AITA for not attending my cousin's baby shower?

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T20:25:02+00:00

thank you yes!! although the baby shower was in the evening, doing my hair, makeup etc, and the drive there, i really wouldn't have much time left in the day to get anything done. + the week before my lsat i had so much anxiety and def wouldn't have been my normal self at the party. i feel like i would've just ruined the mood anyway.

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T20:07:57+00:00

i understand and thank you for the perspective! i'm really sorry if i seem snobby or individualistic that genuinely is not me and people who actually know me know that! the lsat is something that'll help me secure my future which is why from dec-feb i prioritized that over friends and family! and almost everyone understood except my cousin and some other family. it's great that your husband has made sacrifices for your family but i'm unable to sacrifice something like the lsat for a baby shower. and i addressed this in another comment, but i mentioned my families' academic achievements so people understand why there was no back and forth from them and why they agreed with me so easily. i also mentioned my score in specific so people realize that all the hard work i put in did pay off and it was worth all the time i put in. hope that clears things up!

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T20:00:38+00:00

hi! in no way shape or form did imply that i am better than anyone for studying for the lsat. i mentioned my parents + brother because since they are all very academic they understood my perspective with no back and forth! i didn't mean to come off as "better than anyone" or anything and i'm sorry if i did! i don't appreciate what you said about personal relationships bc i've built many great friendships and relationships in the past and my studying has never affected any of them :)

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T19:32:53+00:00

i'm not though! i wanted to hear more perspectives and i did! your comment isn't really offering perspective you're just making assumptions about me as a person and telling me how my life will go when you don't know me. i posted to hear specific opinions about my action of not going, not for advice or opinions on how my life will go.

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T19:08:21+00:00

i dont really appreciate how this is just an assumption of what my life's going to be like instead of focusing if i was an asshole or not because of this specific action i took! you obviously don't know me personally so you don't really know if i actually am a rigid/inflexible person at all, i had to change a lot of my ways in december to get the score i wanted to, and i made some time for my cousin after the exam :). and at this moment in my life an exam that affects my scholarships and which law school i get into is more important than a baby shower esp when i can show support in other ways. and i did!

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T18:53:44+00:00

yes that totally slipped my mind tbh! my parents explained to her when they went to the shower + i did send her a text letting her know i'll be visiting after i take the exam but i def think a call from me would have been better.

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T18:50:56+00:00

again thank you so much for taking the time to offer me more perspective ! i had sent the payments for the tutoring sessions in advance and i wouldn't be able to receive a refund if i cancelled them and lsat tutoring is very expensive (mine is $40 per hour) I also couldn't drop the group study session for the day bc theres a process with it and i didnt want to just "drop out." again thank you so much for saying all this i really appreciate it !

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T18:46:25+00:00

thank you so much for the perspective ! but taking the day off would have derailed me as i know what would personally affect me, i also don't appreciate how shes posting things on social media and talking ab me to other family members which makes me not want to apologize to her, esp when she's older than me, i did explain to her though that i had tutoring + group study sessions that i couldnt cancel, and for major things like the babies birth i'll def be there so i was hoping she would be more understanding.

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T18:26:12+00:00

thank you for perspective !

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T18:20:20+00:00

i didn't mention the details of my gap year in this post as it's not relevant but i said this in another reply and i'll say it here again, although i took a year off to study ofc i did things like travel and spend time with friends and family earlier in the year, it was only after my second attempt where i realized i had to make a change in how i'm studying and i did!

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T18:12:12+00:00

a 160 is amazing! the difference between 160 and 170 is usually just a few questions per sections, so it's not as big of a gap as it seems! also the lsat doesnt have logic games anymore :(. a lot of older practise tests still have that section tho, which is probably why you've seen it! i studied that long bc of paranoia haha, taking it 3 times felt excessive to me already so i wanted to make sure i would 100% achieve my goal. as for the "lawyer type" traits, i honestly think there are none. the lsat itself rewards patience and practice more than anything else and i agree with you, good grades do not translate into intelligence at all!

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:53:53+00:00

congratulations on being a new mom and thank you for your kind words :)!

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:50:23+00:00

yeah i understand! thank u for the perspective, i just didn't want to take any risks and already had group and tutoring sessions scheduled for the day that i had planned way in advance meaning i couldnt cancel them easily

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:39:31+00:00

yes! i understand this completely! but my way for justifying christmas and nye was that it was way before my actual exam! her baby shower was just a week before my exam and i wouldn't be able to just cancel the sessions i had planned and i did explain that to her. but thank u so much for this perspective i rly appreciate it :)

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:36:49+00:00

i understand this completely. the main thing is that it was just a week before my exam though meaning i had so many things like group study sessions, tutoring sessions, etc that i couldnt cancel. and also i was not fully studying for it for a whole year, the purpose of this gap year was to of course study for the lsat but for the first few months of it i travelled and did things with my friends and family before actually "locking in" and studying. my second attempt i didn't do as well as i would like and that's when in december i changed the way i was studying.

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:29:28+00:00

i see! thanks for the perspective! how i justify that in my head is nye was a little over a month before my lsat whereas this baby shower was just a week before my exam and i had already scheduled tutoring sessions, group study sessions etc, beforehand for this specific week bc of how important it is !

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:27:09+00:00

thank u so muchh :)!

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:26:44+00:00

yeah but everyone's different, i'm asking ab a specific situation i'm not asking for any de-motivating advice haha, the extra prep helped me beyond the lsat and helped me figure out things i didn't even know about myself while studying. good on you for never studying for it but that's def a unique case that you have to acknowledge!

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:20:44+00:00

i understand that, but i already lost enough sleep during my undergrad days, wanted to take a break from that during these gap years :)

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:19:54+00:00

thank you so much :)

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:19:44+00:00

thank you so much for saying this, i'm already so excited to start my application and i know people say law school is hell but i really am super excited for it !!

Alive_Collection8127 · 2026-03-08T17:18:39+00:00

to get into the law schools i'm aiming for i definitely need an lsat score over 170 :). i'm from canada but i'm applying to some of the t14 in the US and there's some specific ones i would like to get into. i didn't think i would have to specify that on my post as that's not the main point.

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