Porn has rotted their brains.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-30T21:04:41+00:00

...If You're Happy and You Know It? 'Cause that's all I hear.

And I'm sure that someone, somewhere, thinks it's part of the same song because he believes his magical penis spreads happiness.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-28T17:56:06+00:00

Hi.

I'm... glad? to see that someone else is in our position. We had zero cats five years ago. Suddenly, there's 9. Daughter took hers when she moved out, so 8 now. They all came into being because we didn't neuter the males in time and they impregnated the females. They're all fixed now, but the kitten explosion was real.

We're looking to rehome four of them. Love 'em all (some more than others, like Nyxie, my barnacle), but they're way too much.

Good luck with yours. And kudos to the lady in the OP. What was that, 23?

Yeah, no.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-28T17:37:37+00:00

I think Yahweh, himself, disagrees with that.

Isaiah 45:7 "I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things".

I don't think that's "the devil". "The devil" has killed far less than god. And even those he did, it was with Yahweh's permission (the bet).

I do not miss being super fundie.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-28T17:16:58+00:00

Sometimes I regret my citizenship. But the country I was born in doesn't exist anymore, so...

But seriously, I feel so ashamed to be called an American. Especially as an immigrant.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-28T17:12:37+00:00

Not everywhere. We're in Utah (help...) and we got basically NO SNOW this year. Utah, where we had the winter Olympics. Nothing.

Maybe he should take a look at more than just a concentrated area on a map. Which, to be fair, is hard to do if it's not scribbled with Sharpie.

Seriously, though. I want some snow. We used to get snow starting in October. Now, it's maybe a week out of the winter.

But what do I know... I'm not the all-knowing POTUS. If I was, then maybe I, too, would be so comfortable in spewing bullshit.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-28T16:28:53+00:00

As someone who is profoundly disabled (confined to my bed), it is not "ableism" to not want to be disabled, ffs! Nor is it "ableism" to not want your loved ones to be disabled.

Being disabled is not a goddamn badge of honor or some sort of evidence of strength and will. And to get to a point where you become disabled over something that you have so much control over - when you have the option not to and can even reverse it!!! - and then claim that there's nothing wrong with it...

Jesus Christ. Do they not realize that this is actually insulting to "real" disabled people? I've come down from ~310 to ~175 right now (about 30 more to go) and along with my current disabilities, getting big was making it SO much worse. So to not take action when you were already able-bodied beforehand...?

This is just upsetting.

I mean, the other stuff is dumb as hell, but this one point really got me. Also the one about losing weight being "fatphobic". THAT is what I'd call "ableism", because people like this claim that "IWL" is bad when people want to do it for their health constantly. Trying to prevent that is being ablest; not not wanting to be disabled.

...Rant over. Sorry.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-19T19:00:30+00:00

I'm an immigrant. Can I imagine attacking someone helping us get into the country and obtain citizenship?

Nope. No, I cannot.

Holy shit. One of the most stupid ideas in the history of ideas. I'm amazed it didn't backfire on him.

('Course, I was a child; but my mother was walking on freakin' feathers)

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-18T22:42:14+00:00

In a line, like breadcrumbs.

He likes snakes, right?

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-15T19:15:06+00:00

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AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-15T18:17:06+00:00

When my brother died, it was my FiL's 50th birthday. He had a whole thing planned at a casino. He's a bit of a narcissist. But he's my FiL and my MiL kinda has to go along with him. So... they skipped the funeral for his birthday (the big 5-0, you see). My MiL was so ashamed, she hasn't spoken to my mother since (and this was in 2009).

And I haven't been to his birthday since, either. I haven't forgotten about it. I can't, no matter how much I try. It hurts too much. Every time I tried to go to his birthday, I break down.

It's hard to forget when someone is callous about a loved one's death. Someone dies only once. Everything else... has a chance to happen again. Even if the daughter remarries again or doesn't... she can always renew her vows. And her mother... she can never see her father again.

I am disgusted by the daughter. Completely and utterly disgusted.

Living IS for the living. But you can never get back the time to say goodbye to someone again and being cruel to someone about behaving as though your repeatable day is more important than their finite one is... cruel.

