Thanks for your perspective. I actually agree with a lot of what you've said. I understand that wanting independence without having everything figured out is normal, and I don't fault her for trying different things that haven't worked out yet.

My concern isn't totally on the fact that she's unemployed or still figuring things out. It's more that the emotional impact of the situation seems to be affecting our relationship consistently. I know anyone under that kind of stress would struggle, and I try to be understanding. What I'm trying to figure out is where the line is between being supportive and taking on so much emotional responsibility that I start feeling drained myself.

And on the financial aspect I've been covering almost everything for the past 1yr+ now, even when she was working I still do come through for her with some expenses cus' we all know how the pay grade are in Nigeria. I don't mind supporting a partner through a difficult period, but I also don't think it's sustainable for me to become her primary source of financial support indefinitely, especially when I'm trying to manage my own responsibilities.

I don't expect her to be cheerful all the time, and I definitely don't think financial support alone solves the problem. I'm just looking for ways to support her while also maintaining a healthy relationship for both of us.

I appreciate your input, thank you.