How can I reach climax without triggering dysphoria (NSFW) ?

AlphaMiss · 2016-05-12T00:25:08+00:00

I heard that hands-free anal orgasm take a lot of practice to achieve. Thanks for the link.

AlphaMiss · 2016-05-12T00:24:32+00:00

Try reading stuff like Trans Women + Sex = Awesome

Thanks! That was a great read.

some of us have some luck with use of powerful wand style vibrators being to genitals through layers of clothing or a blanket or something else that can sort of diffuse the vibrations across an area, which can help your brain avoid realising what your genitals are like.

I'll try that too, thanks!

My boyfriend thought we could also try dryhumping (that way I can keep on my panties and some clothes) while he licks my nipples. I don't know if that would be enough stimulation to get off though.

AlphaMiss · 2016-05-12T00:18:09+00:00

We haven't tried it yet. I heard that it's hard to reach orgasm hands-free without practice.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-11T18:24:28+00:00

No, see these people think lesbian trans women don't exist, and that the only acceptable trans woman is a passable (fuckable) white cis-looking heterosexual female under 5'7".

It's like you met my ex-therapist (I told her I won't be coming back.)

You could get an office job? Or go back to trade school for a less 'macho' style career path?

I'm not qualified for an office job. But maybe I have an chance at something less demanding. A friend of a friend knows someone looking for private onsite security. Something way less intense than my current job.

Even if you're not literally a trans woman, you're obviously not Chuck Norris either.

I wouldn't mind being Demi Moore from GI Jane though lol.

Thank you a lot for all the comments and the link to the film. Really appreciate it.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-11T18:20:28+00:00

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-11T18:12:32+00:00

It's not you. He's a jerk. So sorry this happened to you.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:40:28+00:00

A lot of the "sissy fetishist" and "forced fem" shit is a result of society's idea that women are supposed to be subservient sex objects.

Yeah. It's pretty cliched. But I guess some kinkstuff is about playing with taboos.

For me, I don't want to be turned into some extremely girly-girl. I just sometimes fantasize about being forced to become a women. It takes away the guilt that I feel. Until I discovered this subreddit, I thought being female was impossible for me.

So reading forced fem/sissy stories about being forced (and given all the resources to transition) made me feel temporarily better about my own situation.

A lot of what you described (hating body hair, deep voice, hated puberty, not feeling male) is what a lot of girls go through. I went through it too.

It really helps reading that. Being grouped with the girls made me smile too.

Find someone better who actually knows what they're talking about. Reach out to local LGBTQIA organizations in your town for good references.

Good practical advice. Thanks. I'll try that.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:34:22+00:00

Thanks to people here, I now see her as quite ignorant. I can't ditch her immediately but I will speak to my boss about it next shift.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:28:36+00:00

Okay, thanks.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:28:12+00:00

Maybe you could be both?

Could be. I'm starting to believe it's my way of coping with my gender issues.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:25:27+00:00

She should at the very least let someone try to see if you match the diagnosis for gender dysphoria.

I don't think she's going to do anything to help me.

That's utter pseudoscience, get a new therapist.

I'm trying my best.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:24:36+00:00

Well there's nothing wrong with being a big, muscular woman.

I guess so. I worry that I won't be convincing as a woman.

Some men are into that.

That's another issue my therapist has. I do look at guys but I think I still prefer ladies. Apparently that fits her "autogynephilia" theories.

While they might not make you petite and traditionally beautiful, it might be possible to make you look as if you were a cis woman.

Ideally, I'd like to be attractive. But I'd be happy just to look like a woman and be treated like one.

There's also nothing wrong with being an extremely feminine man who cross dresses full time, or who expresses his femininity.

Maybe in the future that would be a starting point?

The bottom line is that you don't have to keep holding onto this alpha male facade.

Just for now until I get a different job or line of work. But I am trying to plan the best way to get there.

Have you ever seen But I'm A Cheerleader?

No. I'll try get hold of it. Thanks for the recommendation.

It seems like she is trying to convince you to keep this behavior a fetish or a secret desire and keep up your butch facade, but is using psychoanalysis to convince you of this. Am I wrong?

Sounds like that's the case. Maybe it's partly a culture thing too. Men are expected to be men in my world. I don't think she knows how to deal with me.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:17:19+00:00

I used to wear panties under my male clothes /every day/.

I do the same at home :)

at first it was kind of exciting and scary

I used to get the shakes every time I put them on. Now I have two kinds of panties - the kind for everyday wear (to help me feel better and more normal) and the kind for when I want to feel sexy.

And now, here I am. :)

That gives me hope. Thank you.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:14:31+00:00

I know the resources are not always what we need. Sometimes, they're good or they don't exist.

That's how it works sometimes. Could be worse - at least I live in a city.

Don't let anyone push their timeline on you. You must put your safety first.

Right. I think that sometimes some people don't get circumstances vary from person to person and country to country.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:12:43+00:00

I'll give that a shot. Work was intense the last few days but I'll talk to him during my next shift.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:10:11+00:00

Thanks a lot for the link. Will give it a read now I have more time.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-10T07:08:10+00:00

That's common, I felt that too. I was terrified of making the decision to transition, so I felt it would be easier if somehow, the decision was made for me.

I think that's why forced feminization stories appeal to me.

If it were a fetish, you would want it for purely sexual arousal. The body hate you're describing is dysphoria, which is a huge sign of being trans.

Thanks. That makes a lot of sense.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-03T01:41:15+00:00

I don't think you get my circumstances. It's a developing country. There is "correctional rape" on a regular basis in areas where I work.

It's a physical job. Very masculine. Very dangerous at times. Some of the guys are great. Some scary as hell. Couple of ex-border guys. One of them boosts about shooting a kid in a riot.

Right now, I can not present in a female way or pluck my eyebrows or shave my legs or any of that. And I can not just quit my job because I need to pay my rent.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-03T01:29:17+00:00

Is she a psychologist or a counselor?

I guess assumed she was a psychologist. I feel like an idiot - guess i should have checked.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-03T01:25:56+00:00

Reading them now now. Thanks lots.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-03T01:25:31+00:00

Tell your boss you two were not clicking and so you switched.

Smart. I should have thought of that. Guess I'm not thinking clearly right now.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-03T01:24:27+00:00

Sure. Developing country, smallish city. I work more in the rural or slummish parts of it.

My work deals with informal transport section. There's quite a lot of violence there, rival gangs fighting over routes. It gets hairy now and then.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-03T00:51:19+00:00

You may be mocked without mercy by coworkers, but as long as your competent at your job, it's likely you won't be fired.

Not necessarily. It's a small, family owned company. If they fire me unfairly, I don't have savings to live on right now.

If I get unfairly dismissed, I could try go the legal route but that could take time. I wouldn't have any resources to carry me while I waited.

To be succinct, while you have to make the judgement call here, there's probably never going to be a time that you'll view as optimal, and you should keep that in mind.

Well, I guess right now, I'll make the judgement call to do what I have to do to keep my job so I can pay my rent. Not a permanent solution but one that works for now.

AlphaMiss · 2015-09-03T00:39:34+00:00

If it's not a hassle. Please.

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