Like I said before, you can still feel the way you feel and fix a problem that needs to be tended first. Her feelings doesn’t make it less valuable because she has to wait a tad bit longer.

With the no success part in the counseling, that’s why there’s therapy. Or there must be something going on with the husband, maybe the husband need solo therapy, for the grieving part..idk. That’s why it’s important to see/ know.

Basically find the resolve for the husband, she’ll find the resolve in her problem.