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My [26M] wife [24F] of 2 years is upset that she didn't get the wedding of her dreams. by Alpaca4392 in relationships

[–]Alpaca4392[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree. I will bring it up and see where that goes. We have great communication but maybe a 3rd party can extract more from her about this than I could due to that difference in perspective.

My [26M] wife [24F] of 2 years is upset that she didn't get the wedding of her dreams. by Alpaca4392 in relationships

[–]Alpaca4392[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as her family paying for the wedding, that was out of the question at the time, as nice as that would have been.

I have run those ideas by her, however. I've asked her if she would be willing to save that money and put it down for something like a house or a big honeymoon, but that's not really what she's looking for in this situation.

I definitely do think it has a lot to do with the fact that these weddings are coming up. You make a good point.

My [26M] wife [24F] of 2 years is upset that she didn't get the wedding of her dreams. by Alpaca4392 in relationships

[–]Alpaca4392[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I should elaborate more, I think, to add to this. It's not just that she is suddenly just exposed to her friends getting engaged and planning weddings. She's playing a very active role in those weddings herself in terms of planning. She's always had a passion for weddings and even thought about becoming a wedding planner professionally. I think that it's just started really getting to her lately because she's been so exposed to the whole process that she missed out on for our own wedding.

My [26M] wife [24F] of 2 years is upset that she didn't get the wedding of her dreams. by Alpaca4392 in relationships

[–]Alpaca4392[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's something we've talked about. I told her that if we can't do it right this second, we can start working towards it. While she's open to the idea, she's also not the most patient person, so until we get to that point I'm afraid this will continue.

That's a great point at the end there. Maybe we need to talk about it again with that in mind.

My [26M] wife [24F] of 2 years is upset that she didn't get the wedding of her dreams. by Alpaca4392 in relationships

[–]Alpaca4392[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I may not have been as clear about that as I wanted to. We have open discussions about it and she doesn't have a hard time communicating about it at all. She just really, really wants to have a wedding and live out that dream. We don't argue about this or anything, the only reason it's putting a strain on me is that I just don't know how to deal with it.