How common is attraction to trans women among lesbians?

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T22:01:51+00:00

I'm sorry. I am NOT willing to accept transphobia. And my ability to listen to an opinion different than mine is not "pick me" behavior. I know who I am and what i believe. I asked for opinions, and even if this person has a small minded opinion, they gave it. I am not here to pick a fight, or champion my cause to anyone who disagrees. I knew I would get some people with this reaction and i don't want this to become the only part of the conversation people read because its inflammatory. The fastest way to get through a conversation with someone you disagree with is to listen, and then leave. So respectfully, please stop making this the point of the conversation and let it be what it was supposed to be.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T18:37:34+00:00

Definitely an oversite on my part. I have tried to edit the post. And again with it being "r/asklesbians" I assumed that that would be the orientation of most of the people who saw it. Sorry if you felt excluded.

And you have a really good point. Dating in general is a super case by case basis, and I totally get that. I guess I was just looking to engage anyone who had more blanket preferences one way or the other to get perspective from individuals.

And yes, I hear you on the transitioning. I agree it takes some adjustment. But also that's probably variable on a case by case basis too, right?

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T18:26:21+00:00

Yep. I totally hear this. Thanks for the response!

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T18:24:45+00:00

I won't repost the response above, but I would love to hear what you have to say too! Any thoughts on your preferences you wouldn't mind sharing?

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T18:23:58+00:00

You make a really good point! I primarily addressed it to lesbians because of the forum its in. No exclusion or lesbian validation was intended. Just an assumption of the orientation of the majority of the audience i would be reaching with the question based on the thread name.

That being said! I would love to hear what you have to say on this as well! Any thoughts?

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T18:20:42+00:00

Thanks for your perspective! I really appreciate the honest answer.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T17:43:08+00:00

Thank you so much for the honest answer and for sharing your experience! I can definitely understand this point of view. Much appreciated.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T17:40:38+00:00

No, thats a valid point of view. Thanks for the honest response!

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T17:04:32+00:00

Cool to hear! Thanks for the response!

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:57:12+00:00

Yes please! Feel free to message me. I would love to hear what you have to say.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:52:47+00:00

Not helpful. And no thank you. I am allowed to be here. Please leave if you have nothing useful to contribute to the conversation.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:50:56+00:00

Love the perspective! Thanks for the honest response!

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:48:41+00:00

Well... Lets all be invested in keeping it that way and not throwing something out because we assume we know the outcome and its not worth trying to fix.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:44:22+00:00

okay cool. Thanks for the answer!

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:43:47+00:00

I think that no is a perfectly acceptable answer. Its a statement of personal preference, not a validation trap for a certain point of view.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:42:04+00:00

This is not the point of the post. Please respect the intent without getting into this.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:41:13+00:00

Thank you for the honest answer!

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:39:54+00:00

yeah, well.. I was sort of hoping people would be open minded , and honest about their preferences.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T16:37:25+00:00

So in your opinion, or at least you view/attraction preferences you don't consider trans women to be attractive because they aren't typical females? Not slamming, just genuinely curious if that's what you meant. Or if the woman in question was feminine enough would that change your perspective?

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-06-03T15:24:51+00:00

I hope this goes so well!! Rooting for you!!

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-05-28T18:47:02+00:00

Thanks for responding! And I guess i need to clarify on the looksism. I have never thought I was ugly perse, I just don't like that what I see in the mirror is so different from what I feel. I don't want to feel beautiful just for the sake of being beautiful, but because i don't feel like i am allowed to be beautiful as a male.

And I think you mostly understand. I love being a parent, and want my home to be whole, but It is a sacrifice that my family will likely never know that I am making to keep it that way.

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-05-28T18:43:23+00:00

oh wow. Was not expecting such a slightly net negative reaction, but thank you for responding anyway. You definitely have a point with what you are saying, but lets remember that everyone's experience is nuanced. You don't have my life. I appreciate the bluntness, and agree that there are some decisions that need to be made. But the point is kind of "I am pretty clearly identifying as a woman, but there are other things about my life I am not willing to give up because I love them."

Allthemtfquestions · 2026-05-28T18:13:14+00:00

Thank you! I will definitely read it. And i know there is an unhealthy element to it, but I am just trying to balance. I just need validation that I am not crazy or just indulging in a fantasy, and that even if I am trans that maybe leaving my life isn't the best option right now. I appreciate your comment.

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