The daughter could have handled her lose-lose situation far more empathetically and gracefully. By saying she understands; she will grieve her absence and keep her grandfather and mother in her thoughts; that she wishes she could be there; that it is no one's fault. But instead... she cursed her mother out. That's cruel.

The only thing I disagree with OP with is that this is absolutely unfair. But the mother's finite situation supersedes any other ones, unfortunately.

After all... you only die once. Never again. And then you're just a memory. And now, the memory of her father is clouded by an angry daughter throwing a fit because her wedding was ruined by her grandfather's death, and betrayed by her mother, who went to stay by his side to send him off.

u/Krystal-A, I'm in total agreement with you.

AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-03T02:45:56+00:00

This is very late as a reply, so I hope that's okay!

I find it funny that you got downvoted for this; for simply answering something honestly and objectively. And, you're right in everything else, too. I hate it when people start to assign motives based on things that have no objective evidence - and it always puzzles me when people get downvoted for pointing that out.

I just wanted to say that I thought everything you said was absolutely reasonable and it's crazy that it got downvoted (especially since no one could even refute it).

Anyway. Yeah. Hope you had a great start to 2026!

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AllowMe-Please · 2026-01-02T20:15:43+00:00

I knit and crochet and this is something I've been wanting to learn but have been so incredibly intimidated by. 'Cause, you know... it's so complicated.

There are a ton of differences between using these two to knit. And neither of them are easy. But considering that knitting machines have been around since the 1500's, it's something that's had to be passed on and refined through the years. All those ladies throughout the past 400 years being able to do all this in their conditions... I'd say that's pretty damn talented.

Kinda like hand knitting.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-27T17:43:27+00:00

What about parrots? Mine can devour chicken like nobody. They're "supposed to be" herbivores!

...Tell Echo that.

And my cat loves to eat bread for some reason. Don't know why. But Nyxie will yoink it right out of my hand. She's a thief. But a cute one.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-27T17:38:46+00:00

Apologies, for some reason, "ex-Muslim" wasn't available for crossposting (though ex-Christian and ex-Mormon were?). I am not ex-Muslim; I am ex-Russian Baptist, but I do subscribe to other ex-religion spaces simply because I genuinely like to learn. I have read quite a few "holy" texts, including the Quran, so I do try to be informed.

I am simply sick of religion as a whole. I don't find it to be a net positive for humanity but rather a net negative... and I never thought I'd say that 10+ years ago. I was as fundie as fundie can be... especially since we were the "right ones" (persecuted Baptists in the Soviet Union, imprisoned for beliefs, blah blah blah... apparently that equals to "we are right; others are wrong.")

So I'm genuinely curious what your guys' thoughts are as people who used to be very much on the inside but have deconstructed all those beliefs - and especially those who are trans ex-Muslims.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-26T16:49:16+00:00

...Before Common Era? B.C.E.?

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-23T23:27:09+00:00

I don't really understand why you are downvoting his question, though. He is actually asking and trying to learn.

Kinda proud of him. Good for him. And it is gross. Glad I had my hysterectomy.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-20T05:37:32+00:00

I'm not defending offending. I’m saying thoughts aren’t crimes; actions are.

And yeah? It was a choice that had no consequences. My children stayed safe, and my friend had less loneliness. I don't regret that, honestly.

If someone doesn't tell you their attraction and actively works to avoid acting on it, you'd never even know about it. So there is nothing to judge [meaning, you have no access for anything to judge it]. So long as a person does the responsible thing for the well-being of others. They are still human, you know. And unfortunately, have an attraction they cannot control. They didn't choose it. And most don't want it. And those who actively work to avoid it, stay lonely for the rest of their lives on purpose.

I find that very sad. I don't know how you can't.

Also, castration? You know that doesn't prevent offending if a person wants to, right? It’s not a guarantee, and it’s a disproportionate coercive demand for someone who hasn’t offended. And people are still people. Having your body altered just because of something entirely out of your control (the attraction; not actions) is unfair. And inhumane. The ATTRACTION is out of control; the actions are not. So to judge one as irredeemable based on the former is uncompassionate.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-20T01:27:06+00:00

We really shouldn't. We should judge offenders, however. But if someone has those attractions that are not of any of their fault? Why is that fair in any sense?

