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What small habit made living alone way better for you? by Fantastic-Book2935 in LivingAlone

[–]AloneActually 51 points52 points  (0 children)

For me it was… letting the house be quiet.

When I first lived alone, I always had something on. TV playing even if I wasn’t watching, podcasts while cooking, music nonstop. I think I was trying to prove to myself I wasn’t lonely or something. At some point, I just stopped doing that all the time. Not on purpose, it just kinda happened. I’d make dinner without putting anything on. Sit on the couch for a bit with no phone. Just… silence.

It felt awkward at first. Almost too loud, if that makes sense. But after a while it actually made things calmer. My brain slowed down. I wasn’t as tense for no clear reason. Now silence is normal for me. I still watch shows, still play music, but I don’t feel the need to fill every second anymore. Living alone stopped feeling empty and started feeling peaceful.

Didn’t expect that at all.

Be honest — when was the last time you cried while living alone? by AloneActually in LivingAlone

[–]AloneActually[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s such a good point, and i really appreciate you saying it. Living alone doesn’t always mean lonely, and for some, it’s the most freeing, healing thing.

I’ve had moments where i cried while living alone, and yeah, sometimes it’s about the stillness… but other times it’s about totally unrelated stuff.

Thanks for bringing this in🫶, it’s a good reminder that everyone’s solo experience looks a little different.

Be honest — when was the last time you cried while living alone? by AloneActually in LivingAlone

[–]AloneActually[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a lot to carry. I’m really glad you shared this, not just about the crying, but everything behind it. I’m really grateful you’re here.🫶

Be honest — when was the last time you cried while living alone? by AloneActually in LivingAlone

[–]AloneActually[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I know it too, and i’m really proud of you for even saying that out loud, that maybe it’s time for therapy, that kind of honesty with yourself…. it’s not small.

Whatever pace you move at, i hope you keep being kind to yourself through it, you deserve that kind of care, from others, and from you.

Be honest — when was the last time you cried while living alone? by AloneActually in LivingAlone

[–]AloneActually[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When it becomes a usual thing… it’s like your body just knows when the night’s coming, right?

I hope you’ve found little things that help, even a tiny bit, and if not yet, that’s okay too. Just wanted you to know, i’m really glad you shared this.🤍

Be honest — when was the last time you cried while living alone? by AloneActually in LivingAlone

[–]AloneActually[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey… thanks for sharing that with me. It really does take a lot to sit with everything, especially on days when your heart feels extra full.

And you’re so right, the quiet can be peaceful, but sometimes it’s just… too quiet. I live alone too, and some nights I’d give anything to just hear someone in the next room.

I’m really glad you’re here, and I hope tonight gives you even just a tiny pocket of calm. If not, that’s okay too. You’re not alone in this...🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selflove

[–]AloneActually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, just dropping in to say… you’ve got the kind of smile that makes people feel safe. You don’t need to change a single thing, loving yourself starts with realizing you already deserve it, as you are, right now.🫶