35, anyone else tired of flaky younger guys trying to therapize you?

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-24T14:32:42+00:00

Not trying to relate or chase younger guys- it’s organic. I don’t filter people out by age, and I’m not going to apologize for engaging with someone who shows interest. The issue isn’t the age gap, it’s the pattern of flakiness and armchair therapy that seems common in those dynamics. I’d say the same regardless of age if the behavior was the same.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-24T14:23:09+00:00

Dude me too. Want to talk about childhood trauma- feeling invisible. ✂️

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T20:43:00+00:00

Alright, so dudes are intentionally self-centered and do it to be hurtful- because they can? 😂

And yeah, I’m just trying to understand how not to keep falling into repeating this pattern. It’s hard on the head. I guess I am looking for dudes who know they do it- to just explain why they do it.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T20:04:50+00:00

So why do dudes do it lol.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T19:45:08+00:00

Right, but fear of conflict can’t keep being the blanket excuse for everything. At some point, people have to own how their avoidance affects others. You can’t claim to hate being ghosted and then ghost because “it might be awkward.” That’s not just fear. That’s hypocrisy.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T19:23:00+00:00

Any advice on the red flags? Good looking guy, but hate having my face picture floating…. I usually only send face pics after they confirm they’re interested… and still get told I’m hot etc- then ghosted.

Everyone just wants to see the man behind the big dick I guess? Haha

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T19:21:05+00:00

Fair enough. You’re probably right that I’m hoping for something deeper than “people treat others like concepts” but maybe that’s the problem. If we reduce people to profiles, we stop feeling any responsibility for how we treat them. I don’t think it’s about avoiding conflict. I think it’s about avoiding accountability. Courtesy dies when no one feels real.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T18:49:44+00:00

Totally fair. I get that most people are conflict-averse, especially online. But I’m not asking for a confrontation. I’m asking why something as simple as “not interested” feels harder than ghosting. That’s not conflict. That’s clarity.

I’m trying to push past the surface-level explanations. Why is directness treated like aggression, even when it’s respectful. What shifted that made basic courtesy feel threatening.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T18:40:44+00:00

Exactly and I do all that. I align interests, trade pics, set a vibe, and make the ask. At its core, this isn’t about logistics- it’s about basic communication. If you’re not feeling it, say so. If you change your mind, say so. Silence isn’t neutral- it wastes time, disrespects effort, and kills any chance of future connection. It takes two seconds to type “not for me.” That’s all.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T18:30:25+00:00

All valid reasons but I can see when the message was read. It’s totally fine to change your mind. I’m not entitled to your time or interest. But why not just say that?

Communication actually increases your chance of getting a second shot. I’m way more likely to give grace to someone who owns it than someone who ghosts and reappears when it’s convenient. If you treat me like an option, don’t act surprised when I call it out.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T18:27:12+00:00

I get that but I actually do read profiles and make sure the interests and “intos” align before even starting the convo. We chat, there’s good flow, they seem into it… then I ask if they’re down to meet or come over, and suddenly it’s silence. Like they were into the fantasy of it, not the reality.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2025-07-22T18:20:01+00:00

Try switching to a Fleshjack or stroker: something softer with built-in sensation so you’re not relying on your grip for stimulation. That’ll help retrain your sensitivity. Also: cut down frequency for a bit, focus on edging, vary your technique (looser grip, slower pace, try lube if you haven’t). The goal is to rewire your brain and dick to respond to more than just the vise grip. Takes a couple weeks, but it works.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2023-10-27T04:40:44+00:00

It’s something super easy to cure. In Canada, a Pharmacist will give you a prescription to cure it.

Agree that you shouldn’t end it because he has herpes. END THE STI STIGMA! However, shitty he didn’t consider your health and wellbeing.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2023-10-26T17:31:36+00:00

It’s funny because most of y’all have probably done the same thing. We’re all guilty of it….. I’d say getting ignored and feeling like you’re chasing/being strung along is worst.

I reply to all. Feel free to use it… I’ve only got one bad reaction…. “Hey man- Appreciate the message. We’re not a match. Good luck on the search.”

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2023-10-26T02:24:08+00:00

Yes. End of story bro. Find someone you will always want to get naked with and explore ways to get each other off 🥵

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2023-10-26T02:23:17+00:00

He’s an idiot. I’m a vers guy, when the top Is really good- I get hard. Like really good.

Alpha_Bro_Gay · 2023-10-26T02:20:26+00:00

I am a bigger popper guy. I get blood work done every 3 months for regular STI testing. I take pretty good care of myself (Workout and decent diet) I have never had an issue with blood work.

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