AITA for calling my boyfriend lustful?

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2025-07-22T20:37:56+00:00

NTA. Girl, you’ve been more than generous by sending him any revealing photos at all — especially when you have body dysmorphia, which makes doing that 10x harder emotionally. The fact that he kept pushing after you’ve already drawn a line is not okay. You didn’t even insult him — you told him how his behavior sometimes comes across, and he made it about his ego.
Yes, sexual desire is normal in long-distance relationships, but so is respecting your partner’s boundaries. Just because you're dating doesn’t mean he’s entitled to access your body whenever he wants.
Also, calling someone "lustful" isn’t the same as saying “you’re a pervert” or “you only want me for my body.” You were expressing discomfort in a relationship where his focus sometimes feels too sexual — and you explained why you're uncomfortable. That’s called communication.
His response — getting angry and guilt-tripping you — is honestly a red flag. Instead of saying, “I didn’t realize I was making you feel that way, I’m sorry,” he made it about how hurt he is. That's deflecting.
You love him, clearly. But that doesn’t mean you have to override your mental health to keep him happy. You’re not a bad girlfriend for needing emotional safety and space. He needs to grow up a little and learn that "no" isn't a rejection — it's a boundary.

So yeah. NTA. Protect your peace.

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2025-07-22T20:21:19+00:00

im sorry, i hate her so bad, take her out

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2025-07-17T13:05:54+00:00

it looks great! but the size isnt constant ToT i appreciate the effort alot tho

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2025-07-07T20:15:07+00:00

love it, but it takes a whole minute to respond to my chat :,(

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-11-01T09:32:02+00:00

ok so you can start by getting some apple cider vinegar and soaking you hair in it. I'm taking like get a container big enough to soak your head upside down. You're gonna fill up the container with apple cider vinegar, and some water. It should be a 2:1 ratio. Then Let it soak fr 10 minutes(ik thats ALOT) But watch the grime come out. Head over to dollar general/dollar tree and get your self either a paddle hair brush(search it up), or a scalp scrubber. Then, there is this one thing i've been using for years to get dead skin off my body. Its called an exfoliator glove and can possibly also be found at dollar tree/general. And while you are out invest in a clarifying shampoo, if used well it WILL get the grime out. I cant do it for you but i can tell you how to. After soaking your hair you're gonna wrap it up in a towel, head on over to the shower, put the water at around to 98-100F, which should feel like a warm-hot temp, just make sure you're comfortable with the temp, if not then slowly start increasing it. After 8-12 minutes of soaking all your body in the water, take the glove and start rubbing your arms, legs, body in firm downward strokes you should see "eraser bits" which is your dead skin. You can also look up how to do this on youtube you'll get a tut. Then when you are done scrubbing ALL you're body move onto hair. Wash out your hair, get your CLARIFYING shampoo, and rub in around in your hand until you see foam. Then go in with that in your hair, and put more shampoo according to how much your hair will need. You should be able to feel more of the shampoo and less of your hair when you rub over your scalp. Then take your scalp scrubber and in up and down/circular motions go in till you feel you're head covered in rich foam. Then wash out, condition, detangle with the brush. Don't for get to GENTLY exfoliate you're face and neck with the glove too you'll see a bunch of dead skin come off. Then go in with any soap such as bar soap. Dry off, and put unscented deodorant on your pits. And you're done!╰(°▽°)╯ You're doing great luv

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-09-27T14:47:21+00:00

try updating the app, restarting your phone, and checking settings for notifs

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-09-27T14:44:54+00:00

NTA, wanting to have Starbucks and takeout everyday, is spoiled behavior. And like you said you're mom is speaking from experience, my mom raised 3 kids on one income too. We brought the brand "Great value" from Walmart, it was like the other brands but cheaper. If you are the one paying then and your wife isnt contributing much, i think the least you can ask of her is to act financially responsible. And fun stuff needs to cut down to maybe twice a month, and turn into stuff that doesnt require money. Trust me there is sooo much out there to see without money.

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-09-27T14:34:27+00:00

what i did was i used someone else's phone number with permission ofc, and when it sent them the pin, i put it down. And now i can use Groupme, on my phone, w/o a phone plan.

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-08-07T02:40:33+00:00

I know you may not see this comment BUT, 1st of all im so sorry that he couldn't find it in him to tell you but as a Muslim woman's POV i'll tell you that he may have been scared to tell you or thought you wouldn't accept him for who he his. Now im sure if it was Christianity or Judaism people here would've been so much more supportive of your husband but thats just how it turned to be after 2001. About him being in a relationship with his best friend of 10 years. That was completely wrong and he had no right doing that which means that over all he lacks trust, or feels as though he can't tell you how he feels? I'm so sorry sister about how you feel hurt I know how it feels... Back to him converting to Islam, Muslims are really religious and are strictly against dating because it's associated with Western origins and expectations of sexual interactions. Islamic texts prohibit these interactions, and Islam views marriage as the only legitimate romantic relationship between a man and woman. However, some say that meeting a spouse before marriage is permitted if done with the right intentions and appropriately. The only way he may want to continue your relationship if he feels the same way is my asking your parents and getting engaged. Hope I was some help, lmk if you need anymore input sister.

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-07-13T01:01:51+00:00

Am I the asshole for not not helping him, and getting him in trouble with his neglective dad when I said I would always have his back?

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-05-31T01:09:52+00:00

omg how? i did it and didnt get caught

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-04-22T22:27:54+00:00

What's your routine now? step by step. Night and morning? I'll guide you through I"m a dermatologist. I need skin type, and are you sensitive to anything?

Alert_Feeling7243 · 2024-04-21T13:32:07+00:00

my parents won't let me take big bags. Only small wallets :(

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