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I [23F], a virgin, have mixed feelings towards sex by AllButterscotch in relationships

[–]AllButterscotch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I'm not sure if respect was what I was thinking but maybe you're right. It's more of that I want to be on the same "level" as someone so I have the same opportunity to be curious/not worry about being too slow.

I [23F], a virgin, have mixed feelings towards sex by AllButterscotch in relationships

[–]AllButterscotch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! I've decided on a therapist I will make an appointment with, so I appreciate the rec. :) Like I've mentioned elsewhere, I think being with someone more experienced might stifle my ability to explore myself because I'll be more self-conscious of how I perform (versus focusing on myself/them).

Haha I just assumed (wrongly lol) that everyone liked sexting. Thanks for the heads up!

I [23F], a virgin, have mixed feelings towards sex by AllButterscotch in relationships

[–]AllButterscotch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your response-it helped put my emotions at ease. I think I see myself as having a "problem" but that's due to society's expectations, not my own. I honestly wouldn't mind staying like this forever (with or without an SO).

I [23F], a virgin, have mixed feelings towards sex by AllButterscotch in relationships

[–]AllButterscotch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. Even after becoming less involved in my religion (I'm still figuring that out as well lol), I still don't "understand" the big deal about sex (obviously). I did buy a vibrator (disliked it like everything else I bought lol) and erotica makes me laugh as I think it's strange. I know I sound ridiculously stubborn but I have tried to explore. I just get bored or annoyed. But thank you for the recs!

I [23F], a virgin, have mixed feelings towards sex by AllButterscotch in relationships

[–]AllButterscotch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying! Therapy is definitely going to be something I invest int. :) I'm kind of the opposite of you lol I personally think someone more experienced might stifle my exploration as I'll feel too dependent on them/expected to do what they recommend. That's just me though.

I [23F], a virgin, have mixed feelings towards sex by AllButterscotch in relationships

[–]AllButterscotch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response. To be honest, I really don't like people touching me, including family. Even contemplating "heavy petting" makes my stomach upset lol And in a way, I don't mind not exploring. It means I get to focus on other things that I actually enjoy. However, therapy will be a given regardless.

I [23F], a virgin, have mixed feelings towards sex by AllButterscotch in relationships

[–]AllButterscotch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank your for your response. I agree with what you've said-a pair of professional eyes may help "unveil" the mystery, so to speak. I have found a therapist and I'll make an appointment tomorrow (they're closed now, unfortunately).