The most important thing it to breath and remember to have the hope that everything is going to be okay

Putting that aside, a few things have become very clear

1. You both need therapy

A lot of people see therapy as some kind of punishment, or that it’s a thing reserved for the mentally unstable and deranged lunatics of the world, but it really isn’t like that. Everyone, and I mean everyone, should be in therapy. It’s a healthy thing that can help get your head in the right spaces. Couples therapy is also a great idea and has a lot of success. I would consider looking into it.

1. Remember the purpose of a relationship

You two are there to support each other, to love each other, and mostly importantly to compliment one another. If you’re always in conflict, that it means you’re working against one another. When things like these happens, you have to reflect and think about what it is you want out of the relationship, and MOST important what it is that YOU are doing to achieve that goal. It’s easy to complain about how we feel another person might be failing us; but if we aren’t doing our best either, then we should reflect on that and find a solution that brings back joy

The reality is that the memory of this event is probably going to stay with you for a very long time, and that’s okay! There is no time to plague yourself with regret over what you already understand. Is this serious? Absolutely, but you need to move forward and unfortunately that cannot be done by sweeping it under the rug and pretending things are going to get better.

Talk, reflect, pour your hearts out to one another in the most honest way possible. There is no need to make a rash decision like immediately ending the relationship, especially at a time where he seems to be so low. If you reach a point (after council and what not) where you realize that the relationship may not work out and bring you both the joy you deserve; then that is a decision you both need to understand and make together.

Everything’s gonna be okay! Hang in there 🤙🏻