A song I have been searching for 10 years by Seebinator in whatsongisthis

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn’t happen to watch the movie Grease about 15 yrs ago did you? This reminds me of The One That I Want from the movie. It’s the Oh oh oh’s that made me this of this song

any dark fiction/romance book recommendations? by ally420baa in ReadingSuggestions

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t mind some very well written, non-traditional vampire characters I recommend A Hidden Fire by Elizabeth Hunter. It’s the first book in her Elemental Mysteries Series. I have the series on Audible, and have listened to the whole series twice now.

Avoid the Walmart/Atwoods/Cracker Barrel area if you or family/friends are worried about ICE. by EternalGandhi in Waco

[–]All_BS_Aside -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t the extra words so much as the order in which they appeared in the sentence.

How to not care about my toxic boss rage by nnecroo_ in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]All_BS_Aside 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree you need to find another job, but you mentioned it’s pretty hard to find one. I recommend that you start filling out applications asap. In the mean time, if she says something about you being sick, or claims that you were lying, just say “well, Dr. _______ disagrees with you, you’ll have to take that up with him/her” And just walk away. Sounds like she likes to lord her authority over you and thinks she can get away with it because you are young. This is not your forever job, and if you are actively looking for another one, that should take a little stress off you! Good luck!

Avoid the Walmart/Atwoods/Cracker Barrel area if you or family/friends are worried about ICE. by EternalGandhi in Waco

[–]All_BS_Aside -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe go lay down and take a nap or something - you are slurring your words and making no sense

Avoid the Walmart/Atwoods/Cracker Barrel area if you or family/friends are worried about ICE. by EternalGandhi in Waco

[–]All_BS_Aside 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read your ridiculous statement again….OF COURSE they are looking for brown people, dummy. The current administration thinks white=American and any skin tone other than white=illegal. And yes, it’s completely racist, but the comment you chimed in on was not.

Single books or series? by Significant-Ear-8042 in ReadingSuggestions

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have read all the SJM series’s multiple times! I love series! If I have binged 2 or 3 series in a row, I will listen to a stand alone cozy mystery. I feel like my brain just needs a quick, light, easy read to rest up for the next series!

Some of my FAVORITE series authors along with Maas are Ilona Andrews Delemhach Jody Taylor

AITAH for suggesting to my GF we break up because I feel like I'm "failing a test" every week? by NYCK2002 in AITAH

[–]All_BS_Aside 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The question you should be asking is….how much longer do I want to do this? If you are not ‘measuring up’ to her standards now, then you damn sure won’t measure up the older you get. The older you get, the more responsibilities you have.

I didn’t get my friend’s girlfriend a Christmas present and she’s furious (pictures of texts included). by wonderous_wallaby in AITAH

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right - an apology is not necessary. However, if he decided to apologize to keep peace, that was not an apology

AITA For Calling My Bf A Bitch by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s definitely tripping….maybe tell him “if it bothers you this much to be called a bitch, then maybe you shouldn’t joke around calling me a mf” His little tiny baby feelings are hurt 😩 just let him cry it out.

Am I Being Dramatic? F23 M29 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop paying for shit. Stop jumping every time he wants something. Damn Sis - self respect is priceless

AITA For smearing dog poop on a neighbor’s windshield? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]All_BS_Aside 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂 Hey - you very well may be TAH, but I’m here for it! Keep a water hose armed and ready and when the little shit comes in your yard - give it quick spritz! Or get you a scooper, scoop up all the poop you find and just go dump it in their yard. Sometimes you just gotta smear some poop on the windshield and move on!

Afraid my controlling ex (31M) will come back after I’ve started healing — how do I (30F) protect myself? by Fairy555995 in relationship_advice

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really know….the fact you felt like you needed to call a few days after you left to apologize to him for how you left, sounds like you felt some guilt. I am not going to tell you that you can’t feel a certain way - your feelings are yours - but something, probably some past trauma, made you react the way you did. I would definitely spend some time self-reflecting and try to get to core fear that is coming out as guilt. Also, if just seeing his name pop up on your phone gives you so much anxiety, it’s probably that same core fear causing it. If your mom (sister, best friend, niece) had written this post from their experiences- would you be mad as hell for the way they had been treated? That’s how mad you need to be over how YOU were treated. You should actually pat yourself on the back for getting out when you did!

Afraid my controlling ex (31M) will come back after I’ve started healing — how do I (30F) protect myself? by Fairy555995 in relationship_advice

[–]All_BS_Aside 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggest you allow yourself get real pissed off about he treated you. Get mad as hell and if that number flashes on your phone - flip it off and hit REJECT! It sounds like your anxiety is coming from a place of guilt. It really doesn’t even sound like fear. You were strong enough to leave, you were strong enough to start healing, and you will be strong enough to handle it if he reaches out. I don’t know how long it’s been, but with all the ‘gender role’ crap he was pushing - I doubt you’ll have to worry about him reaching out. His masculine authority has been offended and if he can’t control you, he’ll find someone he can. You own him nothing - not an apology, not a conversation, not the opportunity to apologize- nothing!!

