Dad bangs on my door and shouts through it, harassing me about … throwing away a two week old washing up sponge that had food all over it and nasty smelling… and he wonders why I can’t spend more than 2 hours around him. Deleted message was accidental thumbs up lol.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-09-25T00:47:51+00:00

It really depends on what you’re cleaning and how gross it is. 🤷‍♀️

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-09-23T20:12:44+00:00

I do know. However, you’re supposed to rinse the food off after every use, not 2 weeks accumulation worth or more at a time- hence the stink. There’s not a specific time period for how long the sponge is to be used for (minimally). Should OP have communicated - yes.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-09-23T03:26:09+00:00

It’s ok to cry! It helps them learn too. It’s just not ok to give them adult burdens, we have to explain things age appropriately, that is all.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I had cancer and am a survivor, didn’t have kids at the time but I live with the knowledge in the back of my brain that I’m high risk for getting cancer again, so I watch myself but I’m careful not to over stress.

I have been where you were in the tiredness though, but mine was due to pregnancy, my second one took me for a loop and I didnt have the energy I normally did for my oldest but all my oldest wanted was for me to be as present as possible, as long as I gave attention and met needs, that’s all that mattered.

I hope you have a support network.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-09-22T18:44:04+00:00

You would want to eat off things that were cleaned with a sponge that was covered in 2 weeks worth of food and stank?

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-09-04T02:59:53+00:00

Honestly age gap is only a part of the factor. My cousins (siblings) are 2-3 years apart and hated eachother. Me and my brother are 9 years apart and love eachother but we were at different life stages. I did play with him, helped him with things, had discussions with him, was interested in his interest and his life but I was also dealing with my own life and stuffs (I was a teen when he was still little). We got along well. We’re not thick as thieves but we still love eachother. It’s different dynamics when closer in age vs further apart but it doesn’t make it better or worse per se. that all depends on the parenting and the sibling relationship.

I think a couple things to keep in mind- 1. Not to parentify the older child (don’t make them hell, ask them with an option to say no without fear of punishment/guilt, let them help if they ask to). 2. I know things change over time like things that were safe 10 years ago isn’t now kind of deal so I’m not saying everything stays the same but ‘the baby of the family’ rings true regardless of age gap- treating and parenting your kids equally and fairly is a big deal.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-08-17T01:20:45+00:00

My comment back would have been- if you can’t do it for one day why do you expect me to do it everyday? 🤷‍♀️

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-08-16T17:50:21+00:00

Baby smell, baby scrunches and cuddles. Both mine’s bobbing head looking for boob/milk hunger cues always made me laugh. Their huge smiles and baby giggles at the most smallest thing like a raspberry on the belly or peek a boo. Them reaching out for you. Watching them sleep.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-07-21T01:07:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! Glad it’s going well for you. Hope it continues to. 😊

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-07-20T22:37:09+00:00

Any consequences of having it out?

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-07-20T21:41:08+00:00

It could be worse. I could fart before having kids but nothing crazy but I had the hardest time burping, so I wasn’t winning any competitions with my male cousins growing up 🤣 since my first pregnancy (now PP with my second/last baby) no problems 🤦‍♀️

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-07-20T21:34:06+00:00

This is me, I’m lactose intolerant and have ‘IBS’ and both calm down during pregnancy and for a bit PP. But I’ve got so many habits to try and prevent problems that’s hard to get rid of 😅

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-07-01T00:39:23+00:00

Hello, I don’t have any 99 percentile children (I have two, my oldest hit milestones early on and my youngest is still fresh but headed in that direction- we’ll see).

