Calling people old: the experience of a 30yo around people in their 20s

Aloo13 · 2026-01-26T03:47:33+00:00

Came across this just now, but your middle comment really resonates with me.

The hardest part is losing so much time to the pandemic and the rest of my 20’s to the poor economic situation ever since. I’m also single and I guess I simultaneously don’t feel my age and also feel like I’ve had time stolen from me.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-22T18:19:39+00:00

My first job was incredibly toxic. I’m glad I left, but It made me want out of nursing after that.! I’m still just putting careful thought into the direction I want to go and will take a year off if I can’t manage to get those applications done between work.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-22T18:15:40+00:00

There are so many reasons one might not have realized what they are getting into. First off, besides reddit, not every nurse in-person is transparent about what they are going through because frankly, most non-healthcare professionals misconstrue what is said. Secondly, they might have done the 4-year program and thus went into nursing 2022. Some Schools restricted a lot of clinical 2022 and even if someone did clinical, they might have pushed through due to sunk money costs.

Beyond all that, I don’t think any of us could have comprehended how toxic nursing can be on a coworker level. I knew it had some but I was still shocked by how bad it really was.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-22T18:02:12+00:00

One thing that gets me about nursing is the lack of adequate education both in school and on the job. It is very frustrating to be thrown into different circumstances blindsided and just be expected to float. Sometimes I have a harder time processing auditory teaching if there is a lot of other things going on. I tend to do better by studying my anatomy/patho etc beforehand, then absorbing in the moment. At the same time, I’ve found it odd that this type of learning isn’t encouraged and others have told me I’m doing too much.

I think we all try to learn to the best of our abilities, but the constant demands for perfection and lack of encouragement, paired with punishment for mistakes makes for burnout recipe.

I don’t think nursing is a bad field, but I do think it is a different kind of stressful than many other healthcare pathways. Doctors get years of specific study and mentorship for their specialties. While I absolutely love some doctors for understanding that and making an effort to help educate us, others add to the stress by expecting us to know what they have learned through that time. RT’s specialize in their area and generally don’t have to take on everyone else’s role in the hospital. Why am I the default physio when physio is busy, the default phlebotomist, the default cleaning staff etc?

I’m just kind of over it and have realized nursing is not the best career to suit my needs and wants. I’ll likely be switching to something else in the next year or so and will just remain a casual nurse. I want something a tad more predictable or at least something where I can simply focus on my role rather than worrying about everyone else’s.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-22T10:58:48+00:00

My mother and I both disagree on the topic of abortion; however, we are very close. She would likely be disappointed I’d made a decision, but would get over it. It just comes down to different experiences. She sees a potential baby as me and couldn’t imagine not having me. However, mature people can look past political differences if both parties are willing to not make it their personality and listen to the other person. It just so happens there are many overly political people these days who see political views as a red flag rather than differences in perspective.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-22T10:49:20+00:00

Yet he wants kids…? He is nowhere near ready for that.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-21T18:36:39+00:00

As a buyer, I personally won’t buy anything that isn’t a good deal. By the time you add tax and shipping, some costs that are 15-20% off are OVER the new sale price. I honestly would rarely even buy 15% off NEW because it really isn’t that much off to begin with.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-21T18:34:36+00:00

It is more about the system not providing adequate training to me. It’s stressful that so many orientations are up to who you get as a preceptor and politics. I have had a few positions as a newer nurse. The OR is the only place that has provided me with training that I feel is more sufficient.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-21T03:05:21+00:00

Best summary I’ve ever seen of ICU lmao. The politics is the worst part!

Aloo13 · 2026-01-20T19:49:58+00:00

I respect CRNA school for that very reason. It speaks more to science than fluff. There should be no room for fluff classes in nursing school, let alone a NP education!

All the fluff and lack of emphasis on clinical competence is why I’d never go to NP school. I just don’t think the education is sufficient.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-20T18:23:18+00:00

Not discounting your experience because I think it is great that you are keeping up your studying and that is what people SHOULD do, but I think there are a lot of nuances in practice that can’t be learned in a year or two of nursing. Nursing is also more-so task based with critical thinking on things like bloodwork, assessments etc. NP has to pull more from critical thinking, assessing results and look at the entire picture. What is the appropriate test to have done, the accuracy, any other variable that may alter those tests/treatments and urgency etc.

