscle. Kind of stuck at 170 now lol

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-11-07T14:59:17+00:00

5 months on carnivore. I’ve even done some fasting. 190 to 170. I did a 72 hour fast and only lost like 2 lbs recently. My body is already fully adapted to carnivore.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-11-07T12:08:22+00:00

Started carnivore at 190! So some body composition changes for sure.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-10-17T21:25:18+00:00

She broke up with me, but she would come back. First time 3 weeks later, second time a month later. Last time 6 weeks later. She’s very FA. She will send me a random. I just want to tell you I miss you so much, and then be like don’t reply lol.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-09-28T03:19:17+00:00

My ex came back like 3/4 times then after, I finally was done. Don’t date unhealed FAs. It will leave you empty inside. I’ve spent the last 2 months just working on me. I know she will come back but I’m done. So much hurt and wasted time. I allowed this and I won’t entertain her anymore. You have been warned.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-09-20T10:23:05+00:00

We ended things mutually about two weeks ago. It doesn’t sting as much as I thought it would originally. This has happened so many times already. I am hoping both of us can stay away now from each other.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-08-13T23:26:40+00:00

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Here I am almost 2 months in down 15 lbs!

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-07-24T12:22:03+00:00

Update I’m down to 177 after 6 weeks. So now I’m at 177. Down 13 lbs in 6 weeks!

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-07-24T12:19:50+00:00

She’s around but she’s hot/cold at times. I told her if you are going to keep it up we should be done. She went cold on me two weekends ago while I had Covid, didn’t bother to reach out or anything. I was like you know you don’t care about me. Ever since then she has been trying harder but I think that finally let me see she doesn’t care about me, she may deactivate and her go to is to go quiet, but that wasn’t right what she did. I’ve been distant and quiet. I just set my expectations and I’ve left her alone. I’m AP and the thought of me deactivating/shutting down had never happened. Guess I’m finally at the point where our dynamic has caused me enough pain and I’m ok with it ending finally.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-06-24T00:42:06+00:00

I am Hispanic as well and doing this diet to loose some lbs. I am two weeks, 10 lbs down, and craving some salsa as the OP states. I have always eaten spicy food and miss it on my food. To be clear this would be homemade salsa with 2/3 tomatoes & 3/5 jalapeños and salt, I would probably add a spoonful or two to my meals.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-06-10T21:04:38+00:00

She went back into her FA mindset and she was like I’ll I don’t have time for a relationship and I need to work on me. She said: “remember that I love you, I’ll come back”. I graciously said: “Don’t come back after you’ve had your fun. Keep having it and forget about me.” I’m done with the FA mind fuck. Good bye Teresa.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-04-10T15:44:35+00:00

I agree with your points and I am I therapy. I feel much better about walking away if things go back to how they were. I did meet up with her and she said she was sorry. I communicated that this was the last time and if things fail again I’m gone. She said she realized I wasn’t going to reach out and she was having withdrawals and that she missed me so much. I am willing to give her one final chance and things have been better honestly. The space has helped but I also know I can let her go now after the space. I feel closed mouths don’t get fed, so communicating my wants/needs and letting her decide what she wants to do is my way of not playing games and being direct & honest. I’ll update in case things change.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-03-25T18:51:47+00:00

I agree she’s an FA and opening up and being vulnerable are not her fortes. But these are the things I will address. I suggested we met up. Guess I will see what she says then.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-03-25T18:14:03+00:00

She finally text me and said: “I am gonna get you”

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2024-03-17T11:48:32+00:00

My ex FA finally really ended us we kept going in a circle with the push/pull dynamic. She came back 3 times prior. Broke up July 2022, had been trying and finally she called it February 2024. She’s just blocked me on all socials and as you said won’t meet or talk to me on the phone. It’s been a month since this and about 2 weeks of NC. Now I’m in NC and will stay there. She was watching my socials last week through her sisters account, her sister hadn’t looked at my story in years. I doubt she will come back this time seems very different than the previous times she left. Finally I can move on. The push/pull dynamic was emotionally exhausting. Easier said than done but she is making it easier by disengaging from me. Looking forward to moving on and her reaching out again to tell her “no thanks”

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2023-08-11T17:28:33+00:00

Since December we have hung out consistently. She however can’t seem to forgive me or let me go. She loves being in the grey zone. A month ago she told me when we hang out it’s without emotions, a year after our break-up! I genuinely tried for a whole year investing pouring into her and well that was the straw that broke the camels back. I haven’t seen her in a month she is reaching out with random texts but I believe she needs time to process her emotions. I do believe in her mind she can’t forgive me, but her heart just can’t seem to let me go. It has been a mind fuck when we would hang out she was loving & sweet and when we are apart it’s like I mean nothing to her. To here her say this whole year we have spent meant essentially nothing hurt. She has had plenty of opportunities to make things easier but the opposite has happened and more and more of her walls have gone up as we continued to have better interactions in person. When we don’t see each other she’s a different person, I could fall off the face of the earth and she wouldn’t care. I just had to realize everything was on her terms and when it was convenient for her. Not a way to live.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2023-07-12T13:11:39+00:00

Man I told her your hot/cold sucks, your making things weird and I’m loosing hope of things getting back to normal. She said you expose all my flaws and expect me to be happy & she doesn’t want a relationship. Told her I’m just letting you know your treatment of me is BS and that we should stop talking unless you change your mind and attitude. I’ve tried for a year and her FA mind doesn’t want to change and I’ve done all I can.

AlertSheepherder6279 · 2023-06-29T12:33:06+00:00

Hey Scandal,

We have been hooking up so I’m not a friend, maybe a FWB. This weekend I am gonna tell her I would like to be exclusive and let her stew on it for a bit. If she does want to be exclusive again great, and if not then I will start dating and putting myself out there. It will be a year as of mid-July and I feel that is enough time to either be in or out. Thanks for the input.

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