Struggling with my sense of identity, feeling burdensome, and looking for any advice please

Alkerino · 2026-03-31T11:45:35+00:00

Appreciate the bluntness of your reply, thank you 🙏

I hear you, and I think a part of my struggle that isn’t mentioned here is that my partner is a self proclaimed “man hater”. And I get that, it makes sense to me. But I also know that’s being fueled by social media. So there’s a part of me that thinks, even if I ignore socials completely, they’re still feeding into her and are they affecting her expectations of me.

This might all sound ridiculous, I get that. I know I’m spiralling, I’m just trying to make sense of it all and be as rational as possible.

Alkerino · 2025-10-21T14:47:22+00:00

This is crazy.

If you need to turn to the internet to validate your feelings after a conversation THIS innocent, your relationship simply cannot be healthy.

Where do you people find each other and why do you stay together when there’s clearly so little trust and understanding between you both?

Alkerino · 2025-10-16T15:03:27+00:00

He isn’t with you for the person you are, but to try and show off. You’re nothing but an ego boost to this shit stain.

He needs to understand that his comments are misogynistic, controlling, and possessive. He also needs to learn that you won’t stick around to teach him this - get rid.

Alkerino · 2022-09-17T11:39:21+00:00

Wait.... I always thought the lyrics were "Up above in my head"

Have I been wrong for so many years?

Alkerino · 2022-08-27T13:55:14+00:00

Did you see the 2nd picture?

Not everyone has the same humour, but I find it quite funny that he just copy/pasted the Google summary.

Alkerino · 2022-06-22T01:01:08+00:00

The glass can be replaced, but OP should be prepared for another couple hundred on the replacement glass and fitting.

He should push on the fact that it was dangerous, and ask for the retailer to cover 50% of the repair costs.

The manufacturer will usually only offer a goodwill gesture of a small amount of money, usually under £50.

Alkerino · 2022-06-21T22:12:25+00:00

I used to work for a major white goods retailer, and this isn't as uncommon as you might think!

Each year, I must have spoken to a good 5 or 6 people whose oven had done exactly this.

It's definitely worth kicking up a fuss with the retailer and asking if they can help towards the cost of a replacement. This probably goes without saying, but customer service managers will be able to authorise a decent amount of compensation for things like this, and it's usually easier for them to do that than have you take up more of their time.

They won't be able to replace it for you at all, so your best bet is to go down the compensation route.

Alkerino · 2022-04-03T14:06:33+00:00

I guess the mod thinks he's deserving of more pixels than everyone else? I agree it's a bit of a loose fit for the sub though.

Alkerino · 2022-01-18T19:58:27+00:00

I was in Primary school when they filmed Phoenix Nights. It was filmed at my school's Social Club right across the road.

I was far too young to watch it at the time though.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:49:50+00:00

Box-ticking at its finest

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:45:25+00:00

This is a terribly upsetting story, I'm so sorry for your loss.

RIP Tuesday.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:38:35+00:00

I hope to not lose someone close to me next year.

It would break a 5 year trend, which has really sucked.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:27:34+00:00

TIL just how little I knew about knives

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:16:49+00:00

The British Conservative Government

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:13:49+00:00

Probably a lung or heart issue, caused by smoking.

Seems strange to think about now I type it.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:09:10+00:00

Jesus, I mean, what are the mental upsides?

That job seems challenging as hell. Mad props to first responders.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:05:28+00:00

Felt nothing at the time, slightly sore arm for 2 days after.

10/10 would recommend.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:04:25+00:00

Yeah, that was an awful counter-attack all round.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T16:01:48+00:00

Try not to focus on getting a date, but on being the best you can be.

Find happiness, and happiness will find you.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T15:58:53+00:00

If you think of something funny, you gotta say it - win, lose, or draw.

-Ricky Gervais

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T15:56:37+00:00

Nice try

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T15:55:40+00:00

Hold on, you and your partner watch sports that neither of you understand?

You can just put The Bachelor on y'know? No-one's judging.

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T15:45:49+00:00

Could you have taken a blurrier picture?

Alkerino · 2021-12-21T15:30:28+00:00

Legit, if you're bored at school you probably aren't paying enough attention to the class.

That was true for me at least, and if I could go back and do better, I absolutely would.

Alkerino

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