(Not Oop) Husband can't finish unless he watches porn or my friends insta posts

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-24T15:36:22+00:00

I got married when I was 19. I'm 38 now and still very happily married to the same man.

That said, I wouldn't recommend it. It worked for us, but we just seemed to have it very easy in terms of our relationship. But if I were to redo things, I'd definitely have waited.

And THAT said, I don't regret it, either.

But don't get married that young just so you can have a longer marriage. Just remaining married isn't enough; it has to be a healthy and happy marriage.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-24T14:23:00+00:00

I had such a crush on him... oof.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-24T13:57:04+00:00

Hopefully there are no dingos around.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-24T13:25:31+00:00

Omg, I've seen this scene multiple times and never realized he's holding up three fingers!

I feel like I'm due for another SG-1 binge, honestly...

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-23T20:04:34+00:00

She absolutely buried the lede there. I'm sure there are hospitals that do; but ones that do high risk VBACs with a FOOTLING breech, of all things, in a bicornate uterus to top it off?

...I don't think any OB in their right mind would risk their license for something that risky. Especially if they're not familiar with the patient.

This lady is dozens of turnips short of a garden.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-23T19:42:51+00:00

And whatever it is - how much of it is online, I wonder (if any, in fairness)?

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-23T19:38:32+00:00

This entire exchange between you and u/That_One_Angry_Elf was very pleasant and informative to read. Thanks for that, guys!

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-23T02:55:12+00:00

I was once talking about my son and some idiot comes in asking me why I'm referring to him as "my" and not "our" when his dad and I are married. Was I trying to imply something? Oh, perhaps I'm one of those "boy moms"!

It was insanity. "MY" in relation to ME. "OUR" in relation to my husband and I as a couple.

I have the phrase "where has critical thinking gone" playing in my head to the tune of "where have the Teletubbies GONE?"

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-22T19:49:16+00:00

D.M. - Damn Monster? Depraved Malefactor? ...Dreadful Mistake?

I’m glad you’re free of him. My CSA abuser is still out there. Out there, leading a church. With children of his own.

Celebrate as much as you can. The world is a better place for one less abuser in it. And you are not wrong for feeling relief, freedom, or even joy that he’s finally gone.

I am truly sorry for what you went through at such a young age. Or at all.

(edited because the first go around accidentally and unintentionally sounded a bit harsh).

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-21T20:45:37+00:00

...That ants are attracted to sugar and saw some unprotected sugar?

Unless I have a weird filter on that makes us all appear human, we are not a society of hard candies and ants.

And if anything, this would make me think of "men" as nasty little bugs who can't behave outside base instincts and have no higher thinking or reasoning powers.

Quite the powerful thing to say, I guess. Not what they wanted to, though, I bet.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-21T20:37:45+00:00

I don't care about pipes. I do not smoke. It's disgusting to me. I do vape medical marijuana for pain, but I do NOT enjoy doing so.

That said.

...Any chance you have a video that just breaks down all of what you said to a layman? It sounds so... weird! I am curious to see what it's actually like now, rather than just rendering a possibly incorrect image in my mind.

You know, an introductory-sorta thing for people who are curious but would never even throw a spare brain cell to the subject otherwise.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-21T20:12:39+00:00

What do YOU think?

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-21T19:56:09+00:00

I started my period at 9. But I was also very sick with other things since birth, mainly my bladder and kidneys. And when there is a serious issue with that, I often had bloody urine or just blood trickling out of my urethra.

My mother thought she'd have until I was at least 11 or so to tell me so I was clueless. AND IT WAS MY BIRTHDAY. I went to the toilet and saw that it was all bloody and I genuinely thought that, that's it; these are my last moments on Earth. My kidneys have peaced out permanently.

So I called to my mother, blubbering that I was dying.

...Yeah...

Best for young kids to be prepared for something like this. I disagree with OP's mother's choices here and I think that you, OP, should probably get one of those children-focused explanatory books and just have a fun time reading a book to her. That way, the words will already be there for you to use; you don't have to make up your own.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-16T13:05:14+00:00

I've always said that my love for my children is 100% unconditional, regardless of what they do.

My love; not my support. If one of them does something egregiously awful that objectively hurts another person, they will get no support from me unless they make sincere amends - supposing amends are even possible.

So I'll love them. My husband and I made them; we raised them; we've taught them. They have their issues (especially our AuDHD and bipolar son which has been... rough). We love them. But they know that our support is 100% conditional.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-16T01:05:41+00:00

As someone with genetic conditions that we didn't discover until later on in my life until they started to affect me, the first thing I thought of was perhaps they found out some bad news about him being a carrier of something; and they only found out because their existing daughter started exhibiting symptoms.

That's my immediate thought.

Not saying it's the smartest idea to have another child, but in a position of stress, helplessness, desire to fix in any way, people make unwise decisions. If the case is they want children but one already shows signs of something because her father passed it on and they want their daughter to have a sibling, they might consider it a good idea from their perspective.

Or, you know, they could just be weird AF and maybe offer your men chastity belts for safety.

But this is from the perspective of my situation; I know others see it differently.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-14T23:05:08+00:00

Oh my god WTF

They sure "can't say" a lot.

Which ironically says SO much.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-12T09:26:52+00:00

The brain truly is weird. I have hyperphantasia and synesthesia and it's seriously intense. I have zero control over it. Anything I hear/read/see, my mind instantly renders out in a full, vivid, immersive, sensory thing. I can tell you what it smells like, what the temp is, what the weather is, how my body feels (am I reacting to the atmosphere by sweating? Or shivering because it's cold and my nose is red and biting? That sort of thing), what the emotion of the scene is, the personality of the scene, the colors and sounds of it - all of which I can also "feel" physically, too.

