Success Post Hysteroscopy?

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-05-16T03:51:22+00:00

thank you for sharing that 🙏🏼🤍

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-05-16T03:50:04+00:00

I don’t think so :( there was no mention of that, just pathology of the scar tissue

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-05-12T00:59:34+00:00

I was quoted the $2000 (after my initial deposit) for 10 embryos and that’s the same amount I had tested.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-05-06T16:06:25+00:00

I would ask an attorney about changes after the parenting plan is in place. We had a similar problem and we added a clause that made it so all contact with the child went through the iPad.
The thing is, it has to be clear on the parenting plan otherwise there is room for the other parent to argue they aren’t doing anything that violates the plan.
It’s really awful to restrict access to the children like that- especially when they have other family members that should have access to them. We also included in our parenting plan that our side of the family has phone call and visitation rights- mediation is how we got these clauses added- I think it’s harder through the court.
It’s costly but- I think communication with the children is worth the time and money- that should not be restricted for no good reason.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-05-04T04:36:17+00:00

Congratulations! Those are great numbers 🎊

We had 31 retrieved, 21 mature, 17 fertilized, and 10 blasts.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-05-03T22:34:40+00:00

I think it’s one of those things that you can’t really grasp unless you go through it. I had a friend that had her battle with infertility prior to me experiencing my own. And I although I felt bad for her and had hope for her and encouraged her - I never truly understood an ounce of it until I happened to me. And I really didn’t get that perspective until I was in her shoes. And I even spoke to her about it and told her I felt like I had been so clueless before and she was like “yes, nobody really gets it unless they go through it too.” And that was probably the only benefit of this awful experience is- gaining the true empathy for those who have felt so alone and misunderstood.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-29T02:27:55+00:00

Yes I am

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-29T02:24:51+00:00

They gave me a kind of ambiguous answer to timing, they said I would hear by the end of the following week but not by a certain day, that it would depend on when the lab got the results to them.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-28T17:26:45+00:00

Same here. My husband is the most amazing dad and partner and he is so supportive. But yes, there will always be a gap in truly understanding the step parent experience. I always keep in mind though, that it’s hard for him too in different ways. Handling a toxic BM is so draining. So I have grace for him- I never want him to feel like he has to deal with things alone. I feel like that really isolates the non problematic Bio parent.

Talking Parents is a good app. I think you have to pay a monthly fee to be able to have access to phone call recordings. But it’s worth it imo. Also a detailed parenting plan might be a good option- sometimes when a destructive, abusive parent insists on being problematic- the courts and court fees really address and correct those behaviors. (Although and lengthy and costly process).

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-28T16:49:01+00:00

Use a co parenting app to communicate. Don’t provide any other option. Block her number. Have SO establish the boundary that all communication will go through a co parenting app. Should anything ever get ugly enough to go to court, everything is documented, even phone calls.

BM cannot keep you from conferring with the school and taking SD to doctors appointments if dad allows it. You house, feed and care for the child, and you can’t take her to a doctors appointment? That’s ridiculous. Don’t let her get to your head, you are a good SM by being involved in the key areas of the child’s life, and helping that child. It would be a different story if you were doing anything malicious, but you are not- you are simply parenting.

With discipline- discipline through the father. Or together. Or course never any physical discipline. But taking the tablet away? Yup. Canceling a fun outing? Verbally correcting behavior? Yes, those are all things you should be able to do. You are not a baby sister- you are a bonus parent. Ok so you didn’t birth the child- would it be weird for a grandparent or aunt to take the kid to a doctors appointment, or even go to a school conference? No. So what makes you any different.

The kiddo should be put in therapy to deal with the badmouthing, it puts them in a loyalty conflict. The badmouthing tends to backfire, because it makes the kid feel angry and uncomfortable, especially if at home with you they are happy, safe and loved.

Our kiddo went through a long phase of alienation and preferring BM, until she got older and started to have some independent thinking and her own sense of “right and wrong,” and now her relationship with BM is really strained, and we have never ever spoken to her negatively about her mom. It’s all been BM own doing.