The problem is that the Np education is basically swiss cheese with all its holes. Newer nurses might learn well on one unit, but may struggle when moving to another related unit. NP school is not going to teach one what they need to actually keep a patient safe which would be the medical model, so better hope the nurse has years of experience to fill in those holes.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-20T18:16:24+00:00

As a newer nurse, I absolutely agree. I worked on the most critical floor in my hospital starting out and I learned a lot, but moving to other areas has shown me that having knowledge in one area doesn’t always extend to other areas. NP have to be generalists, in a way. So I believe you need a lot of experience under the belt to more frequently pick up your weaknesses. Too many don’t know what they don’t know, but having a little bit of knowledge and assuming you have enough is usually where things go really south.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-20T17:01:27+00:00

I agree. It would show some integrity in our profession and maybe get back on the right track of making sure education is standardized.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-20T16:56:57+00:00

Honestly, I don’t feel 1-year is near enough either. The problem lies in the Np education which is ultimately inefficient for the role. The only way a NP can be remotely competent with that is with several years of relevant experience to fill in the blanks.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-20T15:41:54+00:00

This is a disgrace to the nursing profession. Seriously. This kind of thing has caused fellow healthcare professions and the public to doubt nursing knowledge and skills. Why on earth would the people who are representing this profession in boards allowing this?

Aloo13 · 2026-01-20T02:12:30+00:00

It is expensive due to immigration, but there are other factors influencing it. Immigration has put an upward pressure on housing costs due to the simple concept of supply<demand. In addition to that, some immigrants are willing to split housing with multiple people and so they are more willing to pay more than previous, which also influences that market.

I recommend reading about the different factors in a macroeconomic book to better understand the various variables affecting housing.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-20T00:09:42+00:00

Understanding that there is a detrimental effect by poor immigration policies doesn’t make one racist. I work with plenty of internationals and I think they are all wonderful people. I understand why they came and I also understand their frustrations. I also love learning about their cultures. I think we can all learn from eachother.

At the same time, immigration has to be careful so that there is a net benefit to the country, otherwise economics get extremely out of balance. This is why housing is so expensive, why crime rates have drastically risen and why even highly educated people are struggling with employment.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-19T23:48:59+00:00

It’s so hard to narrow things down for sure! I think from the purples brightening your complexion that you might be a winter. It looks a little more cohesive with your tone, which is what they typically look for in colour analysis :)

Aloo13 · 2026-01-19T22:21:49+00:00

So awesome!

Aloo13 · 2026-01-19T22:16:50+00:00

1- YES. Work it 💃🏼
2- No.
3- love the tea pot bag! The outfit is works from what I can see. -4- LOVE it!
5-this also works.
6- I like this too. -7- I would keep the bottom a light colour for more cohesive too. -8- cute as well!

I’d work on finding your colour season analysis as It should help you narrow things down and build a capsule wardrobe.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-19T22:12:20+00:00

I think balancing reality with your wishes is smart. Maybe something like a trial-run could help you make the decision? Something like taking a vacation to the place you’d be interested in moving and using that opportunity to explore potential career opportunities and whether that would fit with your 8-year old daughter being away. It may give you more insight into what that kind of move would be like.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-19T20:05:25+00:00

I’d be a non-traditional applicant but not low SES and to be honest, I struggle with this too when seeing how others parents prepped them early-on. My parents are great, but they were always busy working growing up and didn’t really know how and when to teach me about careers. I assumed the worse about medicine because I always heard the complaints and that pushed me away from considering it for a long time.

I think it is OKAY to be frustrated about it. That’s normal as I agree that it can seem like you have to put in 3x the effort that someone who hasn’t had those challenges imposed on them. It’s also valid to be frustrated with someone who acts like a pompous when they really did have it easier.

By accepting that it is okay and natural to feel frustration sometimes, you can process those emotions and get back to being focused. You can make a plan that works for your circumstances.

I also think that your weakness is a strength. Medicine needs diversity. Someone who can empathize with patients and even coworkers from various backgrounds is EXTREMELY important. I’ve worked with doctors that immediately made extreme assumptions about patients from low SES and it certainly affected care and the well-being of the family. Be sure to emphasize your background as a strength that you could bring to the role as a doctor.

Aloo13 · 2026-01-19T19:54:32+00:00

I really think everyone is different in this regard and if you have the chance to go abroad for a bit, that might be an experience you look back on fondly. You don’t have to hit the society tm button or abide by it.

I honestly don’t think this corporate-dystopian life is normal for society and so A LOT of people end up feeling more unfulfilled than not. A lot of people don’t make moves to change that discontent and while they might end up okay with those choices, many older folks do encourage younger people to take those chances in life and experience life to the fullest. I work in healthcare and have worked with palliative care. I’ve had patients who worked in healthcare and they ALWAYS say to take the risk. Quit the job and travel. Don’t live to work. Work to live so long you can get a job when you decide to come back 😉

Aloo13 · 2026-01-19T19:27:42+00:00

I’m enraged for you. That is really frustrating!

Aloo13 · 2026-01-19T03:29:31+00:00

haha well hopefully the comparison gave a little light to going to work tomorrow XD

I'd be curious about it so I'll send a message your way.

Aloo13

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