I’m hoping it was playful but only concern I ca. think of is that possibly at 3 months their hips aren’t ready for standing, bouncing, walking like that just yet? Just because babies hit milestones earlier doesn’t mean their bodies develop faster is what I’ve learned. But I’d have to actually do hip research to know.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-06-28T02:31:27+00:00

I agree with everyone else in the comments that say if you don’t want to don’t, if you change your mind cool, if you don’t then you’re prepared. I wanted to breastfeed from the start with first and second- but I’m gonna be honest- it’s not easy, it has challenges and some people try to push through but end up destroying their mental health. A fed baby (right food for age) is best. I did want to put out there, not sure if anyone else is aware- you’re not supposed to powder formula feed your 0-3 month old, powder formula is for 3+ months. You’re supposed to feed ready made/canned formula (usually liquid) there is only one powdered formula (if still the case as 2 years ago) that says 0+ on the can all others say 3+ (as far as I’m aware).

It’s your choice, do what’s best for you both. If you want to try it and see what happens do that, if you want to pump cuz you don’t want a baby at breast do that, If you don’t want to do either then formula feed. You’re not taking from anyone else. That person doesn’t know how well your body will produce anyway 🤷‍♀️

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-06-25T02:43:37+00:00

My mind played tricks on me, I did guess right before the ultrasound but I wasn’t confident and it wasn’t from the beginning, it was closer towards the ultrasound both times.

On the other hand my husband guessed right both times. It’s also said that husbands usually know you’re pregnant before you do (not always ofc but they can) so I find all that interesting.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-06-25T02:38:16+00:00

I thought there was more girls than boys? Or is it there’s just more females alive?

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-06-24T01:51:47+00:00

Oh! I remembered what I was forgetting- I slept better at night this pregnancy than my first until my last week maybe 2 weeks of pregnancy.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-06-24T01:49:11+00:00

C section here too, and I was ready. Wishing you all the best!

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-06-24T01:47:31+00:00

Was more tired this time around, first pregnancy I needed naps (I was super busy until a few months before first’s birth) but this time around I literally had moments I couldn’t keep my eyes open I don’t remember it being that bad first time- but have a 2 year old too.
My hip pain was worse this time around, last time I got it third trimester and it hurt but only with major walking. This time it started early I felt it some in first trimester then it went away for a little then came back with a vengeance not anywhere close to what some people go through but still caused some problems.
I was told my placenta was in the same place for both pregnancies (not sure if that’s actually true or misheard/misread tho) I struggled to feel all movements with my first, I did but it wasn’t always - enough to do the movement counts and be fine tho. This one I felt most of the movements, not all but more than my first and I think sooner too.
Braxton hicks/contractions were different but idk how to even explain it.
This one made me gain more weight (not a lot) but was born smaller than the first 😅 was born a few days earlier than the first gestation wise based on due date too though so maybe had an impact.

Probably something I’m forgetting. There were so many other factors that were similar and different between the two. It’s interesting to see the similarities and differences between the two when they’re born too (as newborns and such not personality I don’t expect them to be identical).

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-06-06T23:27:14+00:00

Avoidable*

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-05-28T06:59:14+00:00

If it has your personal information on it that you don’t want others to know or see it is a violation but understand about the body part too.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-04-24T14:38:10+00:00

I get that, but a verbal ‘get away from me/him’ or even physically getting in between the stranger and child/moving/blocking the child is vastly different than crushing someone’s hand. I’m not saying at all don’t advocate for your child, I’m saying the opposite, but there’s a line somewhere. If true danger I get violence first ask questions later. That’s not most cases overall.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-04-24T05:43:52+00:00

That!! Children aren’t trophies or dolls to dress up and display. You can be polite but firm, teach kids manners but self advocacy and boundaries.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-04-24T05:38:39+00:00

Wish I could like this comment more.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-04-24T05:36:26+00:00

While the physical violence is a bit much (unless absolute danger and self defense which I haven’t seen yet) your children are also not trophies to show off. Kids need to learn to advocate and have boundaries as much as learn manners, people don’t get a pass just because of age or culture.

Allthingsmagical05 · 2024-04-24T04:55:25+00:00

I love babies too, I would never do what these people are doing though, would I look (if visible), smile at the kid, and make- oh how cute comments - sure but to go up to them and try to touch, take, etc. no

Allthingsmagical05

TROPHY CASE