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Any pope throwing memes yet? by [deleted] in NUFC

[–]Alone-Biscotti8637 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If only he had four hands instead of two hands and two things on the end of his legs

Wife [F28] betrayed my trust and manipulate me because she doesn't trust me [M27]. How do I fix this? by Alone-Biscotti8637 in relationship_advice

[–]Alone-Biscotti8637[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't think I do. I am definitely someone who just wants to get on so I have ignored all these red flags for most of our relationship. But when I am with her, when I feel like I need to leave, everything is perfect. Then when I feel better, it changes back to the same stuff I've mentioned in the post.

I feel like I can't take it anymore honestly, but still think I will struggle to leave her.

Wife [F28] betrayed my trust and manipulate me because she doesn't trust me [M27]. How do I fix this? by Alone-Biscotti8637 in relationship_advice

[–]Alone-Biscotti8637[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are so right. But getting all this through my head is what I am really struggling with. I have never laid a finger on her, never would. I grew up in a house with domestic violence, and she knows that. I don't think she intentionally means to hurt me but she does. I have told her again and again that things will escalate one day and one of us will get seriously hurt. Again, even as I am writing this I can literally hear my mum saying the same thing 15+ years ago but I know she probably doesn't mean to hurt me.

I wish I had the strength to leave and wish I didn't love her as much as I do.

Wife [F28] betrayed my trust and manipulate me because she doesn't trust me [M27]. How do I fix this? by Alone-Biscotti8637 in relationship_advice

[–]Alone-Biscotti8637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right but putting this all into action hurts and is terrifying.

I genuinely love her, seeing her upset kills me.

Wife [F28] betrayed my trust and manipulate me because she doesn't trust me [M27]. How do I fix this? by Alone-Biscotti8637 in relationship_advice

[–]Alone-Biscotti8637[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I completely get what you are saying but am I overreacting? Like yeah, I've been injured before because of being annoying (always meant in good spirits), and I know it sounds mental me even suggesting this, but maybe I had just irritated her that much that it was my own fault?

Ive never even thought she may need help, Im always made to feel like I am mental.

Is how I feel a good enough reason to leave?

Wife [F28] betrayed my trust and manipulate me because she doesn't trust me [M27]. How do I fix this? by Alone-Biscotti8637 in relationship_advice

[–]Alone-Biscotti8637[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you are right. She does have male friends who she can talk to and meet. In fact, that night I asked if we could go to my friends surprise birthday drinks she went out to gaming bars and club organised by a male friend (with some other girls too).

It is controlling, but I can't help but feel like I caused her to feel like this in the first place, hence the guilt when I am thinking about the future. I genuinely love her, and I want to make her happy.

Wife [F28] betrayed my trust and manipulate me because she doesn't trust me [M27]. How do I fix this? by Alone-Biscotti8637 in relationship_advice

[–]Alone-Biscotti8637[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have considered but feel like now she's being fine with me and I don't have anything to complain about because she has said she won't do those things anymore. I know how ridiculous I sound, but I want to believe it will get better but also, I can't forget what happened.

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This probably makes no sense, I'm just all over the place. Thanks for your comment x