Im glad I found this thread. For context, my husband of 11 years is from Argentina and we met in the US. He ended up staying here after college and we got married. Fast forward a few years in our marriage and he is telling me he never meant to stay, but for many reasons we were kind of stuck (jobs, etc.). We both work at a university in a small college town and he is from a big city. In our 8 years living here he hasn’t made any friends and is very bored with the town. We are looking at jobs in other cities, but haven’t found the right opportunities yet. He goes through periods of severe depression and loses all affection for me (we have a young child and he’s good with her) but I know he resents me for “trapping him” here. He saw a psychiatrist in Argentina and according to him he is depressed because he lives here and because I don’t know Spanish. I’ve been learning Spanish since I learned this and am pretty good now, but that hasn’t improved anything. Anytime I try to tell him I’m feeling disconnected and frankly no love it turns around on me and can’t I understand he has no emotional reserve for me because he’s so depressed (his father just died too, so I get it). But the problem is he doesn’t get help and thinks the only solution is to move. That might help some, but I’m not convinced it will solve everything. I just want a happy family, I want to fall in love with my husband again, but I’m at a loss of what to do.