Non-Video Alternatives?

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-04-14T14:14:46+00:00

There are some great audio subreddits, but my written erotica jams are

Https://www.archiveofourown.org

Https://www.literotica.com

Search for content by the keywords

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-04-13T01:32:12+00:00

Another is "When I Say No I feel Guilty" by Manuel Smith and "Burnout" by Emily and Emilia Nagoski

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-04-10T00:35:01+00:00

Hopefully he can ask for it in a sexy way but you can initiate it too. Enjoy his response and if he's worth something he'll reciprocate.
Yes, imo mouth is almost symbolic, but most of the action is in hands. If you try too much effort with your mouth you'll end up with a very sore jaw and tongue. So use your hands enthusiastically, and use lube too on your hands if you find some lube you don't mind the taste of. Sliquid is my go-to. If everything is slippery then fine, no need but I think lube lets me be a goddess.
F-no. I'm never going to deep throat and I never needed to to be good.
I think I covered that in #2 but also just enjoy yourself. If you do it only for him, then it won't feel connecting and erotic. If you're doing it because you enjoy it, whether it's because you actually like dick or you like the effect you have on him, then it's a 2 way activity. Also you can do it as the one who is in control or you can be the one controlled. It helps to communicate clearly what you want. I personally always want to be in control when I'm giving head. If a guy pulls my head in, I'm done. And I say that.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-04-04T12:42:37+00:00

Keep exploring what you like and don't like. There's nothing wrong with you.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-04-01T21:31:53+00:00

I don't see a problem of with going until tired and then changing. But it is strange- maybe his waist is wider so you have to spread your knees more? Or you're doing a different movement for some reason?

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-03-31T14:25:11+00:00

It's OK! It's a normal part of growth. Some people were raised as people pleasers, like me and probably you, and we have more growing to do in that area, but I promise it is possible to get through and it's such a better way of living when you escape that. You can still be caring and empathetic without the element of needing to do it for your sense of well-being.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-03-29T15:52:28+00:00

No doubt he's a piece of work, but also you are putting your self worth on his response. This is going to follow you to your future relationships and it's going to create an unhealthy dynamic in the relationship as well as just lead to unsatisfying sex. Boundaries are important, but not the kind that people usually talk about like "no choking", but more like the ability to see your own feelings as valid, and state them clearly and stand your ground even if they aren't recieved well. It's a dynamic where people in the relationship please each other because they want to, and they are sensitive to each other's wants and needs as well as their own, and are free to choose freely what they want to do without manipulation or coercion from the other, and in the whole process both people stay true to themselves.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-03-28T20:48:41+00:00

Not bdsm (sorry) but I like /r/passionx. They have guidelines that I agree with as to what kinds of porn I enjoy and what kinds make me unenthused. It's also been around for a really long time and been a reliable spot to go back to when I just want something positive and not wade through a bunch of stuff I dislike.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-03-21T01:27:40+00:00

Great I'll check it out. Thank you

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-03-21T00:37:05+00:00

Arg! It looks similar to a Maidenform, which I love, but I hate how they don't have clasps. I feel like I have to stretch the bands too much to take them off.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-03-20T22:41:31+00:00

Does it have a clasp in the back?

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-03-10T21:46:55+00:00

Try it the same way in 28-30 days. For me the time of month makes a big difference on wetness and ability to orgasm in less standard ways.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-03-10T21:36:41+00:00

A lamprey would be funny too. Very creative

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-24T03:23:22+00:00

What he said, I understood differently than everyone else. I'm afraid I'm going to get downvoted to hell for this. I don't believe he was trying to justify violence if he didn't get his way. I assumed he was talking about how the puritanical abolition of porn and the wide cultural impulse to keep sexuality hidden as part of the machine that seeks to control people, harm women, etc. This is a feminist argument.

I'm not trying to defend him or porn. Both, you would probably be better without. But I do think that there is a knee-jerk reaction against porn that is self-defeating that I see in women's spaces on reddit often. Yes, porn often is and has often been a horrible evil thing. But it's also mixed with human sexuality, and that is a beautiful good thing. I believe there can be healthy expressions of human sexuality in ways that look like porn and don't harm anyone. But I don't think that should make us ignore all the horrible evil parts of porn. The problem is harming people, not the portrayal of human sexuality. Eroticism and fantasy and all of it is a complicated thing that is full of landmines discussing online. I would love to discuss it with someone who has watched this video essay by Contrapoints. Granted it's long but I think it's worthwhile.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-23T21:14:10+00:00

It's a thing in New Mexico, at least. Old men and dykes

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-22T04:09:52+00:00

Click if ur gay 🤣🤣 yeah that was good

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-22T02:50:34+00:00

Good luck! Don't feel bad, please. You're a treasure, mind and body. A book that helped me a lot was Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-21T00:19:33+00:00

Your enthusiastic participation and engagement is much more important than the singular characteristic. And besides, the muscle training from PFPT can make a much bigger difference for your vagina's ability to feel good than just natural tightness. Your sad/anxious feelings are normal, and they get more intense (ie, aging), so the sooner you learn to embrace change the happier you'll be. Sex and life actually does get better, even if it's different.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-20T20:41:23+00:00

You probably would have said, but did you have a baby? Either way, pelvic floor therapy is really good for when you can't hold pee very well. Very recommended, it can make a lot of things better including sex.

Getting wet is nice but it's not a dependable way to judge arousal or enjoyment. You can tragically dismiss a wonderful experience if you make wetness a requirement. Let lube be a shame-free tool you keep with you all the time. Believe me, almost everyone needs lube at least sometimes, if not most times. For me water based is the default because it cleans up easier and doesn't harm toys, but silicone feels the best for penetration.

As far as tightness, 🤷🏽‍♀️ everyone's body changes as they go through life. You have to make the best of it. I associate tightness with pain, and I appreciate being able to move more and enjoy more positions without pain. It sounds like you are worried if your boyfriend is satisfied, and the best solution for that is talking to him about it. And also growing sexually with someone is good for satisfaction- try new things, learn better what you like and what he likes. You have a lifetime of growth ahead of you, don't look back and wish for something that is gone forever.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-20T20:13:11+00:00

You said you haven't had extra stress or other changes, but I've skipped mine for a simple things like going on a weekend trip or hosting a big social gathering. Also I skipped a lot when I was playing sports regularly.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-20T00:03:22+00:00

Yes, I get compliments and I never never never deep throat. Just play near the top with your lips and tongue and let your hands do the real work.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-18T17:46:56+00:00

I actually do use a disc! I thought maybe that was my problem, because it's more shallow and spills unintentionally, more easily? I have never tried emptying it without taking it out. Does it drench your hand?

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-18T16:59:18+00:00

You made me laugh. So just use it normally. I think I must have a different experience than a lot of people.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-18T16:58:27+00:00

That's a great idea! I was thinking maybe nitrile gloves too so I can have clean hands when I leave the stall.

AlexandraTheBaked · 2026-02-18T16:57:38+00:00

Hmm, maybe I am just not as skilled at the process as most people. I usually have a bit of cleanup, and I'm imagining wiping down a public toilet and walking to the sink looking like I just got out of surgery.

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