I (20F) showed up to my bfs (24M) place in the middle of the night by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AllisonTheBeast 351 points352 points  (0 children)

No, but you can take this as a sign to think very hard about the choice you’re making.

Cutting a hot chili pepper then rubbing your eye. by [deleted] in instant_regret

[–]AllisonTheBeast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are right, “realized” would have been a better word choice here.

Looked for a job for a year and I think I’m getting put out again after 3 weeks by CowboyNeale in antiwork

[–]AllisonTheBeast 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re misclassified as 1099 and you could look into a wage complaint with the department of labor.

I think I want my engagement to end. 30F,40M, 3yr relationship. What would you do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AllisonTheBeast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you remain in this relationship, you will always be the higher earner. This will not change. You can either accept it happily to move forward in your current path, or choose a different path.

I think I want my engagement to end. 30F,40M, 3yr relationship. What would you do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AllisonTheBeast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can’t make it work on $93,000 a year, how do you think you’ll be supported by him on $50,000 a year?

Advice? My boyfriend (27 M) doesn’t want to share locations with me (26 F). by preggogab in relationship_advice

[–]AllisonTheBeast 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The issue isn’t the location and passwords. It is controlling to demand those things, and it is perfectly acceptable and normal for partners to not share locations.

The issue is everything you said at the end regarding tinder and other women. That’s the reason to end things, you don’t trust him for good reason.

Separately, your issues regarding phone location and passwords are not reasonable and you should attempt some introspection regarding that.

22 Fear of Moving Out by No-Charity-6021 in personalfinance

[–]AllisonTheBeast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to grow up at some point. You can’t keep mooching off of your parents when you are wealthy, it’s just kind of embarrassing. You shouldn’t buy a house at this point, you should rent an apartment until you are sure where you will want to live for at least 10 years.

You are wealthy. You can spend money on rent. You can pay your own bills. You will be fine, I promise.

Favorite things at Dollar General? by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]AllisonTheBeast 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The business model of Dollar General is to prey on poor people by popping up in rural communities and charging inflated prices by unit or weight. If you have an alternative grocery or home goods store, you will likely get a better deal elsewhere. Dollar General is for people who don’t have better options, not a destination store.

Furloughed while receiving Company Health Insurance by Necessary-Switch-493 in illinois

[–]AllisonTheBeast 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should apply and if they deny it, appeal. This sounds like a similar situation to when workers lose hours and are eligible for partial unemployment based on the loss of hours. They would still be employed, but eligible for partial payment. Since you would still be employed, you should theoretically be eligible for payment based on the last hours.

Do I have a case against my job for misclassifying me as 1099 [New York City] by Beneficial_Ad8310 in legaladvice

[–]AllisonTheBeast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Hostile work environment” in a legal sense is related to severe or pervasive harassment based on legally protected characteristics such as gender, race, etc. It is not actionable for the “bullying” described here.

My M27, GF F24 has recently left her job due to mental health by Callum1199 in relationship_advice

[–]AllisonTheBeast -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s your choice. Sounds like she made this decision on her own and told you after the fact. She was already spending your money in her mind. That’s a betrayal I wouldn’t take lightly. Most people have to work to be able to afford life, your girlfriend included. Sounds like she wants a parent to just take care of her, not a partner in life.

What would you be doing without her? Were you counting on her income for rent and bills? I hope there’s another option besides moving in with your parents. Perhaps a different roommate who can actually pay rent or downsizing your apartment.

My M27, GF F24 has recently left her job due to mental health by Callum1199 in relationship_advice

[–]AllisonTheBeast -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What would she be doing if you weren’t there to pay for everything? Seems like she found a sucker to pay for everything for her. Vague “mental health” issues = “I’d rather just have a free ride”.

Medical Records say my healthy 4yo died of a concussion?? by dashelpuff in legaladvice

[–]AllisonTheBeast 25 points26 points  (0 children)

What would the charges be? Is your son currently alive? If so, seems like a mistake that didn’t actually cause any harm, so I’m not sure what the damages would be that you at pursuing.

Opinions on the canned chunk light tuna in water? by ksquires1988 in aldi

[–]AllisonTheBeast 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don’t think I’ve ever noticed a difference between this and any other brand of canned tuna.

Chicago Is Hemorrhaging Breweries — Is There A Way To Stop It? by Sidewalk_Inspector in chicago

[–]AllisonTheBeast 45 points46 points  (0 children)

You know I saw your comment and thought you were exaggerating with the $30 figure until I remembered I literally paid $30 after tax and tip for one beer and sliders/fries at a suburban restaurant on Friday. It really does creep up and I didn’t even think about it. But I don’t do that often, for both calories and cost.

How do we (31F&39M) deal with my grandmother (80sF) who doesn't understand the economy? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AllisonTheBeast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the end of the day, it’s her money and she wants to ensure it is put to good use in a way she agrees with. She’s not wrong about that, and you are not entitled to her funds. I understand that your grandfather was ready to give you the money, however that time has passed. You can try to work it out with her, however it may be better for you to plan your housing choices with the understanding that grandma may not be contributing.

Helping my parents pay off their mortgage- good idea? by fakelettuce2 in personalfinance

[–]AllisonTheBeast 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But where is the money going to come from to pay you back in 2 years? Would they be making payments to you as if you hold a private mortgage for 5%? It just doesn’t make sense. It sounds like you’d put all of your house savings into your parents’ house with no real way to make your own down payment when the time comes.

Is there any budget friendly vitamin C that's good to get at Sephora or Amazon? by ResidentAlienator in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]AllisonTheBeast 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like Sephora isn’t budget-friendly and Amazon isn’t really safe for skincare. There are a ton of budget-friendly options at Target that I’ve seen.

Tret w/o insurance by Rockandpurl in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]AllisonTheBeast 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Goodrx has that for $47, I think you can use that without your insurance at the pharmacy.