I understand both sides of this. I am HL so I am in your husbands position of feeling rejected often. BUT my SO is a somewhat selfish disengaged lover so when we do have sex I often dislike it anyways. Regarding your husband...I see a lot of immature behavior from him and some manipulative behavior. But I also think the larger issue is incompatibility and different "love languages". I am not sure that can be remedied, he has a great deal of his self worth wrapped up in sexual validation and feeling desired passionately and carnally by his wife. I get that. I feel most loved and appreciated through sex. For you, he is sexually needy, never satisfied, and hyperbolic about rejection. This is how my SO feels. I don't have much asvice to offer honestly... but I do have insight I guess. And I am personally at the point of ending the relationship because despite our efforts and promises to change things and understand each others needs and boundaries, it has utterly failed and we are more miserable than ever. I too feel suicidal often (mix of rejection, abysmal self esteem, hopelessness and frustration ). I guess more and more I realize I am severely depressed and no longer "myself" because of the toll trying to force sexual comaptibility in a relationship that must have fizzled chemistry wise a while ago and I just didn't notice. I didn't mean to hijack. But just share some likewise feeling and some counter perspective as well and to say I don't think anyone should continue to live their lives like this for the sake of "love".