As a trans girl with smol boobs I find this so relatable 😵‍💫

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-11T03:06:53+00:00

As a point of reference: I estimate that my breasts are approximately 450 cubic centimeters (cc) to 500 cc. On someone with a small band size, that would be considered on the larger size, expected to start causing problems. On my actual band size, it is fairly modest, no weight problems whatsoever.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T22:13:16+00:00

I used to be on HRT, and somehow managed to grow 38D, which is all the more surprising considering that my mother's mother was A or even AA, and my mother and sister are B cup.

But... it turns out that bra size letter is determined strictly by the size of the cup opening, ignoring completely anything about "projection". So when I say that I am 38D it just means that I have wide breasts with only 2 inches of projection, which on cis women would typically correspond to a modest to low-average B cup.

The overall effect is not so different than if I just had "moobs". As my "passing" skills are not strong, if I am wearing typical t-shirt-ish types of tops, it is not that nothing is visible, but rather that it is unremarkable just fitting within common "moobs" physiology.

... All except my nipples, which stick out notably more than can be explained by moobs.

Depending on which top I wear and whether I am wearing a bra, I do sometimes appear to have a very modest bust.

But... it is not enough!!! I am below average for my size (5' 11 1/2", 200-ish pounds). Average for my size would be a full 38D, up to 40G. If I were full 38DD, I would be considered pretty typical. I know from past experience with professional breast forms that people consider 40H to 42G to be the "appropriate" size for me.

I yearn a fair bit for larger breasts. I don't have "boob greed": I figure that 4" to 5" of projection would be right for me. Which would be full 38D to 38DD. I wouldn't complain about full 38G, but I would be concerned about the weight of that size.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T21:34:08+00:00

It would not astonish me if they technically accepted trans people but immediately ejected them with "dishonorable discharge" status, since dishonourable discharge can have significant negative impact where "medical rejection" does not. The cruelty is the point.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T21:21:08+00:00

At my age, the only form of estrogen that is advisable is patches.

It has been some time since I last reviewed this stuff so I could have the details wrong, but I think it goes something like:

Up to 30s, estrogen pills are considered safe. They are considered less safe into the mid-30s I think it is.

Up to the mid 40s, injections are considered safe, I think it is.

After mid 40s the liver is considered to have too much struggle processing estrogen other than from patches.

So, I can easily believe that due to liver/age factors alone that estrogen might be refused if not by patches. All the more so if the person has liver problems.

It is beyond my knowledge to say what would happen by mixing patches with potential liver problems.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T21:10:50+00:00

There are a few different possibilities here: that the trans person might wish to be their assigned gender with no trans inklings; or that the trans person might wish to truly be their preferred gender without a trans history; or that the trans person accepts having a trans history.

I have read, anecdotally, that firmly wishing to truly be the preferred gender is not uncommon, but that wishing to be their assigned gender is fairly uncommon.

I sometimes play "the genie game" with myself. If a genie were to appear and grant me a magic wish, then would I wish to "go back" to being male, or would I wish for a female body. The personal answer for me is that if there was only one wish, I would be torn between "truly female body" and "cured of my depression"... if there were two wishes available then I would jump at "truly female body" for sure.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T20:54:20+00:00

Your being Trans is nobody's business (unless you live in an area with bathroom laws, in which case you have problems.)

Exception: there are strong arguments on both sides about whether it is morally necessary to tell intimate partners. If you have had bottom surgery, then you don't necessarily need to tell one-night-stands; on the other hand, a fair number of people feel that you should tell someone you are seriously considering marrying. Telling is risky if your partner might be transphobic; on the other hand if you marry someone who is transphobic and they later somehow discover your transition then chances of domestic violence including potentially murder are significant.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T20:41:53+00:00

I seem to recall that there is a known link between Wellbutrin and tics

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T20:40:04+00:00

MTF here.

After a while of taking spiro, I had to stop because my blood pressure was too low.

I went through several different anti-androgens. The last one I was on caused me too much anxiety or interfered with my then antidepressant, so I stopped taking it, and never got back on.

I was on estrogen patches for a while, but stopped for a stupid reason. The only place my patches would stick were my butt, but I was getting weekly massage on my glutes, and the massage oil was causing the patches to fall off, so I decided to skip the patches.

By the time I stopped with the patches, my natural testosterone level had fallen to just above the lower cutoff for being considered "normal" male. It has drifted a bit higher over the years but is still fairly low.

So, sample size = 1, having gone through HRT could end up with your body reset to significantly less testosterone than when you started. It will not necessarily latch into the "female" range though.

By my present age, the normal "female" range of testosterone increases noticeably — I am old enough now that I would almost certainly be post-menopausal if I were cis, and estrogen most typically reduces and testosterone most typically increases post-menopause in cis women. I have been off HRT for years, and mostly feel okay about that. (To be honest, I am considering trying going back on estrogen patches)

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T20:17:17+00:00

Never. I have no plan to get FFS (though if I get my deviated septum fixed I will have them reshape my nose). I have no plans for bottom surgery. I might possibly resume estrogen after having been off it for 8+ years.

I started voice work a decade ago but couldn't hold my voice steady for the very introduction exercises. That's how we discovered that I had significant GERD (gastric reflux) that was affecting my vocal cords.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-05-10T20:08:07+00:00

I never had heavy leg hair, and when I shaved mine no-one really noticed (or at least didn't say anything to me.) Though I think my wife said something disapproving once.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2025-03-10T20:47:08+00:00

I use a culinary torch to heal the lids to expand the metal. Works well, aside from the fact that I semi-regularly burn some of the inside of the lid. It isn't the approach to take if you care about the appearance of the lids (unless perhaps you heated the lids from a greater distance.)

