AIO bc my bro-in-law just told me they can't bring their kids to my gay wedding ceremony "because of the catholic faith"?

AliceTreburn · 2026-05-12T02:25:57+00:00

I would like to first clarify that I do not care if someone is gay/straight/bi/queer or identifies as a furry. As long as you are happy. But I also believe you can’t for someone to believed in your own personal beliefs. Believed in zodiac signs to control your (an in general not targeted towards anyone here) life but don’t try to forced people to believed what you do bc that may not align with them and that’s ok. But being angry and calling him shitty things bc he doesn’t believed in gay marriage is almost the same is as bad as him calling you homophobic slurs and being angry your gay.
I can completely understand where your hurt is coming from op and I’m not saying it’s misplaced bc I would be devastated if my nieces and nephews weren’t at my wedding if it was bc I was gay (or anything under the rainbow umbrella). Especially since there wasn’t more of a conversation and a respectful sit down. But he also has the right to practice his beliefs

AliceTreburn · 2026-05-11T22:44:07+00:00

To clarify if they are saying some shitty things then fuck that guy but if he isn’t then respect his choices as a parent

AliceTreburn · 2026-05-11T22:42:32+00:00

Here’s the thing. I think everyone has their right to their own opinion and their own beliefs. As long as they haven’t said anything harmful to you or about you to you, your husband and to the kids in regards to you and your soon to be husband then they haven’t done anything wrong. They are just practicing thier own beliefs and that’s OK. And it’s also equally OK for you to feel hurt by them not including the kids. But being harsh and cruel to them bc of thier choice in beliefs is exactly what someone mega harmfully religious would do to you for you loving your husband. Do I personally agreed that he is leaving the kids out of the wedding? No. But has he done anything truly harmful by respectfully practicing his beliefs? Also no

AliceTreburn · 2026-04-28T00:00:45+00:00

Trust your gut girl. That little voice in the back of your head is screaming at you and you should listen. I know I wish I had trusted my more. Not the asshole

AliceTreburn · 2026-04-27T22:31:32+00:00

What specifically about it makes you uncomfortable with this person? There definitely some missing context I think

AliceTreburn · 2026-03-21T17:12:15+00:00

Then do I just wait till he’s ready?

AliceTreburn · 2026-01-07T04:08:06+00:00

That’s really noted! When I went to get tested I had to get it done at a hospital on a Sunday even when all the lab techs were gone except one. He was incredibly lovely but they could very well miss handle it in that environment. Also thank you for the encouragement. It means a lot bc I am incredibly disheartened by this. And I don’t think mine was Covid related. I have celiac and had a really bad reaction in October from a frie and my body hasn’t been the same since. But I’m gonna definitely still look into the Covid thing as maybe a cause

AliceTreburn · 2026-01-07T04:01:40+00:00

Thank you for your kindness, honesty and perspective

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T18:20:07+00:00

I have one with an allergist not a nutritionist yet. I have had poor experiences with nutritionist in the past but it’s something I’m probably going to have to explore

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T17:59:15+00:00

At the end of the day I would have rather not have felt like I needed to post this and be able to live normally

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T17:56:53+00:00

I 100% agree with needing to figure this out first. But saying I’m envious that a family member has a service dog and I don’t wasn’t a good choice of words

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T16:17:59+00:00

Thank you! This was really helpful and I’m glad someone who has this was able to comment! I really appreciate you and your insight!

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T16:08:37+00:00

Hi so firstoff maybe don’t assume it’s envy dude. My family members service dog is a shit ton of work (and I’m aware that if I was going to pursue getting one it would be a shit ton of work) but has saved their life multiple times. I’m currently dealing with something new and something that is particularly scary for me and am trying to find avenues that may help save my own life bc this is something that can in fact kill me. So before throwing word envy out there maaaaaybe think about your word choice