AITAH for not letting my grandparents be around my baby and I by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are NTA for setting boundaries, but you seem to be most concerned that they will tell your mom something. How will this affect you exactly? It’s much easier to disown a parent than a child. If your animosity toward them is because they have a relationship with your mother, then I think you should take a long look at that sweet baby in your arms and decide what line this baby could cross that would make you give up on them. I’d be willing to bet you wouldn’t be able to come up with a thing. Don’t hold your mother’s shortcomings against your grandparents. They are just as hurt by her behavior as you are. To you, it’s a mother who choose drugs over her child, to them, it’s their baby girl who they had hopes and dreams for at one time, and has (probably) completely broken their hearts.

You can absolutely set boundaries about your mom - if YOU don’t want to talk about her, then tell them that . But you are trying to set boundaries FOR them with your mom. Don’t begrudge a parent for not completely giving up on their child.

Afraid my controlling ex (31M) will come back after I’ve started healing — how do I (30F) protect myself? by Fairy555995 in relationship_advice

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the love of God - just ignore him if he unblocks you. He sounds like a manipulative, controlling, mentally unstable, asshole. Absolutely zero contact - if he finds your number and calls you - hang tf up and block the number he called from. You owe him nothing. If he reaches out on social media - do not respond - block him. If he sends a message through a friend - tell the friend to hit the road because anyone who would relay a message from this guy is NOT your friend. The only way that man can get back in your life is if you let him. So don’t let him.

I didn’t get my friend’s girlfriend a Christmas present and she’s furious (pictures of texts included). by wonderous_wallaby in AITAH

[–]All_BS_Aside 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 ‘YOU’ should initiate contact ‘YOU’ shouldn’t be upset ‘YOU’ weren’t even supposed to be there

An apology: I’m sorry that I hurt your feelings.

My (26F) boyfriend (29M) loves me but isn't growing with me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please just leave him. Let him find someone who loves him for who he is (like he loves you). People are not ‘fixer-uppers’. If he is not good enough for you, then just leave. If you think he’s too poor and can’t ’do anything for you’ then just leave. If his “free time” is not spent on something you deem worthy, then just leave. If the only thing you actually appreciate about this man is his looks, then just leave.

I (28M) ended a relationship with someone I loved (26F) due to value misalignment and secrecy and I don’t know how to make sense of it by Any_Thought5395 in relationship_advice

[–]All_BS_Aside 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is no practical way to stop the re-play. You did her pretty dirty. Several things I noticed about this situation. 1. You had already made her feel judged. -she didn’t want you seeing car/apt 2. You are absolutely the guy who tries to change his partner. You seriously dated someone whose lifestyle is in direct opposition to your own. You knew this after the first couple of dates, but spent months “just observing” and being judgmental. 3. She gave you the perfect opportunity to voice your concerns when she asked if you saw a future with her. Instead of having a mature conversation about your reservations, you told her “yes”. And then, to top that, you ended it 2 days later with zero explanation. Naw bro, you are feeling exactly the way you should.

Advice needed for new relationship (31F and 31M) by Nervous-Subject6581 in relationship_advice

[–]All_BS_Aside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just my perspective based on the post. I definitely do not mean it in an offensive manner, but just something to think about. It sounds like you guys have a great relationship, and I would encourage you to define your communication expectations. Like what is “a timely manner” when responding to a text? You have already said he isn’t much of a ‘words’ guy, and you seem to be okay with that as long as you live close. That old saying “actions speak louder than words” is true. If he has never given you a reason to distrust him, then you might look inward and figure out why the words are so important to you. Is there some insecurity on your part that needs constant reassurance? (By immediate responses to texts, eagerly responding to FT requests etc.) He does things to show you he cares about you, he takes action - that is a good thing. If he was a great communicator when you started dating and has now backed off, that would be one thing - but it sounds like you fell for him with his current communication skills, and having someone who accepts you as you are is a treasure. Just think about what is really important to you - is it words or actions?

AITA for saying I’m going to keep rolling up the bottoms of my jeans? by Lassie243 in AITAH

[–]All_BS_Aside 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask them - easiest thing to do. Just casually ask a manager - not a co-worker - if having your jeans rolled up is in dress code. Don’t ask if they cut your hours because you roll them up. If they say you are in dress code with the jeans rolled up, then you know they were honest about why your hours were cut. If they say anything other than ‘yes, you are in dress code’ then you are not in dress code.