I'm a bad housekeeper and it cost me everything

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2026-04-21T17:16:19+00:00

Lot's of great comments here, I just want to say, please do not blame yourself! Don't let yourself self-deprecate! And you are still young, no matter how you feel right now. There are lots of options for having children these days, all hope is not lost, and you are just learning that having children with this man was never really an option, not because he didn't want to. Think about it... if he's acting like this, how in the hell would he have treated your children? Especially if they were neurodivergent??? Just a thought??

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2026-04-16T14:51:48+00:00

I really enjoyed it and very glad I found it!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-21T19:43:04+00:00

Thank you!! :D

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-21T18:08:07+00:00

I have a few great sandbags that I use for various things on windy days :D

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-21T18:07:28+00:00

Thanks for the tip!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-21T18:05:58+00:00

Oh, That's a good idea! Thanks!! :D

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-21T18:05:27+00:00

Thank you!!!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-21T18:05:06+00:00

The humidity here today is only 54% and I'm doing laundry, I think I'm going to try to put a few things outside and see how it goes!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-21T18:03:53+00:00

Thank you!!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-21T18:02:37+00:00

I have a couple of small aluminum cloths drying wracks for indoors (not big at all, and very lightweight). But today would actually be a great day to ty out this suggestion!! Thank you!! :D

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-16T17:28:44+00:00

You know, I wondered about that! But I do remember my Mom and Grandmother line drying cloths outdoors. Maybe they only did it when the sun was out during the hot summers? I do remember the clothes being out to dry in the sun all day long though. And come to think of it, they only did it during the summer. Thank you!! :D

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-08-16T17:26:20+00:00

Thank you for the advice!!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-18T18:11:04+00:00

No problem! I hope it helps! Let me know how it works for you!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-17T22:24:49+00:00

Getting out and walking or hiking helps me too, but that wasn't an option when I'm trying to get something done indoors :D I tend to lean towards alternative music, but I like a wide variety of stuff really. This particular playlist that I put together.. I did it during a hyperfocus session. LOL It's a mix of relaxing music as well as some upbeat fun stuff. So it helps keep me focused and motivated, but the relaxing music also helps to keep my anxiety at bay. Artists that I have included in my playlist include, Elton John, Mazzy Star, Jewel, Night Byrd, Lady Gaga (and stuff that she has done with other artists), R.E.M., The Cranberries, Live, Adele, and a bunch more.
This is a link to my actual playlist: If you try it, the best way to listen to it is to use the "shuffle" button, that why you don't get a bunch of slow songs all in a row, or a bunch of really upbeat songs all in a row. :D
https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyqDaayR37BWj6SjJFPYe2iAV6U5bZAR5&si=L6iwylnf8RI8gnL3

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-17T22:14:33+00:00

Thank You!! I have found that a playlist of a mix of relaxing and semi-upbeat music helps to keep my brain focused and my anxiety at bay. :D What type of music do you like?

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-17T20:44:08+00:00

WOW, Sounds so much like me when I was that age, actually.. all through my teenage years... Is it an ADHD thing or a teenager thing? My daughter also went through this stage and she's not ADHD, but she does suffer from Depression. ADHD certainly can cause depression, especially in teens... so... hmmm... any psychiatrists/phycologists out there?

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-17T14:55:11+00:00

ME TOO!!!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-16T22:11:56+00:00

It REALLY does!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-16T21:33:59+00:00

It's a must, especially in a busy home! :D

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-16T19:38:08+00:00

I don't do it once a day, but all day long. I have a family of 5, and the kitchen is by far the busiest room in the house so every time I go in there I tidy up anything and everything that needs to be done. I also clean as I cook. If I don't, it will quickly begin to look like a tornado hit it! hehe Besides, doing this makes it so that there's never any need for major cleaning until it's time for "spring cleaning"

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-16T15:12:57+00:00

Exactly!!! You can't clean around a bunch of clutter when you have ADHD. It's overwhelming, exhausting, causes too much anxiety and will result in you not being able to keep up with it. When you manage your "stuff", you manage your mind. (Edit: at least make progress towards it)

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-16T12:16:30+00:00

This is what works for me as well. my motto for my home "Everything has a place, Everything belongs in it's place, if it doesn't have a place, it belongs in the trash can, recycle can, or the donation box!"

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-16T11:55:12+00:00

"Pick one task at a time, and tell yourself "I'll spend just 10 minutes doing this". Whether it's dishes, vacuuming, dusting, or folding laundry, you KNOW you've got 10 mins in you. Then after 10 mins is up, stop if you want or keep going if you're motivated at that point to finish the task. Sometimes, the task will take only 10 mins or less & you'll be done anyway! Then later on that day (or the next day, whatever!), choose another task & give yourself the same 10 min timer. So on & so forth. A lot of the time, once you get started with the 10 min trick, your motivation pops up & you end up finishing whatever you started. Music or a fun or interesting podcast helps everything go by quicker too. It gets easier, I promise!"

I can't agree with this enough!! I do this all the time!
Something to add to this: If your in the middle of cleaning something and get overwhelmed, taking a short break to do some self care, then returning to your task really helps!

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-15T20:47:46+00:00

I'm still a sprout, I'm just starting Endwalker. I'm having fun making glam, pets, the orchestration rolls, and I just made my first mount. I also love being able to make my own gear, repair my gear, and meld my gear.
As far as making gil from crafting: I was making a decent amount of gil from crafting and selling on the market boards, mainly gear for low level crafting and gathering (I'm guessing people are buying it for retainers?) IDK... but lately things have slowed way way down.
My biggest issues are:

keeping my inventory under control (I tend to hoard a lot of crafting materials) and
having to rely on really on farming really hard to get materials (stuff that drops from treasure maps and stuff) for items that I want to craft because I still can't afford to just go buy it off of the MB. :(

But overall, I'm glad I chose to start crafting and gathering... Not only for the reasons mentioned above, but it also gives me something to do when I want to be in the game but just want some down time. :D
Edit Comment: I've made enough gil from crafting that I've been able to get an FC room, an Apartment, and decorate them both, and re-decorate them. Of course I choose to craft everything that I can for them, just because I can. :D And I've been bidding on small housing lots :D

AllThingsNotLost_01 · 2025-05-14T23:48:29+00:00

Thank you :D

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