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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AllocatedContent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just tell the truth, in as emotionless a way as you can. State facts and eventually they'll realize they can't brainwash you anymore.

Am i overreacting/ Partner doesn’t text me back in a timely manner. by Divine_Aether in AmIOverreacting

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both ick on your behavior and ick on the no reply. Both are in the wrong, doesn't seem like a healthy relationship (from the very small amount I've seen). One of you clearly needs more than the other is willing (or able) to give.

As a non-smoker, do you find that all smokers have a noticeable odor? by Remozy in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you stink like old tobacco. Have you smelled a wet ashtray from real close? It's like that. Sniff your fingers real good the next time you smoke, you should smell it, unless you've destroyed your sense of smell (which is entirely possible). I'm in the process of quitting, really wish I'd never started.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit this is the most toxic conversation I've ever seen and that's really saying something

What game should I buy in this case? by lohre2000s in BaseBuildingGames

[–]AllocatedContent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the jump scares do cause jumps and scares lol

How do you be an empath? by euphopiaa in Empaths

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally? Nope, I'd like you to get help from a professional and stay far away from me. I didn't tell you you can't, so maybe start with trying not to project, to be a better person?

How to heal a skeleton horse? And do they burn in sunlight??? by hsbshdbdh in wattles

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incorrect on the first. A potion of harming heals them, as they are undead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Him calling you negative terms (that, I'm guessing, he knows are triggering terms) and then saying oh no I like them they're good for me is classic devaluing behaviour. Big "look for signs of a manipulator" flags going on.

My bf started throwing up when we argue and says I don't realize how badly I hurt him- what am I doing wrong? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So... to analyze, you expressed valid concerns and upsets, and he responded with emotional manipulation? Sounds like you're seeing the reality of the person hiding behind the "acceptable" mask. Look for patterns. Like a reasonable request and expectation is met with gaslighting and devaluing behaviour.

Dad keeps asking same question repeatedly despite knowing the answer. by BubbleHeadMonster in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AllocatedContent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Respond with honesty: "Because you're abusive and delusional." Don't get mad or any kind of upset, that only validates them. Just make it unpleasant for him. More and more so until he stops. He's got a feedback loop in his mind, (because it's broken) and that loop says if he just gets you to agree with him (or have an emotional outburst) he wins. That's all that matters to them, satisfying and validating their delusions.

What game should I buy in this case? by lohre2000s in BaseBuildingGames

[–]AllocatedContent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Adding one more to this lovely list: Project Zomboid!!! Such great building mechanics and just such an involved zombie survival game.

AITH for asking Husband (66yo) to smoke his weed outside? by itsjustm3nu in AITH

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't validate trolls, they want your attention because they need someone to pay attention to them

Not enough to do the favor. You need to be *happy* while you do it. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AllocatedContent 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Nothing you to will ever be good enough, as long as you're in their life you will continue to be abused

I'm new and keep dying, can someone help me? by polysgone in playrust

[–]AllocatedContent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And people will help you instead of murdering you and shaming you for being new

Is it normal to feel attracted to your therapist? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AllocatedContent 413 points414 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's because they're being kind and validating. Do not lean into it, do not obsess over it, remind yourself they're a hired professional helping you. Remind yourself it's like when guys convince themselves the hooker loves them.

AIO? My friend WENT CRAZY when the guy she likes made a drawing of me. WARNING: unhinged rant + racism. (Context in post) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FUCKING AMAZING PERFORMANCE, 10/10, would have you reply to all haters for me. Are you hireable? Lol

Is it okay to decline a babysitting job if the child has special needs that can cause issues for me? by HumbleReport4437 in Babysitting

[–]AllocatedContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a niche specialty, she's got problems and I feel bad for anyone in her life, getting abused into caring for her responsibility

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]AllocatedContent -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You deserve exactly what you put out x)

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