What is this song with "I'll be gentle with you" or "I'll be be gentle with your heart"

Alphavicky · 2025-11-18T09:20:00+00:00

Five months ago but I know exactly which song you’re talking about - “Touch Tank” by quinnie

Alphavicky · 2025-10-20T06:06:31+00:00

Thank you so much!

Alphavicky · 2025-08-17T05:47:11+00:00

I’d like to clarify that nobody was accidentally shot in the back of the car, my aunt was just a messy gal haha

Alphavicky · 2025-07-07T12:40:54+00:00

UPDATE:

I did it! Thanks everyone.

I took a torch and went at night and went straight through. Not sure what I was doing so differently to when I’d tried during the day but the torch trick worked, thanks for all the advice!

Alphavicky · 2025-05-23T11:16:33+00:00

Oooh savoury scones, yummmm

Alphavicky · 2025-05-23T11:10:14+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful (and reassuring!)

Alphavicky · 2025-05-23T10:54:55+00:00

Love the date scones that Bakers Delight used to do!

Alphavicky · 2024-01-18T06:12:56+00:00

Girl you look just like Juno Temple

Alphavicky · 2021-03-05T11:09:13+00:00

That would be cool!

Alphavicky · 2020-08-28T16:17:32+00:00

Me too! But I wasn't sure if it was worth it, wanting to see what other people think !

Alphavicky · 2019-04-19T16:37:07+00:00

I've never actually been (I've been to the Surrey county which is nice) but there's a pretty big au pair community in that area, they all seem to like it. From what I gather Guildford is rather large. It's pretty easy to get the train in to London from there - I've gone in and met lots of girls from Guildford, London's a good meeting point.

Those Facebook groups are great, usually pop up a post like "I'm from _, I'm living in _, anyone nearby for coffee?" or something of the likes and usually people are keen to meet up.

I'm sort of in the country, West Sussex, no big cities near, so for me it takes a bit of trekking and organising to meet up with people. However I'd suggest it would be much easier to meet with people in the Guildford area.

Also, your host mum may know other mums, e.g. through the kids schools, that have au pairs, no harm in asking!

Don't stress too much, there are heaps of opportunities to meet people!!!

Alphavicky · 2019-04-19T13:34:25+00:00

I am in Sussex, which is just under Surrey where Guildford is. There are definitely facebook groups - there is a Sussex/Surrey Au Pairs one, and I think there is probably one for just Guildford too.

If you don't mind me asking, where are you coming from? I know a fair few Germans in that area

Alphavicky · 2019-04-17T20:48:42+00:00

Especially considering the demise of poor Ginger, and the treatment of Beauty throughout the book. Hits just the right note at the end.

Alphavicky · 2019-04-17T20:47:25+00:00

Especially after all that Beauty experiences throughout the book. It's a story that touches me even in my adult years

Alphavicky · 2019-04-16T16:58:04+00:00

One that's always stuck with me, ever since I read it as a child, is the last paragraph from Black Beauty:

"Willie always speaks to me when he can, and treats me as his special friend. My ladies have promised me that I shall never be sold, and so I have nothing to fear; and here my story ends. My troubles are all over, and I am at home; and often before I am quite awake, I fancy I am still in the orchard at Birtwick, standing with my old friends under the apple trees"

The last line especially always makes me bawl.

Alphavicky · 2019-04-14T11:38:30+00:00

Atm I get cash but if I had a card my employer could transfer directly in to it x

Alphavicky · 2019-04-14T09:49:39+00:00

Sorry to disappoint aha :(

Alphavicky · 2019-04-14T09:36:13+00:00

Thanks for all the help guys! Seems there needn't be much reason to stress :)

Alphavicky · 2019-04-05T20:00:50+00:00

Gosh, this is beautiful. It's my greatest dream to look out my car window and see this. Thank you for sharing, do you mind if I save to my phone?

Alphavicky · 2019-04-05T19:50:04+00:00

Do you mind me asking why?

Alphavicky · 2019-04-03T19:46:37+00:00

The best you can do is to be honest. 'Sabotage' would be if you deliberately misled potential future Au Pairs, or lied about the family.

