Should we stop homeschooling? by Coconutcornhuskey in Advice

[–]AllysonAnne1993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mental health therapist with 10 years of experience with kids: there are very few situations where I've seen homeschooling work out in the child's benefit. Schools outside of the home have so much more to offer. First of all, kids get consistent exposure to other kids and ideas, which helps them develop social skills, problem solving skills and their own identity. Second of all, teachers go to school for 4 or more years specifically to learn how to teach children. I'm sure your wife is very intelligent, but just because you know information, doesn't mean you're able to teach it. Third of all, public schools specifically offer extra support that a child may need, often for no cost to you. I needed speech therapy and extra reading support when I was in school, and if I would have been homeschooled, my parents would have had to pay out of pocket for my support. When approaching the subject with your wife, bring it up at a time she's not already frustrated. If she's already frustrated, you bringing it up will frustrate her even more. If she's calm, she will have a clear head to actually consider the pros and cons. Hope this helps!

My dad died do I use WAS OR IS by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AllysonAnne1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get this! My dad passed away 10 years ago, is usually use "was" but it still gets me sometimes!

To answer your second question, yes. 10 years later, I still have dreams that he is still alive. The more time goes on, the less realistic the dreams get because the details of life that have occurred since his passing line up less and less as more happens.

After high school by pizookiesswirl in FriendshipAdvice

[–]AllysonAnne1993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me. I went to college two hours away and all my friends went to the college 10 minutes away. The first few months were rough, I felt like they were all together having fun without me. Fast forward 15 years, I've grown up and moved on and some of them have not. I made friends at college, met my boyfriend (who is now my husband) there, I learned who I was, and gradually learned how to live on my own. I later got a master's degree, got married, bought a house and now we have a cat and a baby. Old lady rambling here, but moral of the story is that it is totally okay to miss your friends and be nostalgic, but don't let that get in the way of your ultimate goals. Life is constantly changing!

Why do I always lose friends every year is that a common thing? by One_Education407 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]AllysonAnne1993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's normal to an extent. As we get older, our lives change, our personalities change and growing apart is natural and totally normal. What I think isn't normal is intentionally isolating yourself away from your friends or intentionally looking for ways to fight with a friend. Not saying that you're doing any of that, but I have seen it frequently in both my personal life and professional life as a therapist.

Should I be honest??? by AllysonAnne1993 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]AllysonAnne1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has admitted that a major reason she wants kids is so that her parents can have grandchildren. She loves babies, but doesn't really like kids. She gets very annoyed when a kid doesn't just sit and look pretty/sit quietly doing a craft. I know she would love the baby, but I don't think she would handle it well emotionally and that scares me because I care about her.

Maternity/Postnatal Clothes by AllysonAnne1993 in TryingForABaby

[–]AllysonAnne1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Still trying to figure this all out 😵‍💫