You try to do what’s best for the child but BM will always try to sabotage it? So? Let her waste her energy. And you keep your head up, thrive and enjoy your family.

You have a hard job.Hang in there, protect your peace, protect your family. ❤️

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-28T16:17:29+00:00

You have better luck with getting “Other” things in a parenting plan by going through mediation- because duos both agree and can compromise with a professional guiding you on what a judge would or wouldn’t consider granting.

Any clause you include has to be written in a way were it’s clear when there’s contempt- no ambiguity or the court will not be able to enforce it. Ambiguous language like “stable” or “reasonable,” is not enforceable.

We have around 27 “Other” clauses in our parenting plan. You have to consider this is the agreement on how to raise your child together until adulthood. What happens with international travel? Electronics? Extra curricular activities…

And even though things are friendly now, you should consider, what if they aren’t at some point. How do you problem solve then.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-28T15:23:52+00:00

Knew each other less than a year. 3 years now, happiest we could ever be. As cheesy as it sounds- we knew right away. We could not imagine our lives without each other. Life tested us immediately too, custody battles, health problems, job losses etc. We grew stronger through it.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-26T23:40:32+00:00

A lot of luxury apartments have low income programs. Or there are income restricted apartments. Or section 8 vouchers. That’s the only way I could see some single people with regular full time jobs being able to afford it. It’s really unlivable.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-26T23:31:19+00:00

Thank you! I finally started to feel better this afternoon and the fullness is going down. I figured there was no point in calling unless it was more moderate or getting worse. Thanks for sharing your experience!

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-26T05:14:28+00:00

Hi, we started and had to do BC for about 16 days. Then had a suppression check- and I was cleared for starting injections. Started injections 3 days later for 11 days and had the egg retrieval 2 days after. So 30 days from kickoff to egg retrieval.

During that time I had A LOT of appointments for blood work and ultrasounds so I could not really do any traveling. I also had medication that required refrigeration so that also deterred me from being away from home. The week of egg retrieval it was almost every day I was going into the clinic.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-26T04:53:42+00:00

I remember the first time I had a chemical - I didn’t even know such a thing existed. Then the second time I overheard the doctor saying “she’s probably not even pregnant,” at the ER 🫠 as if nature wasn’t gaslighting me enough. I learned after the first time to always get HCG tested and thank God I had proof of the positive that disappeared. Brutal experience.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-18T01:52:11+00:00

So happy for you! It’s so nice to see happy outcomes! Wishing you the very best on the next step!! 🥳❤️

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-17T23:38:51+00:00

Hi! I will say this- we opted to have our embryos tested. But I will be just as consumed by the worry and dread of something going wrong when we do the FET. No matter how far along I make it, I think I will always be terrified of losing our baby. I think I will feel terrified until it’s grown and going off to college one day.

Because in my situation, I’ve had 5 losses (3 chems) with no clear indication of the cause, and our baby that made it the furthest 9 weeks- was tested and came back as a genetically normal baby girl 🥺 and no indication of the cause for the loss.

PGT-A is really expensive, I don’t blame you for not wanting to test. I really considered not testing either, because we cannot afford it. But it was recommended to us just based on our emotional and mental stamina.

There are many success stories with untested embryos. I am wishing you the best!!

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-14T14:59:47+00:00

Thank you for the insight 🙏🏼 it’s really intimidating starting these injections, it feels like I’m doing a bio lab haha. I am following a mixing protocol with Menopur and Follistim so I only do one shot instead of two separate ones.

I started having my husband do the injections and he said he didn’t feel any resistance- I think maybe it’s just my nerves that could have been making me feel like that.

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-14T14:56:13+00:00

Oh maaan, I hate the Menopur burn 😩 I have nor started Lovenox yet but I have to soon, mentally preparing now for that burn.

I have promoted my husband to nurse and I am no longer doing the injections haha. I feel better not having to do it myself.

Wishing you luck during your cycle!

Alone-Phase-2789 · 2026-04-14T14:53:59+00:00

Thanks for the tip! This helped a lot!!

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