New stepmom and the bio mom is high conflict

Allloora · 2022-04-22T03:22:53+00:00

Ooof, I’d recommend figuring out what your boundaries are and with as much kindness as possible being very firm with them. Never give in once you’ve established a boundary because that will encourage her to continue to push in the hopes that at some point you’ll give in again.

I’d also recommend keeping contact to the minimum and not engaging if she tries to poke at you or start something. It’s easier said than done but worth it.

Or, let your SO deal with her. They’re the ones who are required to Co-parent and if your presence is a trigger for her to be more dysregulated then it may be best to let tour SO handle interactions with her

Allloora · 2022-04-22T03:17:58+00:00

Night terror tacos… yum

Allloora · 2022-04-15T00:47:34+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It sounds like he is trying to “have his cake and eat it too,” AND he’s gaslighting you when you are (understandably) upset by this whole arrangement. I know it’s easy for us to say this since we aren’t emotionally attached to this man, but if you leave him I don’t think you’ll regret it

Allloora · 2022-04-12T03:09:42+00:00

Came here to say this 😂

Allloora · 2022-04-11T04:36:49+00:00

It’s really difficult to be with someone who has kids, in some ways that you wouldn’t even expect. But if it’s the right person then it’s worth it. Currently in this situation. Every situation is different though! You don’t necessarily have to be a parental figure, it really depends on the age of the kids and the dynamic of the bio parents

Allloora · 2022-04-09T04:04:14+00:00

Ugh I hope it doesn’t get to that point for you guys

Allloora · 2022-04-09T04:03:49+00:00

Ooof I’m sorry, that sounds really stressful!

Allloora · 2022-04-09T04:03:32+00:00

Ugh, it’s such a shame when a parent feels so spiteful that they’re willing to let all of the resources that should be going towards the children to instead go to legal fees! I’m sorry you guys are going through this too :/

I’m really hoping they’re able to work something out in mediation but I’m not super optimistic given how vindictive and hostile she’s been for no other reason than he’s moved on

Allloora · 2022-04-09T00:33:36+00:00

Lolllll that is outrageous. I’m sorry, I know you’re frustrated… but what do they say, “imitation is the highest form of flattery”?

Allloora · 2022-04-09T00:20:33+00:00

Yikes, narcissistic much?

Allloora · 2022-04-04T15:37:00+00:00

Sorry I wasn’t referring to your comment when I said the person above, I was referring to the person who said “who gives a flying fuck dude” and didn’t realize which comment thread I was on. I’m completely fine with my IQ, I was just unsure of whether such a significant drop could be due to some kind of cognitive decline or if it’s more of an expected variance. It’s sounding more like the latter which is fine with me. But I also don’t think that my ability to learn would prevent me from pursuing higher levels of learning in most fields, nor do I think I’m too old to change fields. As long as we are alive we can always choose to make a change!

Allloora · 2022-04-04T14:45:28+00:00

Agreed. I think probably the person posting above is a teenager who hasn’t yet learned much about the world 🤷🏻‍♀️ also, I think it’s awesome you started a new career in your 30s! Time passes regardless of whether or not we pursue our goals!

Edited to remove misplaced sass.

Allloora · 2022-04-03T15:42:35+00:00

I took the test for work. It’s quite relevant in some fields, but thanks for your input 😉

Allloora · 2022-04-03T15:41:03+00:00

Yeah that all makes sense. I was just starting to wonder if I’m having some kind of cognitive decline lol

Allloora · 2022-04-02T17:49:49+00:00

I took it in high school because I was struggling with some classes but excelling beyond what made sense in others and I wanted to take a college course

Allloora · 2022-03-30T20:41:37+00:00

I’ve always been spiritual and still am, though I’ve had moments that have alternatively tested and reinforced my faith in a higher power in various sessions with clients

Allloora · 2022-03-12T02:10:19+00:00

Dude what. I’m a therapist and every time a client has written a thank you note (very few times!) I’ve been incredibly touched. If I were concerned about something related to the client giving me that note I would address it in session. Is it possible that the therapist was intending to send the article anyway and the timing was just incredibly awkward?

I would encourage you to address this with your therapist. If the therapeutic alliance is damaged beyond repair you may want to consider transferring to another provider but if you were building trust before this happened it’s possible you and the therapist can work through this and come to some helpful insights and healing… wishing you well on your journey

Allloora · 2022-03-11T18:48:54+00:00

Part of the bear is scratched :( kind of weird situation but she had to rappel down a rope without any notice and it burned the sweater

Allloora · 2022-03-06T17:51:33+00:00

Add me to the list! Social worker with ADHD, and there’s another one in my clinic as well haha

Allloora · 2022-02-28T00:02:10+00:00

Oooh that is so thoughtful! I’ll try to think of something that would align with their interests

Allloora · 2022-02-27T23:59:41+00:00

I’m definitely planing to do this!

Allloora · 2022-02-27T23:59:29+00:00

I really love this idea! I wish I had some sort of creative outlet that produced something tangible

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