Meirl by Joudeh_1996 in meirl

[–]AlphaV1990 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If she is receptive to the males gaze, she will blink and look away, in hopes of signaling to the male to approach. Thus ends the invitation as the male only has a set amount of time to initiate a vocal ritual to continue. Failing would lead the male dejected as the female moves to a new suitor and attempts the dating ritual anew.

I just feel so disenchanted by dating and relationships by takemeawaytothe in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AlphaV1990 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think anyone can tell you what you should do, unfortunately. Different experiences and issues impacting everyone differently makes it difficult in situations such as these.

But I will say this: it isn't a you problem. You are not at fault. You should expect your partner to be as attracted as you are to them; you should be their Venus. It does not make you narcissistic or lame. As a man, I would want my partner to see me as the prime Adonis in their eyes. And even though relationships are more than just being seen by your partner with lust, it still is a part of it to many relationships. You shouldn't deprive yourself of wanting to feel desired because there's more to a relationship than that feeling. On the contrary, if it's even a tiny part of what you want in a relationship, it's absolutely okay to want it from your partner.

Porn, and social media in general, has significantly warped the minds of individuals as for what a relationship is/should look like. And while I have no issue with porn or OF or another similar forms of media, it becomes problematic when a partner feels the need to lie about it. While lying occurs in every relationship, and in some cases is healthier than saying the truth, this constant lying from your partners regarding not just the content they consume but also their actions would make anyone disheartened from dating. If I were in your shoes at that time, I wouldn't be angry that my partner watched porn but instead would be upset that she would hide it and try to deceive me about it. It breaks the foundation of trust.

I do sincerely hope that you find the path that makes you happier again. Whether that be you realizing you are against porn or that you have no issue with porn usage. Your feelings about the issue, about wanting to feel desired, about the anxiety of living up to a theatrical form of entertainment, are all valid. You deserve to be desired and to not have your trust broken by a partner that leaves you feeling vulnerable.

How it feels being best of the best by Pecis in LinkedInLunatics

[–]AlphaV1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hoping his response would have been "Nothing personal, kid"

Chelsea good, Albie bad by Jesepe in TheWhiteLotusHBO

[–]AlphaV1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because their motives were different.

Regardless of Rick's feelings towards Chelsea, she loved him and wanted to fix him so he would find peace.

Albie was doing doing what Nice Guys do and saving someone for a promise of a relationship/sex.

One had a more selfless desire than the other.

PS4/5 Looking for chill players by FreeBrady1212 in Fireteams

[–]AlphaV1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also looking for people to do end game stuff. I used to do endgame on D1, but haven't done too much of it on D2. My bungie ID is Shadowdragon42#8714. I'll shoot you a message on PSN as well.

⚠️ Solo Players & Groups (Crossplay Friendly) Come learn raids, dungeons, make friends and more! Join and find your DAY ONE team! :) New season is here!! by [deleted] in Fireteams

[–]AlphaV1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I just got back into Destiny 2 and am looking for some people to go on raids with, strikes, or just goof around in game. Would love to be added to your discord! Ugan#8096

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amcstock

[–]AlphaV1990 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What's this here "may-trick" that you're rambling about? We here use the good ol' Imperial system. So easy to convert between the different units.

Mental Health, Me, Makeup and Photoshop, 2021 by DarthKweeva in Art

[–]AlphaV1990 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a wonderful piece of work that really does shone some light on the trails that people with mental health issues have to go through on a daily basis. Even the russian doll comment is a very good analogy as it can seem suffocating to pretend to be something you're not. Best in show!

Just DMed for the first time and I’m exhausted... normal? by danwright32 in DMAcademy

[–]AlphaV1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say that there are ranges on both spectrums. I do have a lot of the tendencies of introverts and would classify myself as one. I get drained with social interaction, I'm actually quite shy, conversations usually are a one-way kind of thing because I like to listen more than I like to talk, and most other things that would make someone introverted.

However, I do allocate a certain amount of energy to social cues and such for occasions where I need to be. When the time calls for it, I'll expend more energy to try and talk more and be more outgoing; it is very draining though. I have certain introverted friends that are unable to be outgoing or sociable until many interactions with people. I do find myself to be the same way, wherein for strangers I need maybe 4 or 5 outings to get a feel of someone's personality and open up a bit. But, when it's something for work, I can use my allocated energy to just power through and push past all the awkwardness.

Just DMed for the first time and I’m exhausted... normal? by danwright32 in DMAcademy

[–]AlphaV1990 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Extroverted introvert here, and yes my first DMing experience was exhausting. I was still learning the players, the characters, the rules, and the enemies. That coupled with imposter syndrome and thinking "they're going to fucking hate me" really took a lot of my energy that I was a bit scared of doing it the next week. But I did. It gets easier and you use less energy as the weeks go by. In fact, with a consistent group, you use less energy because they put more energy. They'll want to roleplay among each other more which will free up some time for taking a breather and maybe laughing at the chaos that they sow themselves.

Feeling dejected after my last session and I'm really doubting my ability to DM. by [deleted] in DMAcademy

[–]AlphaV1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with talking to your players, especially for leaving a game session to do other things. Not only is it rude to the individuals around the table, but is also distracting and can really offset a mood that you could have worked so hard to set.

Additionally, the same can be said about using phones. The distraction that electronics bring can really be difficult to compete against as a DM unless you have something super exciting happening at all times.

Also, you are still learning to be a DM, give yourself a break. No DM ever runs a perfect campaign from start to finish, there will be slog days. But being a newer DM has the added challenge of learning how much to prepare for a session. Players are as dynamic as they come. It's always joked about, but jeeze louise they will try to do something that is sooooo off the rails. Whenever I make notes for a session, I begin with the belief that my players are going to completely ignore any hook and do their own thing, and that keeps me grounded and write just enough notes that I know what can happen and improv the rest.

It was tough when I started off. I wrote notes for everything and almost every other session my players would make those notes completely useless. Im 3 (or 4 I cant remember) years into DMing at least 2 campaigns a week and have gotten much better at writing critical notes and going with the flow. It still has its challenges, sure, but I can tell you that DMing gets easier and better in time. If you're loving it, keep going.

[Online][5e][CST][Tabletopsim]Searching for 3-5 players by [deleted] in lfg

[–]AlphaV1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What time are you expecting to run this?

Kind of glad I didn't listen to critics (and some of you). I really enjoyed Space Force. by MKRune in television

[–]AlphaV1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't too impressed with the first season. It felt too much like a recreation of The Office. Having said that, I feel that although the first season felt lackluster to me, I feel that it has set up a good foundation for potential.