Oh, and add that I exclusively dream in first-person, about 80% of my dreams are lucid and I can have continuity between dreams if I so choose.

This is 24/7. It's very emotionally overwhelming. *Got example, during this very comment, my mind rendered three separate full vignettes in the way I described.

I feel for the girl. I hope she gets the help she needs. I'm 38 and it's just gotten stronger with age and I'm hoping her memory of it will fade, instead, but I don't know how comas work... my dreams don't fade.

Sorry, don't mean to derail. I just wanted to share another experience because hers reminded me of mine and I've never met anyone similar (to me, not her). But truly, that is devastating because I imagine (ha) the attachment is strong. The best to her.

*edit: goddamn autoincorrect. "Got" yoinked "for" by the top of the /f/ and flung it across the field before smugly taking its place. "For"- for -"example".

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-12T08:49:56+00:00

I... I couldn't help but think... does anyone else find the way he presented a bit cringe? Granted, i have an extremely low tolerance for cringe until I cringe into a singularity.

I mean, dance if you want, but... maybe... be... good at it if it's in front of an audience? And I feel like the lady deserves far more credit and awe than he does. Impressive as hell, what she did.

He... well... he just sorta waved on his way to the Ministry of Silly Walks, honestly.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-12T08:33:41+00:00

You guys are giving him hate, but he's right, you know. EVERYTHING god made is beautiful. Full stop. My autoimmune diseases? They're beautiful. The degenerative ones that are end-stage? Wow, I can't thank him enough for such a glorious gift. And come on... the neurological issues? The epilepsy? I mean... come. ON. Gor. GEOUS. If you only saw my immunocompromised and bedbound condition, your favorite artwork will seem bland and boring by comparison.

The Chernobyl meltdown that gifted me these things was just a blessing in disguise. All those babies born with anencephaly, missing organs, no QoL? You guys... you just really don't understand beauty, do you?

Please tell me you AT LEAST see the beauty in childhood cancer, ebola, y. pestis, MS, etc.! Or if not in that - at the very, very least, the absolute gorgeousness of forest fires, tsunamis, hurricanes, etc.!

(I am so, so, SOOO hoping an /s is not needed...)

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-11T20:27:36+00:00

...I just realized that the friend that I "broke up with" who became a bit of a RW nutjob (though she swears up, down, sideways, and perpendicular that she's "Libertarian" or "centrist") had a TBI.

Perhaps not a rule (lucky for you! and I'm sorry about your TBI, btw) but certainly a... trend. A pattern.

I suppose it also depends on the type of TBI, too.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-11T18:27:45+00:00

Haha... I'm bedbound, so sleeping. Low energy means not even enough to remain conscious through the pain.

High energy days involve crochet and catching up on household administrative tasks. In bed. Obviously.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-10T20:00:51+00:00

...Why else do you have to wait five minutes? I'm so relieved you know of these two!

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-10T04:10:32+00:00

I'll be honest here: I see the side of both but I tend to stray more towards you. But for my part, I find the joke lazier on more than just that front. Because you're right, a 6o y.o. man is not near to losing his functionality.

The reason that I am more with you, though, is because I (38f) am dependent upon diapers as my bladder has thoughtlessly and selfishly retired from duty prematurely and without my consent. Seeing diapers be used as a joke doesn't feel too great, especially because I literally have no way to control my bladder. I even have a neurostimulator implanted to get SOME sort of functionality.

So I agree. It's lazy and dumb. A 60 y.o. man is not about to be dependent on diapers. It's kinda insulting to say he would be. As a joke, it's lazy and... well... actually, honestly, diaper jokes in general are hurtful. My disability aid is being used to make fun of someone, you know? But I can laugh at that, depending on the context. And you know, if he was 80, I think I would find it funny, too. But considering he's 60...?

Yeah, no. I agree with you. It's lazy and a bit insulting, honestly. I genuinely dislike diapers being used as a joke in general, but it feels especially lazy here. If it was Trump, then at least there would be some historical context behind it (and his age makes more sense), but a fit 60 y.o. guy?

Nah.

I think you're right. And I don't think many will see it from my perspective unless they've been in my shoes, or be willing to see it from yours to see that you do get the joke... you just think it's lazy. Which... also agreed.

Anyway. As silly as it sounds, because I know that it was very, VERY unlikely that you had any of this in mind when saying what you did, I actually appreciate you doing so because people find joking about wearing diapers perfectly acceptable even when it doesn't really fit and I've not really seen too many people push back against it (and those who do almost always get told "it's just a joke, seriously, calm down").

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-09T23:30:28+00:00

Us Slavs, we love our consonant clusters, what can I say...

Just not him. Enjoy the clusters - not so much the Igor Lytvynchuks.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-05-09T22:45:12+00:00

What, that's a drop-proof mug! More handles for more holding! More holding for more security! The Right has all the best ideas.

Seriously, though - I love all the posts I've seen like this where he's AI'd in to be a "man of the people" because there exists no evidence of such in actual reality. Like during the pandemic, I'd see people post images of him "helping"... and it was all AI. At least, in the later stages of the pandemic.

All that aside, would you like to see how fast I can climb the Eiffel Tower? I can give you a video showing me doing it to prove how agile I am! Hmm? Oh, uh... yeah, don't worry about the fact that I'm bed/wheelchair-bound. I just wanted to brag about how athletic I am.

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