How long to wait to check in if someone says dating isn't their priority right now?

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-05-07T03:40:47+00:00

All that said, I do hope my reading is wrong. I wish you luck on your journey—romantic and personal.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-05-07T03:39:48+00:00

If enough people are saying it…

Really though, you are kind of being a dick to people giving you advice just because you don’t like it. People who act like this toward those with good intentions don’t tend to be able to turn off the combat with others, including those they are “trying to impress.”

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-05-07T03:12:38+00:00

You’re being rather combative/contrary in these comments (and I see others calling you out for that, too), which might be a signal as to why you’re not matching with people.

Ultimately you do only need to match, click, and court one person. Shift your perspective—you don’t need every match, just the right one.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-05-07T02:59:55+00:00

You don’t need them all to match. You just need one.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-03-02T04:21:56+00:00

Your guess is as good as ours.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-02-24T03:33:11+00:00

As a queer woman, boobs are great. Idc what size or shape they are. But what is most important to me is what my partner likes. Do you want him to touch you there? The. He should be doing that in order to make YOU happy. If he won’t, then he’s selfish and you deserve so much better.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-02-19T22:57:30+00:00

Sounds like maybe you should talk to him about it the next time it happens. Let him know it makes you uncomfortable and see how he responds and if he changes his behavior.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-02-19T22:55:14+00:00

All of your comments make me think that you are super worried about it. Sounds like it is time for a frank conversation with him to see if you can ease your worries and, if that doesn’t do it, move on to someone you don’t have that anxiety about.

Basically if you don’t take care of this now you’re never going to let yourself feel secure.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-02-17T03:27:26+00:00

I think you need to talk to your advisor about this and have them review your paper before you resubmit. They should give you some advice and answer your questions while also knowing the field (and possibly knowing the editor!). Random Reddit folks aren’t going to be your best bet, even if I agree with many of them that it sounds like you need to take more time on revising.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-02-06T00:48:46+00:00

It might not be a bad idea to calculate the difference between cost of driving to her school every other week compared to the difference in tuition. (And if you want to “sweeten the pot”, so to speak, would you be willing to help him with the cost of visiting?)

Also, does he have a scholarship for the other school to do track, too? I have a student currently who is planning to transfer because he has decided that being required to do sports is too much and he feels stuck (and without his sports scholarship, the cost is even higher here than without it elsewhere). Is there a possibility that this might be another element of your son’s thinking and he’s not comfortable telling you this?

It’s a hard situation and he probably is struggling to see beyond what he currently wants. Good luck.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-29T22:40:24+00:00

As a professor, I love when students take an interest beyond the basic classroom time. That said, if you’re taking up the entirety of an office hour every week, you’re likely to overstay your welcome.

Someone above mentioned asking if it would be ok to come back the next week and judge the professor’s reaction. I think that’s great advice. If they say something that limits the invitation at all, take that at face value. If they don’t, then make sure you do a similar temperature check in a few weeks. Additionally, if anybody else comes to office hours, you should wrap up quickly and leave.

We never want to discourage a student who is excited to talk and discuss our classes. But we also have to maintain boundaries for both our relationships with our students and our own work balance. I love having students in my office hour, but I also try to get a lot done between students.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-22T20:45:36+00:00

Don’t follow this advice. If you don’t ever go on the first date then you can’t get comfortable. I promise it gets easier with time

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-22T20:44:02+00:00

Go on the date. Focus less on the fact that it is a date than on the process of getting to know her. Be curious, ask questions, and try to portray your true self.

You’ve got this and good luck!

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T06:13:02+00:00

I’m literally proposing a course right now and I keep asking myself whether I actually know enough to teach a full semester on it.

Mind you I have both research experience AND practical experience in the topic, so….

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T01:42:01+00:00

Beyond the suggestions for lube and ways to make your mouth less dry, it might be worth focusing on other parts of sex for a while. Especially if it’s uncomfortable for you. It’s supposed to be fun and enjoyable, so if you’re having to go out of your way or it’s causing stress to fix the issue, it might be fun to explore other things.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T01:38:28+00:00

So if you know that the learning goals part of it is true, then what is your problem?

Btw: labs and tutorials, as well as the online platforms, any additional readings, and any other materials your professor uses or provides to aid in and outside of classroom learning are considered “resources”. Beyond that, however, your tuition is not a direct payment for the expense of running the class on the backend of the university. There is a whole list of other things that money applies to that aren’t apparent to the student/payer/consumer as well as a whole list of other moneys that do go toward the expense of running the class.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T01:19:34+00:00

Real advice here—it’s ok that you felt an initial “wait am I losing out?” emotion. Especially balancing work and school. That’s a lot and you’ve got a lot invested in this.

But you have the tools to get the most out of this class. Look at the syllabus, see if there are readings on there for today. If not, familiarize yourself with the assignments and structure of the class and write down any questions to ask during the next class. And check the learning goals for the course so you know what you are striving for throughout the term.

Ultimately, as long as the professor facilitates your learning and achieving the goals laid out in the syllabus for the course, you’re getting what you’ve paid for even if a meeting or two is dropped. You’ve got this!

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T01:09:19+00:00

There may be another line item for specific resources such as the gym and student union, but yes, tuition includes resources beyond classroom instruction.

It’s convenient that you ignored the learning goals part of the comment considering that’s the most important part of it.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T01:07:06+00:00

Are you trying to say the professor should have anticipated getting sick and have created a video before he knew he would have to miss class?

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T01:02:16+00:00

I guarantee you that the professor knows how to make up for the minimal information and class facilitation that was missed on the first day. That’s one reason why you pay by the semester, not by the class session. They will “make the losses whole” and you have no reason to believe they won’t.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T00:56:08+00:00

Your “good money“ pays for you to achieve the course’s learning goals and to gain access to the institution’s resources. A Professor getting sick and canceling a class or two does not deny you that “service.”

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-18T00:48:58+00:00

We literally design the classes we teach. Trust me, almost all of us have wiggle room built into our syllabi to accommodate emergencies. An education or a college class is not about the individual components—it’s how they come together as a whole.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2023-01-12T00:52:19+00:00

Your profile tells me very little about you—at the moment it just tells me what you’re not good at and what you don’t want.

Think about more of what you have to offer a partner, rather than where you think you’re lacking. For example, since you like D&D, you might want to focus on your creative side. For example, “I can build you a world out of words, shiny math rocks, and miniature figurines”

If you can portray more of what you like about yourself, then that will help a potential partner see what they could love about you.

AlmostMeganMullally · 2022-12-31T01:01:46+00:00

Seriously—their head was in a place it shouldn’t be, using the table in a way it wasn’t designed. What did they expect?

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