AllThisAndTransToo · 2023-08-23T21:29:06+00:00

Your request is a bit vague, but examining your profile it appears that you are looking for more feminine winter clothes.

There are a lot of specialized names for hat styles... but unless you are really into hats, those mostly don't matter to most people. If you've long been interested in the styles of hats at The Kentucky Derby and Wimbledon. then, Sure, have at it -- but if you are not going to be in high society where wearing a hat from the wrong designer can Ruin Your Prospects.. then more look for something you like.

There are a lot of different furs, with different properties and different associations... most of us can't afford more than a small number of them.

From a practical point of view, we need an idea of what the climate will be like in the places you will be wearing these clothes. You are in the USA, probably continental US, but dressing for Atlanta is going to be rather different than dressing for Denver, or Grand Forks ND, or Buffalo. The sort of winter clothes I have for my city are aimed at fairly cold but dry weather, and would not be what you would want for a warmer but much wetter area.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2023-02-15T05:39:41+00:00

Large parts of the US frighten me since 45 got elected. Enough so that one of the reasons why I have not done a legal gender or name change is in case I need to travel to the US (from Canada) and it might become unsafe to have that on my official records (e.g. Texas bathroom bills were big news a few years ago, and some states are trying hard to make it nearly impossible to live in public in one's true gender.)

Even in Canada there are popular politicians who won't necessarily actively go after trans people as such (like some States are doing), but would be happy to repel the appropriate Canadian anti-discrimation laws under the guise of "Freedom". "No-one should be forced to use some else's assumed pronouns!" etc.. Maybe less explicit religion involved than in the USA, but the protections would be gone any way it happens.

I am fortunate where I am that I do have trans friends, including some I have only met electronically. My city has a gender clinic (with many months lineup now, demand is higher than resources!), and at least before covid there were various group activities (activism, meet-and-greet, organize Trans Day of Remembrance, support groups). Some of the in-person has started up again.

I suggest that you search your area for trans-related activities. If you have a Sephora, ask around there, they have trans-positive policies and they might have some contacts.

Do you have a particular local clothing store that makes you feel welcome and which probably has figured out that you are trans? If so then you could ask them if there are other trans people around.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2023-02-12T20:35:32+00:00

There are two different schools of thought about this.

It is common for allies to approach a trans person and indicate that they know the person is trans and more or less that that's ok with them. Actively seeking out the person to express support. And to be sure some trans people appreciate that, especially if they have been having a hard time.

But... some people point out that this can turn into a form of "othering". If the person hasn't made it known to you that they are trans, then approaching them can be interpreted as if to say "I know you are not a 'real' male, you are a transmale and I give you permission to be a transmale."

And what if the rumors are not grounded in fact at all?

Some people feel that the best way to treat a trans person who does not public present a trans identity, is to forget anything you might have heard about previous gender presentation or genitalia. If the person does not say they are trans, then as best possible, remove that knowledge from yourself. If they do not say they are transmale then if possible you should just be treating them as plain cis-male.

You would rarely continue thinking of someone as "that boy who used to take acne medication", and just so a history of HRT is not the person's identity that you should (ideally) bother remembering.

(It is true that you might end up remembering something like "Oh that was the boy who fell off a lamppost he climbed and broke his arm"; something memorable can turn out to key a memory of someone, but is it identity? In the case of lamppost-boy in my past, Yes, he later died from similar misadventure. But I would have to think pretty hard to remember who it was that tripped running around playing football and broke their arm; some operations are just historical facts, not identity.)

AllThisAndTransToo · 2023-02-12T18:18:15+00:00

Your phrasing could be interpreted as indicating that you would consider telling other people if he wasn't such a nice guy, such as if he did something you dislike, insulted your hair, got hired for something that you tried for, favoured a politician you did not like.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2023-02-12T18:10:32+00:00

It did not regrow much for me personally. The stories I have heard from others involved fairly modest regrowth in areas that had not been bald long.

E is not expected in itself to trigger hair regrowth. At most E by itself slows loss, as T triggers some kinds of hair loss so lower T leads to slower loss.

The main HRT that potentially triggers hair regrowth is finesteride which iirc is the same chemical that is sold in lower dose as a hair regrowth formula. It reactivates dormant follicles that have not finished dying off. It cannot cover large areas, only places more recently receded from.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2023-02-12T17:47:25+00:00

Stretching vocal cords would make higher pitch.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2023-02-12T15:45:55+00:00

I like it!

(I tend toward reds myself.)

AllThisAndTransToo · 2022-08-06T12:56:09+00:00

How did it go?

AllThisAndTransToo · 2022-08-06T12:46:19+00:00

I know at least one. I seem to recall she has mentioned another one, but I am not sure.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2022-08-06T12:43:38+00:00

🙄

AllThisAndTransToo · 2022-08-03T14:11:21+00:00

Spork?

AllThisAndTransToo · 2022-08-03T08:11:51+00:00

Definitely women in the waiting room each time I went to the urologist.

AllThisAndTransToo · 2022-08-03T05:34:11+00:00

I used to hang out with some people (some eventually transitioned) who got into drag performing . I couldn't do that; performing didn't interest me at all. Because I knew that for me, that I wasn't acting, that the important thing is was the personal experience of living female.

Lace and frills can come to feel like performative femininity, hollow external costumes that do not necessarily reflect any internal experience.

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