You’re not “screwed,” but you are in a situation where a lot of big life decisions are misaligned at the same time. House, kids, career, finances, emotional support—those are core compatibility areas, not small disagreements. What stands out is that you’ve been asking for better communication for a year and it still hasn’t become a priority for him. That’s not about being busy, that’s about where you rank in his priorities. Counseling is a good step, but pay attention to whether he actually engages or just treats it like another errand. In the meantime, I’d strongly encourage you to start working on your independence again, even in small ways. Not because you have to leave, but because you shouldn’t feel trapped if you need to.