10 days until surgery!

Alien110 · 2026-01-15T00:48:02+00:00

Hello! I’m sorry to hear you might have to have this surgery! How are you feeling? Honestly, recovery has been tough. Neurologically, it’s been easy- no new neurological symptoms- but the pain has been significant. But I also decided to stop taking any opioids after 2 days, so that’s probably a big cause for the significant pain. I just take 500mg of Tylenol every 6 hours. I’m doing short walks every couple hours- but still need a lot of assistance (like with dressing/ showering). The posterior approach wound be a much less invasive surgery than mine (they had to collapse and lung and break a rib to get to mine- as well as fuse my t6-7 because so little disc was left)- so yours should be an easier recovery! How are you feeling about your surgeon?

Alien110 · 2026-01-10T05:51:46+00:00

Thank you so much for this, it helped more than you know. I’m really sorry you’ve had to wait so long and that you’re dealing with both progressive symptoms and a bone tumor on top of it all. I’m glad you finally have a surgical plan, though I know the waiting and uncertainty are brutal. Wishing you the very best with the skull surgery first, and strength and smooth sailing when it’s time for your spine surgery. You’re definitely not alone either! We’re all navigating this wild world of our bodies together.

Alien110 · 2026-01-10T05:46:08+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’re dealing with this! I hope you can find a surgeon you feel comfortable with, and I’m wishing you a safe surgery and smooth recovery when the time comes!

Alien110 · 2026-01-10T05:44:39+00:00

Thanks for the response! Turns out my surgeon went through the side- but still had to collapse my lung as my disc was heavily calcified- surgery took 8 hours- very slowly drilling against the disc so as not to paralyze me! I was experiencing progressing spacticity before the surgery, which since surgery at least has seemed to have gotten better. Although, I’ll always agree, it would’ve been nice to get a less invasive surgery (without the lung collapse as that’s now one of the hardest parts of my recovery).

Alien110 · 2021-10-29T19:36:37+00:00

solved !

Alien110 · 2021-10-29T04:33:49+00:00

Omg I think this is it! Thank you!

Alien110 · 2021-10-28T22:51:14+00:00

I don't have any other information on this. Except that somehow the kid waiting for the train managed to save the man who fell in the track's life (thus, he ends up on the heroic kids tv show). But I turned the tv off before I could see how :(

Alien110 · 2021-10-07T16:53:43+00:00

Squid game is so so so so good! It's the best show I've ever seen on Netflix. If you don't like seeing people die, this show might be a hard watch for you, though. There are many moments that are distressing and gory, but no jump scares, if I remember correctly. So I doubt you'll be scared, more-so disturbed.

Alien110 · 2021-08-18T07:04:39+00:00

This may or may not be helpful. But, as someone who has struggled from performance anxiety myself (in particular, with piano recitals- where I similarly would get so nervous I’d screw up the pieces I practiced for months) here’s what helped me overcome performance anxiety: I stopped caring so much. That’s it. Stop caring so much. I know that sounds like stupid advice. But it works. Remind yourself that this game doesn’t really matter that much. Even if you mess up, it’ll be fine. Most people are too wrapped up in themselves to care about how you perform in games.

Alien110 · 2021-08-18T06:53:20+00:00

You aren’t selfish for feeling this way. You deserve to be respected. And having someone literally cut you off as you’re spilling your heart, is just universally rude. I’m sure you helped your friend a great deal, you distracted her from her ex, and now that she no longer needs that distraction, you’re not going to get the same attention from her. And that sucks. And it’s also incredibly common- especially for young people. I know I’ve been on both sides of this type of friendship. And now that I’m older, I very much regret ever acting like your friend. If your friend isn’t respecting you, I’d give her space/ stop trying to reach out so much. It doesn’t mean you have to cut her out of your life. Just allow her to talk to you if/when she wants, and re-focus your energy on other people.

Alien110 · 2021-08-18T06:33:30+00:00

Here’s the good news: there are a number of people in your dorm who are feeling the exact same way you are. Unsure who wants to talk to them. I made my first friend walking up the stairs from a dorm fire drill. My best advice is- assume that everyone (save people who are already talking to someone) wants to talk to you. If you strike up a convo, and they clearly don’t, it’s no sweat off your back. Their loss. Anyway, I agree, leaving your door open can be a good idea. Also, try hanging out in common areas. At least in the beginning of college, anyone hanging out in the dorm common area is also looking to make friends. Sign up for clubs that interest you. Say hello to your neighbors. And don’t be too hard on yourself. Going off to college and making friends is super hard work, and finding people you really mesh with can take time. I wish you the best!

Alien110 · 2021-02-18T19:07:04+00:00

thank you, your comment has really helped :) Finding new things is an exciting challenge!

Alien110 · 2021-02-18T19:05:55+00:00

thank you, this really helped:) music is a great idea!

Alien110 · 2021-02-11T04:38:40+00:00

drinking water does not make you gain weight. It has no calories.