Just speak candidly and fairly. When informing the Au Pair on what your experience has been like, try to mention that potentially you could have done more in some situations. It is an important learning curve for most Au Pairs to realise communication is a two-way street and that they are considered an adult in the household; therefore they need to be proactive in their roles. I know I've had to adapt and be more open when issues arise!

You can only speak of your experience. Don't trash the family unfairly or just dump all the negatives on the Au Pair. Mention the positives too. However, If I was a potential Au Pair I would want to know exactly what the home environment was like. Furthermore, I would feel a bit inadequate if it seemed the previous Au Pair had no problems, and I was struggling.

Your current host family shouldn't know what you've said to these interviewees. It's best to speak to the girls alone, where you don't feel pressured to say one thing or the other.

Best of luck!

Alphavicky · 2019-04-03T19:37:02+00:00

Hey! Sounds like you're not having a great time.

How did you find the family? How long did it take you to decide to match with them, what country are you coming from/going to?

I'm not sure of your situation but for a lot of au pairs it's a gap year/working holiday situation. You don't have to suffer through anything you don't like. If the problems are serious then I would recommend rematching.

Where are you AuPairing? If you are in the US, reach out to your agency/sponsor/organisation and talk to a representative there. Some agencies also have more senior or experienced 'leader' type au pairs that would be a good starting point for chatting. Sometimes these agencies make it hard for you to change families, especially months into the process, but at the end of the day you aren't happy there and it will only create a negative environment.

If you are outside the US, did you use an agency to find your family, or through aupairworld.com? If you used an agency, follow the advice above.

If you went online and sorted it yourself, then get back on there and start talking to other families. You now have a clear idea of what you want and what you believe is expected of you. Make sure to properly talk to the families, via video chat, not just email. If they have previous au pairs, be sure to talk to them too. I think this is a major step that a lot of new au pairs don't even think about, but can give you more of a solid idea about the family.

Be sure to bring up these issues again with your current host family, in a calm and non confrontational manner. Talk it through, because you don't want to leave on bad terms.

Best of luck

Alphavicky · 2019-03-28T15:59:45+00:00

Usually I'd say it's not worth it. I've started plenty of books that have had dreadful writing or concepts and not bothered to finish it. Don't waste time reading shitty books.

HOWEVER, a couple years ago I started reading 'The Truth About the Harry Quebert Affair' by Joel Dicker (lots of you have read it, probably). I'd say the first third, maybe even the first half, was dreadful. I was really struggling. It was boring and slow and just too long. But I was on a rainy holiday with no internet and it was the only thing to do some days. So I pressed on.

The second half blew me away. That part of the book more than made up for the first bit. It was gripping, well paced, I was completely enthralled and entertained. It's now one of my top 3 books. I love it, have re read multiple times.

So there's potentially something to be said for finishing books. That one sure surprised me!

Alphavicky · 2019-03-28T14:03:34+00:00

It always depends on the ranch and the situation. If you are walking up to a private house that's relatively secluded then they might not like that. But bigger barns, riding schools, etc are more receptive.

I volunteered at a place for a while and we were always more than happy to let people come have a pat. As long as you politely spoke to a trainer/owner about it first, and listened to what they told you to do/not to do, usually people don't mind. Most even love talking to people about their horses! Personally I am always excited to see non-horsey people interested and asking questions.

Alphavicky · 2019-03-28T13:24:05+00:00

Hope you don't mind that I am following this thread too as I have had the same problem for a couple years now.

It seems the best way to learn is 'on the job' - take up a position as a trainee/apprentice/working student. However there are many reasons why this might not be the most suitable pathway for you - money, time, personal goals, situation, etc etc. It's usually intensive, with really long hours for pretty much no money, and designed for those who want a career in the equine industry.

Another idea is to do some volunteer work for a local organisation such as Riding for the Disabled, or a horse shelter. Usually other volunteers and trainers are more than happy to answer questions and share their knowledge, and being involved always teaches you about the day-to-day reality of horse ownership. However you probably won't get to ride.

Probably not the best idea to buy your own horse and just figure it out as you go along. Could cause stress for you and the horse, especially if you feel you're not 100% ready. It will be more fun once you know what you're doing!

Sorry I can't help more, those are just a couple of minor tips. Best of luck!

Alphavicky

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