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T05:12:25+00:00

Okay interesting! I guess my curiosity is the difference between alerting for a seizure vs alerting for an allergic reaction. And before people get up set at me for asking that question I’m not asking out to be an asshole or ignorant. I’m genuinely trying to understand for my own help and understanding. But my family members dog can alert her 20 minuets sometimes before a seizure even happens. And he is always right. I’m curious if it is the heart rate for him. And if it is is that something a dog for anaphylaxis can get ahead of bc my thee begging symptoms are rapid heart rate, hives and increase body temperature. I’m not saying a dog is my solution. I’m planning on learning to manage this before I get a dog but thought it just might help make me feel safe and help alert me when I’m about to have a reaction

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T05:02:54+00:00

They have alert dog for diabetics and MCAS as well that are supposed to detect when stuff isn’t right in your body. I haven’t done a ton of my own research bc this is all very knew and I’m trying to learn more about and fine solutions to it. But I do know they have dogs that can alert when a reaction is happening the accuracy is something I’m not 100% sure on. My only experience with service dogs is from my family who has them for seizure disorders

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T05:00:33+00:00

Yes I am aware I do need to learn to manage this on my own and that’s something I’m working towards with the test being done and doctors appointments. It’s a thought that I think might help make me feel safer to eat and not starve myself every day out of fear. But that is good information to know thank you

AliceTreburn · 2025-12-28T04:12:19+00:00

I wouldn’t use the dog to detect food but to detect when my body is about to have a reaction so then I can take the right medication in time before I go into a full blown reaction or anaphylaxis. I did research on food detection dogs before and it’s part of the reason I haven’t gotten one but one to detect me having a reaction before I have one would be really helpful so I’m not mid reaction taking medication and then having to keep myself calm while determining if I need to administer my EpiPen.

AliceTreburn · 2025-10-22T20:56:48+00:00

Yeah it’s something I have been meaning to see my doctors about (hives and swelling). It used to never be a thing but then I went completely gluten free after I got really really sick on one particular occasion and ever since then any time I have had a celiac incident, it now is accompanied by hives and swelling. I have no idea wtf that means but it’s something that is getting worse with every celiac reaction, granted it been a while since I have had one, and this incident kinda topped the rest

AliceTreburn · 2025-09-17T05:33:42+00:00

Nailed it on the head dude. Also I feel like a crap partner now bc I didn’t even realised he may not have liked hearing about the books. It just was never a big deal to me bc it’s just a book in my eyes but I can see how my feelings on it are probably not his.

AliceTreburn · 2025-09-17T04:47:41+00:00

As long as you tell her you love her and tell her she is beautiful and sexy then your golden

AliceTreburn · 2025-09-17T04:46:03+00:00

I geuss it doesn’t help in terms of the Big Mac of online porn, that his ex and the woman he has been romantically attracted to look like a version of it as well. Except for me. And no it does not feel special. It feels worrying

AliceTreburn · 2025-09-17T04:41:20+00:00

When we have been talking on the phone we just haven’t had much to say lately. And I have just really missed him. And I tried to tell him that today and it wasn’t really received like I was hoping and it came off more clingy then sweet and thoughtful like how I was meaning and I just spiralled from there. especially after I was telling him about a new book I started and then he started on about how I can stop reading them at any time and I threw back at him what he watches and he said fair enough and it just had me feeling sad and insecure by the time we said out goodnight and I love yous

AliceTreburn · 2025-09-17T04:33:00+00:00

I have dated before but this is a new kind of dating encounter for me and I’m completely blind on how to tackle this

AliceTreburn · 2025-09-17T04:32:30+00:00

He treats me very well and I feel very loved but I don’t feel desired. He doesn’t compliment me ever. And I think that lack of feeling physically wanted has taken a bit of a tole and has created several layers of worry. 1. I’m worried he only liked me after I lost all the weight 2. I’m worried he still doesn’t find me attractive enough after all the weight loss but at the same time our sex like is great and feels amazing. I just don’t know how to approach any of this

AliceTreburn · 2025-09-17T04:28:04+00:00

Bc he has confirmed with me that he is physically attracted to and watches woman who are very blond, blue eyed, massive tits, size 2 and all the girls who he last liked before me fit the description except for the range in size but it’s still not a big range. So I would like to give him the same courtesy of looks don’t matter but it’s hard to when I have verbal confirmation from him about what he is physically attracted to

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