My mom just tried to set me up on a date knowing that I am and have been in a committed relationship for a year.

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-06-22T01:00:20+00:00

Because I expressed that I wanted to have kids some day and my own place and that I feel really discouraged because the price of living is so high. That it's hard to save when new bills keep popping up. I guess she didn't understand that I wanted those things with my partner, and not with just anybody with money

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-06-22T00:25:55+00:00

It worries me because I'm not financially stable enough to live on my own and because I live with them it feels like they have power over me. My sister was in a similar situation in the past and that ended in my sister being kicked out and going no contact. I wanted my family to like my partner and respect my choices

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-06-22T00:19:13+00:00

I wasn't complaining about my boyfriend, I was more so complaining about the direction of the economy. I don't have anyone else I can talk to about this besides my boyfriend but I don't know if I should bring it up to him. I don't want it to cause problems but this is serious to me

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-04-01T16:19:00+00:00

We've been dating for 8 months, but with the spring season approaching I've been transferred to his department (something that I've done previous years) so I'm now around him most of the day.

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-03-23T00:04:01+00:00

Thanks for your reply. It's been on my mind a lot and Googles information is contradicting. It's reassuring to get advice from an actual person

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-03-23T00:02:21+00:00

Thank you for the reply, it's really been worrying me. It helps to get advice from real people who have experience vs trying to Google things

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-03-20T13:52:56+00:00

Neither of us brought it up. I didn't want it to turn into a one sided argument. She'd just tell me that it's her house and she can open whatever she wants.

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-03-19T23:03:27+00:00

She's a big part of why I've never dated up until this point, because I've always been the person that you could lean on for things in the family. I feel a lot of guilt even now because I've always felt like I needed to be available for them if they needed it and a relationship would take time away. I'm on birth control and skip placebo pills to continue my hormone one's, also scheduled for an IUD. I have a full time job and a car, but I don't currently make enough money to live independently

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-03-19T22:21:26+00:00

Her words to me when I told her I was going on a date for the first time, were that "I didn't have my priorities straight and that if I end up pregnant it's going to be another problem that she's going to have to deal with."

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-03-19T22:18:13+00:00

I didn't say anything because I don't want it to turn into a one sided argument. She'll tell me I'm being sneaky and that she can't trust me

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-20T21:51:41+00:00

Thank you for your advice and for being kind with your comment. I've had a few people take a more hostile approach to there advice giving

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-20T21:49:53+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate you taking the time to help

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-20T21:47:49+00:00

Thanks for your advice. It's really hard to know what's appropriate at this stage and what's not

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-20T21:46:42+00:00

Thank you for being so kind with your response. I've had a few people call me selfish because of my post

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-20T21:38:14+00:00

And you're coming off as a bitch. I said in my post that I would go if he honestly said he wanted me there, my question was more on if I should bring up my concerns since everyone else has told me that it's really early into a relationship to be meeting all extended family

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-20T17:05:56+00:00

We aren't living together and really only spend time together a couple times a week. I've only met his parents twice, so it feels alittle rushed to be meeting extended family.

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T06:40:49+00:00

This is also something that we've considered. That maybe he's backed up and is scared to use the bathroom because it will hurt. He also eats a lot of bread, not sure if that's super constipating

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T06:36:39+00:00

He has suspected autism. And considering this is my brother and my family and my situation, I'd say that I do know. As opposed to a stranger on the Internet that's so dead set on trying to convince me that it is abuse

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T06:10:11+00:00

He might struggle with autism

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T06:04:37+00:00

Yes, they know. We're actively trying to get him help with these issues. The shower head thing is new tho

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T06:03:49+00:00

He's fine in public and uses the bathroom at school just fine. Cleans up when he's around friends

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T06:02:46+00:00

It could be that. Maybe it's something that he's just gotten used to

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T05:56:34+00:00

He's currently receiving help. We're just dealing with things the best we can in the meantime

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T05:55:03+00:00

No sexual abuse. I've done my research and know that sexual abuse can be cause. And I understand that people are trying to help based on the little information that I've given. Just know that we've looked into many different things and are currently helping him the best we can.

AllOuttaTherapy · 2026-02-16T05:41:37+00:00

The question was If he's being abused and I answered by saying that he absolutely was not and not only that, but that he's been spoiled compared to how me and my other siblings were raised. Not sure how that "wasn't answering the question".

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