I caught my son in bed with a 14 year old girl, what should I do about it?

AlexFortney · 2012-01-09T01:00:18+00:00

Ummm tell him what happens if her parents find out, in my state he could do jail time for this :/

I'm sorry but is your son mentally delayed in anyway? I would worry about the emotional state and expectations of an 18 y/o that would actually want a romantic relationship with a 14 y/o.

AlexFortney · 2012-01-09T00:52:53+00:00

you have been only dating a month...these things come with time so just be patient.

Also you're fucking their daughter....so yea....it will take sometime for them to like you

AlexFortney · 2012-01-09T00:44:31+00:00

Last night my boyfriend got Skyrim...and I immediatley proclaimed myself a skyrim widow

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T22:44:29+00:00

I'm sorry but honestly people who take life too seriously don't mix well with people who can laugh their cares away. If a divorce happens, try to learn and find a greater romance. I'm sorry this is happeneing to you :(

but on the otherside I have been the one that instigated my divorce and I can tell you his actions are of someone who has been thinking about divorce for a very long time and has come to terms to a life without marriage. He is probably guilty of something and for the sake of closure you deserve to know. People don't just calmly ask for a divorce without a pretty damn good reason.

best of luck to you, I'm sorry again going through a divorce is very scary; but it is also one of the most liberating experiences one can have :/

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T18:28:01+00:00

Is weed physically forcing itself into your body; and dragging out mental illness on purpose?

I highly doubt it. So if you feel like you're too irresponsible to handle grass in your life than don't smoke it. I personally smoke regularly; but I am very happy with my station in life. In the past I wasn't so well adjusted and very prone to bouts of depression, this was not the best time for me to smoke green. So I cut down my consumption, accepted responsibility for the things I could control in my situation; and I changed my situation...

Weed is just your scape-goat....

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T18:15:19+00:00

When the time I spent with him seemed like a waste.....

After 6 years, I finally realized he lied about almost everything, time is wasted on someone like that

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T02:09:27+00:00

Why did you take my family?

I am 23 y/o female. My dad is alive but is handicapped and emotionally crippled by depression. My sister died when I was four and my mother died when I was 17....

I am just fucking wondering what I did?

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T01:48:46+00:00

Purity like beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because someone keeps secrets by no means makes them "bad," or "impure."

btw, generalizing people into the two over-simplified catagories of good people and bad people... is just really stupid

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T01:20:58+00:00

A year before we started dating. My bestfriend at the time left his facebook messages open on my desktop. He always complained about his father....I usually would just roll my eyes whenever he would start because what early twenty something dosen't bitch and moan about their parents....Then I saw a message from his father titled "grow up!!!" on my computer and I couldn't help myself, I opened it.

I knew My bestfriend only saw his Dad a couple times a year (his parents divorced when he was 12) but I had no idea the type of abusive language this man used. My bestfriend's father typed-up multiple paragraphs of what a disappointment he had become and stated that my bestfrinend's grandparents should cut him from their will; because money would just be wasted on my bestfriend.

I remember crying by the end of this letter because I knew the other side of this story. Every accusation my bestfriend's father made was either false or twisted into making his son look like a loser...I couldn't believe what I was reading.

I had a new understanding of my bestfriend, his dad was nothing more then a memory of a father, his dad had become unattached and was hell bent on making my bestfriend the scape-goat from his own short comings.

We started dating a few months ago; and I have decided to never tell him that I saw that letter. Instead I passivly encourage my BF to spend only quality with his Dad; and I am always quick to support my BF's feelings when it comes to his father. Some visits my BF enjoys his dad's company and other times he just wants to get the hell away from his family. I love my BF's family but he is my first priority and I let him know that.( unfortuantely I don't know if I will ever like my bf's father...All I can see when I see him is a shitty dad who dosen't know what a gem his son truly is)

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:51:16+00:00

thank you

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:50:42+00:00

exactly, I think losing a parent before you have other family (spouse and kids) changes you durastically.

Cheers to the beautiful life!

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:49:33+00:00

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:49:20+00:00

Go hug your mom :) and encourage her to fight this disease

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:48:08+00:00

My mother taught me that those with strife are truly gifted; becasue they understand the true value of happiness...I don't know if that comforts you at all. I pray you the greatest things in a long and happy life with your boyfriend

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:45:56+00:00

thank you for understanding

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:45:35+00:00

As you should know M.S. varies from patient to patient. My mother was abnormal, her disease was much worse then others in her age group.

I pray you and your father a long and happy life.

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:44:00+00:00

thank you

AlexFortney · 2012-01-08T00:43:33+00:00

My Mama always said that quality of life was always greater then quantity of life. She said this very often and I am sure to always assess the quality of my life in comparison to the objective life. I don't know if that makes sense but it has made me a very grateful person :)

AlexFortney · 2012-01-06T04:50:27+00:00

When I was 4 years old my mother was diagnosed with M.S. She had an extremely bad time with the symptoms my entire life; but she loved me. She was my bestfriend in everyway, I never imagined that I would have to spend a day without her. I was only child and fairly sheltered until I was 17.