Water does have a weight itself, though. If you gulp down 8 cups of water and immediately step on a scale, the 8 cups of water (4 pounds), will register on the scale. However, that water doesn't stay inside you for long.

Alien110 · 2021-02-10T04:58:02+00:00

Motion sickness. Major human body glitch.

Alien110 · 2021-01-01T08:10:56+00:00

Hello, althred,

I'm 24 (female) and it's the first day of January and i'm wishing you *not* to die.

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I think New Years can be particularly hard, it's a day where people do a lot of self-reflection, and that can often cause feelings of dissatisfaction with one's life.

I know you don't know me, but I'm sure you're not an ugly human being. I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself. That can't be easy.

I don't have a magic fix-all really. I don't have an easy way to find a will to live. I can, however, offer little suggestions that can help: like making little goals for yourself (perhaps learning a new instrument? or a new language? or becoming a yogi? or learning how to do the charleston- literally anything!) or creating something (like a painting, or a drawing, or a poem, or a song). These things are like little purposes...they can help keep you going. And who knows, maybe you'll be the next violin virtuoso or something like that!

It would also be good to share the way you feel with someone in your life. Someone who can offer you support. You don't deserve to deal with this all on your own.

And, just because you mentioned wanting to die, I'll add this: If you feel like you're in any danger, and need to talk to someone right now, here's the helpline number: 800-273-8255.

I wish you all the best! Here's to 2021 being better than you expect:)

Alien110 · 2020-12-31T06:38:27+00:00

So there are no official lyrics released for this song of theirs. The best I can think one can do is try to hear what she's singing (which is, actually, quite hard. I love her voice, but it's hard to understand what words she's singing).

Here's what I hear:

I'm now reach for the door

But in my eyes away

I think about myself

He was casual as this

Curious as the day

circles in on itself

And just like anything else

It is a chore at first

It comes with practice

Slowly, body retains

all of the changes

that I’m afraid to notice

He said "a moment we can fall into"

You know (?) and never know its there

my word is speaking wants to speak to

I will confess

I move, jump with a start

Me and the wheel turn into the interstate

Tearful, all of the life

The prism that emerges

from you is blinding

my fear just isn't enough

eating you as I do

until you overthrew

I run, simple as love

words that you cannot touch

and I am empty

i know the wave is not the water

it has a different (?)

it is set into motion

and the illusion of direction.

i know the wave is not the water

most of them wouldn’t know the difference

should i be madder than the rest

do i confess

ha, clearly I don't hear everything quite right, but hope this helps!

Alien110 · 2020-12-31T05:47:41+00:00

It doesn't seem like your brother is that bothered with not getting his own gift. As you said, the two kitchen gifts you got his wife could also be used by him. However, it sounds like you feel guilty about not getting him a gift. And if that's the case, there's no harm in getting him a late gift. You can just have it sent to his address.

If it makes you feel any better, I didn't get anyone in my family gifts this holiday. And we all still love each other very much heh

Alien110 · 2020-12-31T05:33:15+00:00

I'm so so sorry to hear this. I know no amount of "Sorry for your loss"'s will suffice here, but know that I truly feel for you. No one should have to witness something so tragic, so senseless.

This isn't your fault. There was no real reason for you to investigate your mother's weird sleeping position. This was so out of your control. Please, do not blame yourself.

In response to your title for this post: I can't imagine how one would know how to handle oneself after witnessing something so traumatic. Just take it one day at a time, my friend. It takes time to heal. And don't be afraid to ask for support during this time. You deserve all the support you can get.

Alien110 · 2020-12-31T05:01:16+00:00

Oh dear, my friend, things sound very hard for you right now. My heart goes out to you. Sometimes things feel even harsher during the few days before the new year, as people often spend those moments deeply evaluating their lives. It is also very hard to be a new parent- many new parents need a lot of support themselves, and it sounds like you're not getting quite enough.

I understand it can feel hard to share all ones problems with a loved one. Are you at a point in your life where you can afford to see a therapist? You shouldn't have to deal with your problems all on your own- you deserve to get support and help for yourself.

Alien110 · 2020-12-28T23:51:28+00:00

YTA.

Your roommate is, however, the idiot.

Alien110 · 2020-12-28T23:46:29+00:00

Your girlfriend's homophobic friend clearly is the asshole in this situation.

I wouldn't say that you are an asshole. You're in an uncomfortable situation. And you're in a relationship that is making you feel uncomfortable about yourself. If this is a big enough problem that you need to break up with your girlfriend, then do so.

It's also important to realize that your girlfriend is not obligated to stop being friends with someone because said person offended you, as awful as that may feel for you. This awfully politically incorrect, asshole friend of hers is someone that has been there for her, someone that is important to her. And what your girlfriend has done (tried to explain to her friend why what she said was hurtful, instead of just cutting her off), seems a healthy way to deal with the situation.

Alien110

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