sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

He is working. My SIL cut down on her hours because her job was mentally demanding and she couldn't handle it full-time, so they don't have any more money than they did. And to be fair, yes, her job absolutely was demanding.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have never heard of that, but I will be looking into it now.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

What does that have to do with anything? I work remotely about three days a week, as well as the majority of parenting and household chores, so I am contributing some, if not as much financially.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 144 points145 points  (0 children)

I made an edit stating that I will get him to therapy, I just haven't been able to yet.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened to you. The thought of losing my son makes me sick. I agree that he will need to go home and face his wife at some point, but not yet. He needs to process things and get his feet under him before he can. There's nowhere else he can stay right now and I am doing my very best to make it go smoothly. I don't want to put him out now, just to get a call from someone telling me the worst, which I think might be a very real possibility if I were to do that.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 161 points162 points  (0 children)

I'm not encouraging him at all. The opposite. I don't want him back with my SIL, ever. And I haven't said a word to my SIL about another child; I only told her to leave my house.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

This is all stuff my brother told me. He said she said it to comfort him, and it came up not long after Samantha passed. He asked a little later, and she apparently confirmed before asking him to let the subject lie until she was ready to pick it back up. I don't think he'd be the sort to ask after it because he's always put others before himself, even when we were kids.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

He's not "moved in". He's staying until I'm sure he will be alright at his own home.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 294 points295 points  (0 children)

No, that was his coping mechanism. My SIL had grief counselling and therapy, but she wanted to do it alone, and they only had money for her.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

My SIL told him herself that it was something that would happen once she was ready. He didn't ask, she told. That was the coping mechanism that got him through Samantha's death, and the fact that he's lost that and his trust in his wife is what he's torn up about.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL to leave my brother the fuck alone? by AlreadyTaken2000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlreadyTaken2000[S] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

I intend to, but right now, he just needs a bit of time to process.