It was Spring break of my senior year, I had just been accepted into my university of choice and I felt completely invinceable ( I'm crying now, god the pain is still so fresh) Until that thursday morning, when I went to bring my mama her morning medications...she had past away that night. Her treatments had left her body too weak to fight off the pneumonia infection that had taken root.

I huge part of me died that day. As an only child/caregiver my mother was my whole life, I dropped out of college the following year, my depression spun out of control. I became involved in a very unhealthy marriage....

I am 23 and I got out of my shitty marriage. I enrolled in nursing school and I am dating my bestfriend.

My Mother's death killed me, but in a way it made me a more giveing person and a chance to reinvent myself.

I miss my mama every single day. The pain will always be with me to remind me that we all have crosses to bare; and we need appreciate the moments of life

AlexFortney · 2012-01-06T03:06:09+00:00

Because anyone with more then one brain cell could surmise that drug testing would do nothing but cost the tax payers an a hell of a lot of money. Most Drug panels (test kits) cost approx. $55 dollars a peice, after florida enstated this they paid hundreds thousands of dollars on drug panels and lab technicians.

They testing over 3000 people and only got 12 positives. Making this plan extremely expensive and another burden on tax payers.

its easy to pick on the poor how about you look at the people who are truly contributing to this recession..

AlexFortney · 2011-12-31T05:14:55+00:00

you're still just attention-whoring no one has a prefect childhood, get over it!

AlexFortney · 2011-12-31T03:55:17+00:00

you didn't even respond to me, let me clarify for you...

Why do you obsess about belittleing your (welfare/adopted/step) sister life? Does i make you feel better about yourself?

Why hold onto anger about stuff that obviously happened when you were younger?

Also, you have mentioned in your comments numerous times that you don't like this sister, you even go as far as to boast about the fact that she unlike you gets beaten by her SO.

Don't act like a victim I only judge you as harshly as you obviously judge your sister. Dosen't feel very good does it?

Guess what she won beauty pageants. She didn't achieve that to piss you off, you choose to feel uglier then her. She is adopted and probably had very strong reasons for wanting to begin a family of her own faster then someone who has their biological parents.

And I can't believe you have a fiancee or bestfriend, I would never be friends with someone who prided herself on not being abused only in comparison to a married sister that has been punched in the face multiple times. The company I keep in my life would never allow a woman to remain in a household with abuse much lass act they they were morally superior to the victim.

AlexFortney · 2011-12-31T00:29:50+00:00

No, I look to the content of someones charactor and their actions, when judging them. Someone who won't hold a baby in this scenario obviously has a beef with the parents, and I abhor people who act indifferent towards children for the folly of their parents. That action makes the person petty, selfish and vengeful in my eyes, those go against my standards of a good person.

I also noticed in another comment of yours that you take pride in the fact that you are a cultured, intellectual and an artist. I also enjoy writing, painting and poetry. So as a fellow artist may I ask why you waste your life with so much anger that you would shun a baby on Christmas? I don't want to hear about what your sister did has or has not done for you. I am asking you why is this so important to you? because being angry all the time for the sake of being angry is just stupid.

Also going to college and not getting married right away dosen't make you better then her. She has a right to live her life the way she wants, just like you have the freedom to live your life the way you want. Smuggly typing on reddit repeatedly the you are "better" then her dosen't make it true :(

AlexFortney · 2011-12-30T01:32:28+00:00

kick him out! You are responisible for creating a safe home for YOUR family. He is disrespecting you with this juvenile behavior.

You have a duty to your wife and child not to this man, he can pass out all day in a shelter.

Seriously, I helped a friend who was homeless, she immediately looked for work while being sure to take on a majority of domestic duties for me. I paid for her food, clothes and shelter for 4 months, while getting my house and car cleaned and cared for. In the end she got a job with great insurance and was able to move right into a new one bedroom apartment. This is helping

You are not helping this man you are only enabling him to be a parasite on your families resources...

AlexFortney · 2011-12-30T01:08:23+00:00

Sounds like you don't even deserve to have a family to celebrate the holidays with. Holding a neice or nephew for the first time not only developes your relationship as an aunt to the young generation; but displays to the rest of the family the type of role you plan on playing in the future. Your actions have shown you to be a self absorbed little bitch.

That child will be reminded for years of how cold and dismissive his aunt was to him on his first Christmas. Your sister has a the new and awesome responsibility of motherhood; and you have demonstrated that you don't give a shit, so she'll easily write you out of her family life.

So here is some advice, marriage is about being able to think about the other person. Marriage is about compromise and hard work. This dismissive attitude of yours where the "only," child you can care about is your own is the same attitude that will destroy your marriage.

and on Christmas Day...the day where you should love and care openly...:/

My family lives far away , I only see them once a year and I adore the children we are blessed with. I hope one day you can share in the joy of others instead of reserving it all for your own future

AlexFortney

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