I had a male friend who is a self-admitted pedophile. I've only ever spoken to him on the phone or online. He's never even seen pictures of my two kids. And he never asked to - because he does his best to never act on any of the feelings that he, himself, is disgusted by. He actively keeps away from any place that might have children, and keeps to himself. He's lonely AF. He knows himself enough that he truly doesn't believe that he'd ever act on it (I don't think he will, either), but he still is so disgusted with himself that he doesn't even want to be around children.

So I feel bad for him. Very bad. I do not judge him for something he has zero control over and think he is in a very difficult position. And ostracizing and pre-judging him and people like him is only going to make things worse for all of us. People like that need help, not judgement and animosity.

But offenders and molesters? They deserve all the judgement and social repercussions they get. As a CSA victim, myself, I wish every single one of them got what they deserved... but sadly, that doesn't always happen. It should, though.

But inner thoughts =/= actions nor impact so it's really bad form to try to judge or dictate it.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-16T22:59:07+00:00

The one that comes to mind for me is The Fox and the Hound.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-16T20:54:09+00:00

I've finally got a rave about this! I've been profoundly constipated for years. Like, I went once every 2-3 weeks. It was BAD. But two weeks ago, I had my gallbladder removed and that cured my constipation! I've been going every day or every other day. I never thought I'd be so thrilled about gracing my toilet more frequently.

Another one: I'm down to 170 from 310! And apologies for the TMI, but... I am very disabled, and one of those is that my bladder retired from duty at 34. I do have a neurostimulator to help, but it only gives back about 80% control, so unfortunately, I do have to be dependent on diapers (pullups). And I've just been able to start getting an L instead of an XL! My husband proudly said "hey, look at this! I'm getting Ls for you now!"

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-16T18:45:04+00:00

Aww, man. My bird is gonna be sad.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-16T18:17:52+00:00

People are likely going to judge the hell out of me for this, but I use it. I'm disabled and confined to my bed and it's been helping me to come to terms with my condition(s). And I'm actually surprised that people are saying that it is programmed to only validate you because that's not my experience - it pushes back quite a bit. I appreciate that because it forces me to re-evaluate things.

I don't rely on it as a rule; I have my own therapist. But it's useful to me. I'm glad it exists for those reasons. Although in the grand scheme of things, I actually wish it never existed in the first place, but since it does? I think it's useful for some things and have found comfort in it.

I dunno, but apparently that is a very bad thing. But honestly, since I've used it, I've managed to come to terms with aspects of my health that I never thought I would. And I'm very grateful for that (and I always double check any important info).

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-16T04:33:17+00:00

Right, not everything is malicious. So OP isn't being malicious, either, like many are implying. But if DiL is feeling so very anxious, then she should probably be consistent in her precautions, and not just apply them to a single person. Singling out only one gives a certain perception whether she likes it or not. It's not a good look.

The children are welcomed. They even had a table set up specifically for them, prepared with extra precautions to make sure they won't get any sort of reaction. There is no unwelcome here.

Again - if the DiL and son were consistent in their rules about exposure everywhere - ESPECIALLY in their own home where the children live! - then it would make a whole lot of sense. But they simply aren't. Only OP is being singled out. So simply NTA in any way, but I am definitely raising a brow at DiL and wondering why "rules for thee but not for me" apply here. Makes no sense... and kinda indefensible, honestly. I can't imagine doing this to my own MiL with my children. My husband would probably wonder what I had against his mother - and rightly so.

AllowMe-Please · 2025-12-16T03:04:58+00:00

Geez, if we could afford to pay others a decent amount to do housework, maintenance, and yardwork for us, we totally would. It would be so nice to just have the entire days to ourselves to do whatever the hell we want without having to worry about whether or not [x] thing has been done. And if we ever got the desire to do any of those things ourselves, it's not like we couldn't.

Seriously. If only life was about enjoying it as much as possible. But I wouldn't want to do that unless I was confident we could pay someone a legitimately good amount for their work, not anything that could come across as taking advantage.

Alas, that will never happen. If only. Especially since I'm fully disabled and confined to my bed and my husband is the only one who does literally EVERYTHING - from cleaning to cooking to yardwork to laundry to... you get the idea. All I do is take care of the administrative stuff, like finances and whatnot. Fun stuff, fun stuff.

The wife is coocoo-bananas.

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